Leaving my Boyfriend

racer256 · 21 May 2009 at 8:30PM

Hi everyone, ok I have decided that this has to happen. I have checked with my bank about the joint account. I can put a block on it so neither of us can take money out. As far as I am concerned Scottish Law means he won't get my savings. I clarified with a work colleague who did the same thing and moved out except she had a mortgage with her ex.

I have collected important documents ie birth certificate/passport/car documents etc and put them in the safe at work. Have I missed anything?

Anymore of your fab suggestions?

BeenieCat · 21 May 2009 at 9:58PM

Yep, face the fear and do it anyway

You've obviously been planning this for a long time so good luck!

moiramber · 22 May 2009 at 8:04AM

I agree with previous poster! Just go ahead and do it! You'll feel better afterwards.

I used to live with an abusive partner for 3.5 years and wanted to leave him for most of that time but was too scared, in the end I finished work early came home packed my stuff and left without saying anything as I was too scared how he'd react! Best thing I ever did!!! Less than 2 and a half years later I'm living with the man of my dreams, engaged and we have a 4 month old baby. Things can change really fast so go for it! Good luck

Smiley82 · 22 May 2009 at 11:44AM

Second to all the above posters. Just do it.....and Good luck! I split with a partner of 5 1/2 years and then left to travel overseas. No big issues in our relationship as such, but we were heading in different directions and had fallen out of love. I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made, even though in the months leading up to it, I thought my life would be over if we weren't together.

You are strong enough to do this, and you've done the research to protect yourself financially.

Good Luck!

Pssst · 22 May 2009 at 12:47PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5--Sje98jI

roswell · 22 May 2009 at 1:10PM

racer256 wrote: »

Hi everyone, ok I have decided that this has to happen. I have checked with my bank about the joint account. I can put a block on it so neither of us can take money out. As far as I am concerned Scottish Law means he won't get my savings. I clarified with a work colleague who did the same thing and moved out except she had a mortgage with her ex.

I have collected important documents ie birth certificate/passport/car documents etc and put them in the safe at work. Have I missed anything?

Anymore of your fab suggestions?

If you can get hold of the reciepts for electrical purchases they are your property :-)

racer256 · 22 May 2009 at 7:47PM

Thank you so much everyone will update later (ps that song brought tears to my eyes) m x

robpw2 · 22 May 2009 at 7:48PM

racer256 wrote: »

Thank you so much everyone will update later (ps that song brought tears to my eyes) m x

racer you need to do what makes you happy

i would leave if it were me

Pssst · 23 May 2009 at 8:48PM

racer256 wrote: »

Thank you so much everyone will update later (ps that song brought tears to my eyes) m x

If you think thats weepy,try this one..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2cG7_jheC8A

The lyrics describe so perfectly the gradual dimming of a relationship and the most poignant lines for me are;

I learned how to laugh
And I learned how to cry
Well I learned how to love
even learned how to lie
So you'd think I could learn
How to tell you goodbye
You don't bring me flowers anymore

Because thats the bit we are so bad at doing.

Recognising when to say goodbye.

racer256 · 24 May 2009 at 11:12AM

Hi everyone, just a quick update. We broke up this morning but all details are still to be finalised. Thanks for all of your support. I really appreciate it. Will update later m x

Leaving my Boyfriend

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