Depression Support Thread

Diamond78

Ccstar, why dont u go out for a bit. I know your not feeling well with the cold and that ut gettig out might help a bit. I knw when I am feeling ill the last thing I want to do is go out but even if its just for a coffee in a cafe helps me. I dont know what weather is like your end but here in ondon its on and off, one minute sun is out then gone. Hope u feel better real soon hun.When my family of what i have left gets to me which is all the time, i get so wound up and angry but now have decided not to let them get to me. i known its hard but ul get there hun.xx

Horasio

You are probably right but I am really really ill, too ill to get ready and been driven nuts with my OH disgraceful attitude and verbal abuse keeping me up till 6am. I was feeling ill before, so I have a bad sleep and a bad atmosphere in the house going on on top.

I feel too vulnerable to go out. I feel really paranoid and upsettable when I feel this way. My family are rotten to me when I feel ill which makes me feel a million times worse and puts my illness back a few steps. So in effect I am housebound when I feel this way which is why I never leave. When I feel OK, I can handle it, so I stay.

I would have to get clean to go out and within seconds of seeing my vile family as he lies in wait to irritate me wherever I go in the house, I would get all dirty and flustered.

I have had to endure this emotional and mental abuse for 27 years and because I show my upset and stand up for myself, I am labelled as being abusive and the bad guy.

The man is a wolf in sheep's clothing and I wish I had never met him.

LadyMorticia

*hugs* Ccstar.

xx

Diamond78

CCStar wrote: »

You are probably right but I am really really ill, too ill to get ready and been driven nuts with my OH disgraceful attitude and verbal abuse keeping me up till 6am. I was feeling ill before, so I have a bad sleep and a bad atmosphere in the house going on on top.

I feel too vulnerable to go out. I feel really paranoid and upsettable when I feel this way. My family are rotten to me when I feel ill which makes me feel a million times worse and puts my illness back a few steps. So in effect I am housebound when I feel this way which is why I never leave. When I feel OK, I can handle it, so I stay.

I would have to get clean to go out and within seconds of seeing my vile family as he lies in wait to irritate me wherever I go in the house, I would get all dirty and flustered.

I have had to endure this emotional and mental abuse for 27 years and because I show my upset and stand up for myself, I am labelled as being abusive and the bad guy.

The man is a wolf in sheep's clothing and I wish I had never met him.

Awww, I dont know what else to say. Im sorry your going through such a ndshard time. Your OH sounds like a bully, its not nice to be mentally abused as that will make you feel worse. I know what you mean about feeling even worse when out when not well. I suffer with paranoia, so I do know what its like. Its actually cold outside, so maybe its a good thing your home. Hugs xx

Horasio

Feeling a bit better now, had a small nip of whisky and a bite to eat but it hasn't been comfortable today.

I am concerned about how often I feel this way in my home and how often it happens when I feel tired. Our relationship can be so good but this issue really puts us back a long way.

I am going to have to make a decision soon - get a place for me or keep going with my OH. At least our son has a place lined up but my OH's attitude towards me when I feel really tired and in a low mood is disgraceful, whatever the trigger is.

I did not need to be kept awake all night on top of feeling really tired with his horribleness. It is enough to drive a person insane.

Horasio

Thank you for listening guys:)

Diamond78

Glad your feeling a bit better. Hugs x

alba37

Hi everyone :wave: hope you're all ok?

I've not been able to post, but have now system restored and it seems ok!

CCStar, your situation sounds terrible. I couldn't stay like that, but you are the only one who knows if it's worth leaving or not. It's never easy to walk out a home and relationship, but sometimes it's the only option to try and make things better for ourselves. Glad you are feeling a little better now.

(((Hugs)))

A x

Tiff_2

Hi ilgd!:hello:
Hey hun, I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you from this morning and I'll try and do as much as I can now to finish off properly.

ilgd wrote:

thompsons have sent last min letter wanting hard copies iof photos cos ones sent wont scan.theyare takin the complete urine in an effort to worm their way out of it.

