Spent 4 years pretending it's all OK

Cherryfudge · 19 January 2019 at 7:27PM

Thanks for the update NOA, though I'm sorry to hear it's been such a 'winter of discontent'. The snowdrops are a real turning point though, aren't they? From now on spring is definitely on the way!

It does sound as though your careful provision in the past has been a help with financing the car in particular, and the part time work being temporarily part time has to be a tribute to your abilities too.

It's great that your DH has a new job starting soon. Is it the same sort of thing he's done before? I hope all goes well.

Igamogam · 19 January 2019 at 7:58PM

Well halooooo NOA

Long time no read. Good to hear from you.

RL throws us those curve balls every now and then....apparently it creates for a rich tapestry and all that. Hmmm I would settle for a simple cross stitch sometimes

No snowdrops here yet although have had a little clump of daffs flowering since New years Day!

Here is to an interesting 2019.........you are back, and that is what is important.

NoOneAround · 20 January 2019 at 10:51PM

Hello

A busy but productive day, but not productive enough as always. Back to work tomorrow, full week again, 38-40 hrs, this extended period of full time couldn't have come at a better time, things always do work out one way or another.

Cherry - Thank you for your kind words, I was asked to step in to help because they do know my abilities/work ethic/standards

and being a school environment it has helped them out a lot. but its obviously helping me too at a time of need so win-win. DH 's new job is in same field, just a different role at a different stage of the construction process - he knows a couple of the senior management - they have created a role for him, fingers crossed all goes well.

Igamogam - good to "see" you too

I would just love simple cross stitch........
Today's tapestry includes meltdown from DS who is just realising school days are almost over and big changes are coming - had a long very emotional conversation, he's sadly lost a good friend just before Christmas, and it's just beginning to hit him about the fragility of life. This is the first time he's really opened up about it.

Got to get ready for work now, best go.
Have a good week all,
NOA
xx

Cherryfudge · 21 January 2019 at 12:54AM

Those conversations are tough, aren't they.

Perhaps the meltdown was the best thing given the circumstances, though it's hard to see it happening.
You and your husband are both valued in your relative fields of work, it's plain to see.

I hope you have a positive and productive week coming up!

Puzzcat · 21 January 2019 at 10:50AM

Hi Noah,

Sounds like you have had some tricky times, I really hope that 2019 is kinder to you.

Much love.
Puzz. x

NoOneAround · 31 January 2019 at 11:26PM

Puzzcat wrote: »

Hi Noah,

Sounds like you have had some tricky times, I really hope that 2019 is kinder to you.

Much love.
Puzz. x

Cherryfudge wrote: »

Those conversations are tough, aren't they. Perhaps the meltdown was the best thing given the circumstances, though it's hard to see it happening.
You and your husband are both valued in your relative fields of work, it's plain to see.
I hope you have a positive and productive week coming up!

Thank you Cherry, Puzz

It's been a busy full on week, and doing accounts and tax returns for company/dh/me in the evenings - Just submitted mine - the last one.......and paid my dues. All savings and bank accounts will be pretty much down to zero within the next week. A couple of very tight weeks, might do the wasitline some good! before DH gets his first paycheck from new job since Nov. I don't get paid until end of month either.
Absolutely drained. Off to bed
Hope all well in MSE land.
NOA
xx

Cherryfudge · 31 January 2019 at 11:54PM

I hope it's not as tough as you're expecting, NOA. Well done on wading through the tax returns, though. I've never heard of anyone who didn't dread them, but now they are done and dusted and can't hang over you for a whole year.
Sleep well, you've earned it. x

brizzlegirl · 31 January 2019 at 11:57PM

Hello :wave:

Its SOOO good to see you're posting again, but what a rollercoaster. SO glad you're seeing the back of it all and glad that you are making people stand up on their own feet

Boo to RA getting worse though.

We are tighter than a tight thing here too. Reckon after the big bills go out tomorrow we will have £50 in the bank and that's assuming that no debits have been forgotten about. :eek: But its all in a good cause. I am so determined, NOA, to get rid of this millstone around my neck and saving and investing for our future.

Keep in touch xx

NoOneAround · 22 February 2019 at 10:07PM

Hello

Thank you Cherry and Brizzle- we seemed to be surviving -waist line not reduced at all unfortunately

Trouble is when I'm stressed I crave the wrong sort of food. I really have to pull myself together on the food front, it doesn't help anything, including health, at all to be lazy about it. Some clever juggling between accounts needed the last week or so, and I did forget about some payments but luckily got text from bank to say pay in by 2pm to avoid charges etc.

More news - I have a big decision to make - I have been offered the job I've been doing to help out since September :eek::mad::T:(
Not sure what I feel - and not sure what to do - have been mulling it over and over for last 10 days.
Term time only so lots of hols. BUT DS leaves school in July - and I don't need to be tied to term time any more! Cheap hols await if I don't take it but guaranteed income if I do - the SE work would need to wind down a bit. Not huge salary but I can do the job with one hand tied behind my back and blindfolded so no stress apart from the People sort. Don't know what to do, need to decide by Monday.
Was really looking forward to some freedom from routine after DS goes to uni in autumn, but maybe I might need something to keep me occupied (as if there isn't enough to do!).
Making decision is stressful

Hope you are all enjoying the lovely weather we've had this week, haven't really had much of a chance to get out.

NOA
x

Cherryfudge · 23 February 2019 at 12:01AM

Well, congratulations! It's always a compliment when someone who knows your work well wants to see more of you. For what it's worth, I have a few thoughts...
You obviously aren't saying 'Wow! I can't wait!' but neither do you seem to hate it. I suppose if you accept it needn't be forever.
Once DS is at Uni, you may need to fill that time as it seems very quiet once they aren't there all the time.
Steady income is good but if you're feeling overfaced now, do you really want to tie in to those hours?
What percentage of your income would this be? What if you didn't have that income?
I'm sure others will have thoughts that might be more insightful than mine!

Spent 4 years pretending it's all OK

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