Am i being unreasonable?

JimmyTheWig

Incidentally, was he with his ex when you two got together, or had they already split? How long had they been split for? Are they getting a divorce?

My concern is whether him going back to her is still a possibility.
How much do you trust him?

JimmyTheWig

stacy1 wrote: »

by the way i have just moved out of rent free accommodation where my only bill was my phone!!

Did you do this because he was living with you?
Did you do this by choice?
Did you do so knowing that he wasn't contributing?

stacy1_2

i done it cause i wanted, and still want, to live with him but i didnt realise that he wouldnt be paying his way or that i would end up in such debt, i just want him to get in the real world where everyone has to pay their own way including his him and his wife

stacy1_2

they have started divorce proceeding's but cos we dont have any spare money he cant afford a solicitor at the mo. they were still together when we met but not as man and wife (i know that to definately be true) just living in the same house hence she had a bf about 6 months later too, i know they would never get back togather

*Louise*

Stacy....I'm sorry to ask, but I honestly just can't get my head round this:

WHY did you take out a loan to pay off their debt?

And are you making the repayments?

Scarlett1

stacy1 wrote: »

he keeps saying that its an investment in our future as when they do eventually sell or she buy's him out we will have more money

Do you really believe that you will see any of that money ? you are his meal ticket and he will be long gone by then time, I think you need to start thinking of yourself and stop supporting him, he sounds a right sponger :mad:

stacy1_2

i got the loan because he cant get one and was scared of the baliffs coming round and taking his kids xmas presents also his wife was on the phone constantly screaming and shouting and his kids could hear everything, just thought it would be for the best

kaflinkle

stacy1 wrote: »

i got the loan because he cant get one and was scared of the baliffs coming round and taking his kids xmas presents also his wife was on the phone constantly screaming and shouting and his kids could hear everything, just thought it would be for the best

His children are his problem. Sorry to sound harsh but that's how it is.

How bad are his money issues if he can't get a loan and has the baliffs chasing him?

Do yourself a favour and get out of this relationship, but they do say love is blind.

Maz

Love, if you were my daughter, I'd be shaking you sooooo hard and your ears would be BLEEDING !!! This guy is a parasite, I'm gobsmacked that you have paid off debt that was his and his wife's!!! !!!!!!!!! And all these credit cards and loans that YOU have and are paying for - what's all that about???

If, as you say, you are in danger of going under financially and losing your jobs and house, he needs a sharp kick in the b******s and a huge reality check. Please stop being the one to carry the can. If he wants to take his kids on holiday abroad, tell him, fine, after you've paid me back what YOU and YOUR WIFE owe me. Get some legal advice. Sorry if this sounds a bit off but am truly outraged and stunned at how you've let this develop, without safeguarding yourself.

Smashing

Yes, something has to give.

Your bf an almighty kick up the arrse that is.

YOU are perpetuating the situation by bailing everyone out. YOU are allowing the current situation to continue by being so passive and blinded by something you call 'love.'

The sun does not shine out of his backside. Wake up, smell the bullshiit and get out of this sitation before you end up even more in debt.