help parnoid boyfriend

larmy16

Well done to the OP. I grew up in a walking on eggshells family, and I can tell you the feeling can haunt you forever. You never really relax, you find it hard to trust that people can be constant, and you find it hard to believe that trouble is not lurking around every corner.

This is the legacy your children will have, if you subject them to more of this uncertainty with good daddy/bad daddy.

If this man is worth your love and the love of your children, he will do everything in his power to stop the cocaine, and start to do the hard work of regaining yours and his children's love and trust.

If he does not, as other people said, you have your answer. He loves the drug more than you and the kids. Simple and black and white answer. Good luck. x

belfastgirl23

Good for you. Keep us posted.

Qingdao

Will he ever change? or should i just go now? he always says sorry and that he goning to stop off it he i dont think he can. is it me making him like this?
any help would be great.
Im even using a friends user id so he doesnt find this post


Apologies if this is repetitious of other posts, I've not read my way through them all. He may change, he may not, that is something only he can decide. Even if he takes responsibility for his actions he may not seek the help he needs and all the time your safety is at risk.

Making a decision to leave is not an easy one. I'd urge you to call Womens Aid. They are non judgemental and will not push you to make decisions you are not ready to make. It might be useful to have someone to talk through options with and someone you can trust to keep what you tell them confidential. They are really excellent I promise!

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