Does any have, or have had, au pairs?

missk_ensington · 26 February 2007 at 1:08AM

sarahlouise210 wrote:

3..I have never stood up when bathing my daughter!! I sit by the side and play with her!

Come on now you;re slutching at straws. Most people would run water, place child in it and at some point need to stand up, to get a towel or whatever. It's hardly practical to expect someone to crawl everywhere rather than have a helper!!

Zara33 · 26 February 2007 at 1:08AM

Ok i'm confused as h£ll just now you are stating that you can go to work and uni and go out at the weekends with your friends but you are not capable of looking after your child for three hours per day incase you blackout, you are unable to cook for your child and you are unable to bath your child but you can lead a normal lifestyle yourself.

I think your child is a hinderance to you, but then again if you didn't have your child you wouldn't be claiming so much more money!

Zara33 · 26 February 2007 at 1:09AM

missk_ensington wrote:

Come on now you;re slutching at straws.

It's obvious as to whose clutching at straws now

sarahlouise210 · 26 February 2007 at 1:11AM

missk_ensington wrote:

That is your opinion and I respect that. I have been diagnosed as having a racing heart rate and blackouts, it is the cause that hasn't been diagnosed.

Anyone CAN fake fainting, whats your point? It doesn't mean I am! Making mental note not to express an honest, taboo opinion in future.

If this concerns you such, feel free to explain what you feel doesn't add up. I have never claimed that I am ill all day long, other than blackouts I am a normal, healthy person capable of working and going to uni. DLA/Direct Payments know I work and go to uni, I am not hiding anything.

£100 pw tax credits - well you work it out I work 16 hours a week, I earn £9,000 a year and get DLA mid rate. Why doesnt that add up?

How I pay for my cruise is neither been disclosed, or for you to pontificate, fir all you know I could have put this on my credit cards.

I did not say the money did not add up ...in fact quite the opposite..it does all add up! - you say you have trouble with £50 disposable income - ...

I know what it is like to constantly lose consiousness, so I can sympathise and also know first hand what it feels like and the restrictions it puts on your life. I also work ..I also get DLA ...what I have not said (and would not) is that if my symptoms were to stop I would say they were still there...you HAVE said this in a previous post (but not being techie I dont know how to quote it) I dont care how you pay for your cruise etc...but you have said in OP ..you have little money and can only spend £45 on food for the three of you and cant afford your au pairs juice.

missk_ensington · 26 February 2007 at 1:13AM

Zara33 wrote:

Ok i'm confused as h£ll just now you are stating that you can go to work and uni and go out at the weekends with your friends but you are not capable of looking after your child for three hourd per day incase you blackout, you are unable to cook for your child and you are unable to bath your child but you can lead a normal lifestyle yourself.

I think your child is a hinderance to you, but then again if you didn't have your child you wouldn't be claiming so much more money!

The choice to have a child is my basic human right.

Let me explain. When you blackout, you dont know when it'll happen, it could be once a month or 6 times in a week. All the rest of the time when not collpased I am as fine and right as you are, hence work/going out. BUT because I have a child, social services simply cannot take the risk that I may be unconsckious for 10-15 minutes with a 3 year old running around, especially as there is a 50mph main road 3 footsteps from my front door.

Last July before I got any help, I blacked out one day (uni holidays and was at home) DS managed to put plug in bath, run bath, overflow bath and cause flood, with damages over £800 from water that had gushed through the ceiling onto furniture.

sarahlouise210 · 26 February 2007 at 1:14AM

missk_ensington wrote:

Come on now you;re slutching at straws. Most people would run water, place child in it and at some point need to stand up, to get a towel or whatever. It's hardly practical to expect someone to crawl everywhere rather than have a helper!!

You are such a laugh! Imagine that....all us Mums who have seizures...looking after our own kids....unimaginable! If you neded a helper that much then have one for specified hours...not 24/7.

missk_ensington · 26 February 2007 at 1:18AM

Just because there is seemingly a lot of moeny coming in, I also have a lot going out.

Fuel alone to uni 3 days a week 70 miles away and visiting family once a week 70 miles away, plus general car mileage shopping etc. I have to put in £60 a week just in Diesel.

Nursery £46 a week for 1 and a half days (to give Au pair a break)

Mortgage £450 a month.

Car insurance £70 a month. Tax/MOT/reapirs........

Gas/elec over £100 a month

Food approx £200 a month.

Train travel to work £7 a day x2 £14 a week.

Plus clothes, hair colour/cuts/blow dries, water, mobile, Sky, Broadband, credit card repayments.....

It all adds up! I'm not saying I'm skint, but there are many weeks when I dont have £50 a week disposable income on weeks when a few DD's have gone out at the same time!

Zara33 · 26 February 2007 at 1:18AM

The heart monitors are kept on for 4-5 days whilst I am at home. My hone has stairs.

I didn't need to run up and down the stairs because my heart genuinely races for no apparent reason, but I was worried that no symptoms would show up during the short time span I had the heart monitor, so I added a few fake ones just for good measure.

I dont have heart disease I have a condition where my heart rate increases for no reason at all, and sometimes causes black outs. This much is true, but there is NO MEDICAL EVIDENCE to prove so. At least nothing I couldn't have made up, and no one apart from me will ever know how much of it is true and how much of it is bollox.

It's not hard to fake fainting! If you do it on a busy shopping day its only a matter of time before someone phones an ambulance. Do it a couple of times a year and then you can legitimately write on your DLA form that you've been taken into hospital by ambulance 4 times in a year..... You can easily fake a racing heart, you are given the monitor in the privacy of your own home with a diary that goes something like....

Tue 23rd 22.46 Symptom- Palpitations, racing heart. Activity: Watching TV....

Not hard to manufacture! You could be having rampant sex and tell them you were sleeping! They aren't allowed to say you're a liar! There are many conditions to do with the heart/brain etc that causes blackouts and doctors dont know why they happen a friend at school used to faint all the time and no one knew why.

Its survival of the fittest as far as I'm concerned. I would never blatently lie about something, but I think we all add a bit of VAT if its the difference between getting £500 a month and not getting £500 a month

And I do have a child, I have a 3 y/o son.

This post perhaps

missk_ensington · 26 February 2007 at 1:19AM

sarahlouise210 wrote:

You are such a laugh! Imagine that....all us Mums who have seizures...looking after our own kids....unimaginable! If you neded a helper that much then have one for specified hours...not 24/7.

And I can guarantee that the blackouts will happen between those certain allocated hours, how exactly??

missk_ensington · 26 February 2007 at 1:21AM

I was illustrating how a person could fake symptoms to get DLA, there is a perfectly good reason why Lower Back Pain is the most common claim for DLA - because it is unproveable.

I ran down the stairs because the monitiors were only on 24 hours - not long enough to pick up useful data, since syptoms aren;t always present within a 24h period. I wasn't inventing symptoms, just speeding up the process "for good measure" so I didn't have to wait another 6 weeks and have another montior put on.... etc.

Does any have, or have had, au pairs?

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