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dellybelly_2

II_D2_II wrote: »

i have a question, i may of not read properly or just not of seen it,, but has the man actually done anything wrong at the moment?!
im not taking sides or anythign i just want to know a few things

Other than falling in love with someone else and expecting me to be OK about it, no, he's done nothing wrong.

Missy™

I wasn't around yesterday BEANIELOU so Happy (Belated) Birthday from me too! Nice to see all the colourful posts on here when someone has a birthday

RAPHAEL congratulations on your soon-to-be engagement! It's lovely to see you so happy and long may that continue!!!

Hope everyone is doing OK - or if not OK, then at least improving

II_D2_II

Other than falling in love with someone else and expecting me to be OK about it, no, he's done nothing wrong.

wo woo woooo woo wooooooooo,, wait there, is there paranoia here or is he genuinely inlove with another woman?!

bindiboo

around still. havent posted for 2 weeks now.............I hit a diet mindglitch and decided to wait til after my birthday, WHICH IS TODAY!!!! hooray...............I'm 38

and til after the kids go back to school which is next week.

SO restarting 4th September and hope to see you all soon.

Brighton_belle

II_D2_II wrote: »

wo woo woooo woo wooooooooo,, wait there, is there paranoia here or is he genuinely inlove with another woman?!

D2, I find it quite painful to read this post, knowing delly is going through hell for a very good factual reasons, so forgive me for replying on delly's behalf - yes, last week her husband told her he had fallen in love with another woman and had thought about leaving delly, and therefore abandnoning their young son as well. who was very distressed. This is fact, not fantasy, therefore no paranoia.
Sometimes very painfull things happen in life and amongst friends it is good and to beable to share that pain with people: it can help enormously to off load and then have the energy to face the tough situation in life. This is not anti men = I would be just as protective and loving toward any male friend who was going through this if his wife was 'playing elsewhere'. In a relationship, it's not just about whether someone has had sex with someone outside of the relationship or not, it is about trust & emotional faithfulness.
I know you are young, so I don't want this to come across as aggressive - that is definitely not my intention I promise, but it was so painful to read what you had suggested - don't forget, many of us have know delly for a long time now.

II_D2_II

Brighton_belle wrote: »

D2, I find it quite painful to read this post, knowing delly is going through hell for a very good factual reasons, so forgive me for replying on delly's behalf - yes, last week her husband told her he had fallen in love with another woman and had thought about leaving delly, and therefore abandnoning their young son as well. who was very distressed. This is fact, not fantasy, therefore no paranoia.
Sometimes very painfull things happen in life and amongst friends it is good and to beable to share that pain with people: it can help enormously to off load and then have the energy to face the tough situation in life. This is not anti men = I would be just as protective and loving toward any male friend who was going through this if his wife was 'playing elsewhere'. In a relationship, it's not just about whether someone has had sex with someone outside of the relationship or not, it is about trust & emotional faithfulness.
I know you are young, so I don't want this to come across as aggressive - that is definitely not my intention I promise, but it was so painful to read what you had suggested - don't forget, many of us have know delly for a long time now.

i would like to take the time out now to apologize... being the idiot i am i never read everything and didnt know the full story so to me it came across that she just didnt trust him.. but now seeing you explin this, i actually feel sorry for her(yes i have a heart) and i truely and sorry if i have offended anyone in this forum.

Brighton_belle

D2 - that was a lovely lovely post thank you. You are great. :beer:

x_raphael_xx

II_D2_II wrote: »

i would like to take the time out now to apologize... being the idiot i am i never read everything and didnt know the full story so to me it came across that she just didnt trust him.. but now seeing you explin this, i actually feel sorry for her(yes i have a heart) and i truely and sorry if i have offended anyone in this forum.

As you've already been 'told off' by BB and realised your mistake I'll just say that when I catch the jist of something I think I've missed, I read back a few pages to find the original post.

II_D2_II

x_raphael_xx wrote: »

As you've already been 'told off' by BB and realised your mistake I'll just say that when I catch the jist of something I think I've missed, I read back a few pages to find the original post.

i know i have learned from my mistakes,, im actually embarrassed, is there any way of me changing my name

grannynise

Delly if she's off to Australia surely the relationship, such as it is, will break up? It seems to me that you're handling everything well. I wouldn't be ashamed in the slightest of checking his phone, his email, his pockets ... you're doing this for your DS as well, remember. You're not being a pushover at all.

Vix -- if I'm dancing on a table it'll need to be re-inforced. I'm officially just getting fatter at the moment. Not even trying for a day one until term starts on Monday, although the amount of time I've spent in school it almost feels as if it's started already. And as far as your friend goes .. give him the benefit of the doubt and see how it goes from there. But if he doesn't seem to be the way he was when you were originally friends, forget him. I thought the remark about being bored with his former local friends now he's been off to university was rather immature. His reference to the history I think indicates that he sees you as a better friend than his other Cantebury ones were.

Bindiboo Happy birthday! 38, a mere child.

D2 - only one thing to do when you've made a mistake, apologise, and you've done that.