Negative Paternity Test
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My husband has just discovered (DNA Test) that he is not the biological father of a 10 year old he has been supporting financially since birth (over £30k in CSA payments) and he visits us every fortnight.
We have been told this is a very complex case and we realise there are emotional and financial aspects to this news. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice would be appreciated.
We have been told this is a very complex case and we realise there are emotional and financial aspects to this news. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice would be appreciated.
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I would say from a moral and emotional position he IS the childs father and I assume you will still want to have contact (in the way say a step parent might still see a step child), however this may depend on your OH relationship with the mother. However as I understand it legally he could argue he is no longer responsible for paying maintenance, certainly I believe the CSA need to know and will stop taking payments from your OH. He may still want to contribute to the childs up bringing in a more informal way perhaps? What a tragic situation for all concerned. good luck, al x"Overthinking every little thing
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wow thats really terrible for you, your husband and the child concerned. i bet you are all going through hell can i just ask has he always doubted paternity and if not what made him have the test ten years on?
ive not been in this situation but my heart goes out to you.0 -
Oh my goodness, what a horrendous position to be in - you and your husband have my heartfelt sympathies.
I read something about a similar case, and I believe (don't quote me) but that the man in that case was refunded all payments he had made. Unfortunately it was too late to help him out of the difficult financial situation he was in.
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Was the test done privately and with a CSA recognised firm? Just asking because they may claim that the evidence cannot be accpeted.0
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hello, myself and partner have been in this situation if you wanna pm me?0
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I would say from a moral and emotional position he IS the childs father and I assume you will still want to have contact (in the way say a step parent might still see a step child), however this may depend on your OH relationship with the mother. However as I understand it legally he could argue he is no longer responsible for paying maintenance, certainly I believe the CSA need to know and will stop taking payments from your OH. He may still want to contribute to the childs up bringing in a more informal way perhaps? What a tragic situation for all concerned. good luck, al x
This is exactly how we feel right now. He does want to continue the contact and he is happy to continue contributing to the child's upbringing outside the CSA, however the big question mark is how the mother will react - this really does concern us.............. She has NO morals, the sheer fact we are in this mess I think is testament to that0 -
threesacrowd wrote: »can i just ask has he always doubted paternity and if not what made him have the test ten years on?
- Contact difficulties
- Hear your child call someone else dad and refer to them as their "special" dad everytime you see them (even though he is is stepdad)
- Difficulties with the child stealing money from us and this behaviour being condoned by the mother
- Being chased by the CSA for £6k arrears when he'd paid these monies directly to her (with evidence)
- Having no influence whatsoever on the child's upbringing
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kelloggs36 wrote: »Was the test done privately and with a CSA recognised firm? Just asking because they may claim that the evidence cannot be accpeted.
We were aware when the test was done that it would not be recognised by the CSA and understand that another test will need to be taken (including the mother). It was a peace of mind test ???????? and we were praying that the result would be positive.0 -
My husband has just discovered (DNA Test) that he is not the biological father of a 10 year old he has been supporting financially since birth (over £30k in CSA payments) and he visits us every fortnight.
We have been told this is a very complex case and we realise there are emotional and financial aspects to this news. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice would be appreciated.
I would want every penny back! With interest!0 -
We were aware when the test was done that it would not be recognised by the CSA and understand that another test will need to be taken (including the mother). It was a peace of mind test ???????? and we were praying that the result would be positive.
Okay so now you need to get another test done which is approved by the CSA and THEN you can get your money back.0
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