Debt & Depression - can anyone help???

So_Sad_Angel · 23 March 2008 at 10:33AM

As some will know I started this journey of facing up to everything last week. (thread- is freedom really out there) I have spoken to CCCS & have recvd papers now & the bleak realisation of being in deep sh*t is dawning ...`big style!!!`Last week was so positive as I also saw rental properties & got loads of great advice & reassurance here. You guys are the best!!

However today is another matter!! Very shaky ..have spent last hour just sat here bewildered. Usually mornings are better but just can`t stop the tears at the moment...Everyone has been so good but I just feel totally overwhelmed by the decisions that are facing me & OH. Feel like back at square one...I know that I have to do this but it feels so hard.

How do I keep focus? I`m all over the place Is this normal? Should I just accept that bad days will be really , really bad?

I`m sorry if I sound like I`m whinging but I really can`t cope..feel like I`m up & down at the moment.

Very, very Sad Angelxx

AmIdone4? · 23 March 2008 at 10:48AM

Firstly, you're not moaning or anything like it!:) And from personal experience it is perfectly normal to feel 'up and down' when making big changes and decisions / facing up to problems, I often believe it is the old part of you protesting at the 'stronger' part of you now taking control of you're life saying ..." Hey hold on, wheres my comfort zone gone, I'm not happy with this!". And I know how crap that can feel and how difficult it can be...

But, I think your doing tremendously, and as you've seen on here, there's plenty of support to help you along the way, so, NO you're not moaning!!:):):)

edit: your to you're!

FeelingLow · 23 March 2008 at 10:48AM

it is hard hun but we will all help & support you through this, !!{hugs}}

fiveyearplan · 23 March 2008 at 10:49AM

Its normal to have good days and bad days. You'll feel positive again, try to think of the positive things bankruptcy will give you.

philnicandamy · 23 March 2008 at 10:55AM

Agreed...trick is make the most of the good days..it WILL get easier with time keep posting here I found talking to people helped a ton you'll be back to your old self soon..promise

So_Sad_Angel · 23 March 2008 at 10:56AM

Hi thanks
I think that putting it on a post helped ..somehow.

Well put AmIDone4 - I had not thought of it like that but the uncertainty of change is something I have never faced b4 so all new to me.

Helps to hear other people have same experience & that not just me!

OH just brought me coffee so trying to calm down!

Angelx

dalip · 23 March 2008 at 10:58AM

Hey you are not alone. The times i felt like walking out the door and never comming back are many. My kids kept me going. If i had had no ties i am sure i would still not be here. I tried so hard to put on a brave front but manys the time somebody said something really stupid and totally unrelated which sent me off into floods of tears. There was many a time also when i just did not know which way to turn,but then i never had this forum then. You have all of us here and no matter how bad you feel just off load onto us and we will do our best to help ease your pain(it feels like a real physical pain at times)and help you through all the bad times. Take care.Dalip

tigerfeet2006 · 23 March 2008 at 10:58AM

((((((hugs)))))))

You have been doing really well. It's normal for you to feel down as well as up. You are making some tough decsions about things that will change your life forever. Albeit for the best but it is a lot of work to do. Anything that is worth anything is hard work and this is worth it in the end.

Maybe think of it as a job/work and if you get through it then you get a bonus. A new, debt free life.

Scarlett.1974 · 23 March 2008 at 10:59AM

Hi Angel,

Firstly, have an inadequate, but totally heartfelt, <<hug>>

What you're going through right now is a massive thing, make no mistake about that. You'd have to be made of stone for it not to effect you. When we first started on this road to BR I was a complete mess, an utter wreck. I didn't eat, I didn't sleep and I lost count of the number of times I broke down, sobbing uncontrollably on my poor husband. What you're feeling today is completely normal.

You will have good days and bad days. Maybe you need to accept that today is a bad day and just 'leave it' for today..... eat some easter eggs, watch crap telly, read a book, whatever you need to do

You didn't get into this situation overnight and it's not all going to be solved overnight either

Tomorrow is another day.

You've been very brave this week and you should feel proud of yourself for that. It's easy to just pootle along, head firmly buried in the sand.......... facing up to it and deciding "enough is enough now" is very difficult and you've done that this week. Be kind to yourself okay?

So_Sad_Angel · 23 March 2008 at 11:11AM

Glad I`m not alone...thankyou. OH & I are too sort garage out today...when we move I need to clear everything so this has upset me.

I am starting to think about the bills that are due begining of the month & the stress of how I pay them all!! I bet you`ve all had those feelings!!

I may take dogs out later & clear some cobwebs later.

Angelxx ps...lots of hugs back at you all!!

philnicandamy · 23 March 2008 at 11:13AM

GROUP HUG!!!!!!!!

Debt & Depression - can anyone help???

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