I'm not surprised at their response hunnie. They will have wanted hard copies of your evidence anyway so in a way, it's probably best to get it out of the way now. I know it must feel like they're extracting the 'puss',:D, but it is fairly standard procedure and is bound to test your patience.
They will drag their feet following every rule in the book and remember that they will also be inundated by claims from other holidaymakers at this time of the year especially, so you're going to have to count to 10 a lot sweetie, which I know doesn't seem fair.
Here are a couple of links which may help hun - I know you're a clever bunnie and have probably looked all this up before...
http://www.howtocomplain.com/cgi-php/complain1.php3?MajorID=5&MinorID=13

http://www.gm.tv/index.cfm?articleid=18507

*Just a warning for everyone here guys - not all sites that offer advice/assistance in resolving holiday disputes are free, so make sure you read all the way through any that you might have found on the web.*

ilgd wrote:

im so stressed atm that am findin it hard to carry on and wonder why i bother when things will never change.
im so angry and bad tempered and hate myself so much.
thanks for listenin as you lot are the only ones i have.i am so fed up of tryin to cope and keep goin when it just keeps gettin worst.same carp, different day.its not a life ,just an existence and i dont know how much longer i can focus.
have to wait till mon to fone cccs and should be at mums on sats but have to stay here with devil dog.
i so hate my life and its me whose done it and made it like this.
have to go cos cant see for cryin.

You know as well as anyone hunnie, that this is what we do here.
So, let's put it into our little steps hun and prioritise a bit...

Hopefully, the Tiffy letter might hold off the mint company and may buy you some time. You've made a plan to address the financial issues. That's good, positive action. There's nothing more you can do about this now except worry and fret and get yourself worked up even more. So lots of deep breaths and try and put this to bed now until tomorrow at least - you've done all you can do for now angel.;)


As for the holiday situation, again hunnie, you've got plans for this and some resources to back you up from the links above, I hope. This is a long term situation so some breathing space might actually be a good thing, because you don't want to jeopardise your claim by missing out details. This doesn't mean you're letting go angel, but for Heaven's sake I know you're a fighter, but let's try and fight one battle at a time for the sake of your sanity and health, if nothing else.

As for the *w-a-g-g-y* thing situation angel, owning a spaniel is like having 2 sets of twins at the same time!:eek: Confession time here - the Tiffster has owned
*w-a-g-g-y* things herself and even a spaniel. They are extremely bright, curious and energetic. They can sometimes make great danes look like lap dogs. Of course your *w-a-g-g-y* thing is still a puppy, and I know you're well experienced with canines, so you'll know just how important training them is. But with breeds like spaniels - who were bred as working dogs - you have to start really young and their natural temperament may not change.
You will quite possibly often come home and find your laundry shepherded into the sitting room and your 'dead' cushions cornered in the bathroom. And spaniels love nothing more than a good tug-of-war as you try to reclaim your belongings. But they are devoted and adorable. You just have to be sure that you're up to giving such a *w-a-g-g-y* thing the amount of exercise that he'll need to stimulate him. Mine would pull me from one side of the street to the other! lol! It's not too late for a rethink over whether he's the right pup for your family, depending on who's going to be doing all the caring etc. What's best for him and you?

You have every right to feel the way you're feeling sweetheart. You've got a lot on your plate angel and you sound really run down. Nothing is ever all your fault, ilgd. What matters is that we get you through this as best as we can right now, sweetie.
Back to some basics for you hunnie, ok?;)

- You said yourself that you're really stressed out, so again, put aside anything that can't be changed tonight.
- Time for something light and tasty to eat, angel? Little and often if you can't face a big meal.
- Hot bath or shower with some smelly bits to ease out those tense muscles.
- Massage from OH?
- Lots of hot drinks and a seriously snuggable duvet and a night with the tv watching any old drivel.
- An early night, snuggled up with a good book or some soft music.

It's not about dismissing your problems, it's about making the best of what's left of today as you can. Tonight is about getting you through to tomorrow, about being kind to yourself sweetheart.
And tomorrow you can decide whether you think a visit to the dr may be a good idea, to see whether there's any extra support for you.

You're a wonderful soul ilgd and everyone is here for you. Your post had me in tears hunnie and you're so not alone.
I understand how you're feeling more than you can possibly imagine. Staying with you in my thoughts angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi katie!:hello:

katie wrote:

I got the right Key to the Smartie cupboard Tiff I worked that out as I tried each key that was hung on the wall until one worked

You sure about that hunnie?
Because just who do you think might have been on duty in the Thread Reception hanging all those keys up, katie-tulip? :whistle: :eek:
Heh-heh-heh!!!:D




Much Love,
Tiff xxx