Long Term Partner Becoming Personal Trainer (Jealousy etc)

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  • Gloomendoom
    Gloomendoom Posts: 16,550 Forumite
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    NoNoDrama wrote: »
    Your post rate is offensive. get out the house before giving others "advise".

    You can't give "advise" to anybody.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 34,688 Forumite
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    NoNoDrama wrote: »
    Your post rate is offensive. get out the house before giving others "advise".

    Don't you think your attitude that you should 'end it' because of your partner's job - without any proof of her infidelity - is childish?

    I have no idea what you mean by 'your post rate is offensive'.
    Is there a rule in MSE that limits the number of posts a member makes?
  • NeilCr
    NeilCr Posts: 4,430 Forumite
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    NoNoDrama wrote: »
    I'm not biting to bored hermits but it's quite common knowledge....granted the combo is usually male trainer > female.

    Of the multitude of google results here is a marriage forum discussing how rife it is...

    http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/28877-personal-trainers-affairs-2.html

    But of course it doesn't happen at the gyms people on here go to and they've already conveniently had that conversation with gym staff haha.

    Yep

    Cos most of us live in the real world and actually know and talk to people in these situations

    As opposed to frantically googling something to back up our assertions. But, then, if you are relying completely on everything you read online I can see why your partner may be looking for some "action" elsewhere
  • donnac2558
    donnac2558 Posts: 3,610 Forumite
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    OP you come across as petty, sad, mental age of 9 and boring

    I hope she dumps you ASAP!:T
    She can do so much better
  • JJM100200
    JJM100200 Posts: 9 Forumite
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    NoNoDrama wrote: »
    We have a good relationship and everything is still there....

    ....but! She is becoming obsessed with the gym and is now training to become a personal trainer.

    I don't want to lose her but I can't get my head around the intimacy of it all. Being called out x amounts a day to assist clients, some of which will be male undoubtedly.

    She is very driven and hell bent on making a career out of it. I've researched and it's a very seedy industry , I can't be in a relationship with somebody who is in this field.

    I've raised it with her but she just snaps and plays the don't you trust me card.

    I'm a pragmatist and just look at these things logically.

    My stomach is in knots thinking about it all the time. Can anyone see a way out of this other than me having to end it? :(


    says more about you than anything. I use a personal trainer and have mates who are personal trainers....there is f all seedy about it, no more so than the average office and what goes on day to day in all walks of life.

    This is a trust issue or a control issue, reading your post it appears to all be from you!! Sorry to be blunt.
  • Loz01
    Loz01 Posts: 1,848 Forumite
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    NoNoDrama wrote: »
    If her future career is more important than me I shouldn't be with her anyway.

    Says it all!!!! She's trying to make a change, get a job, qualify to be something and its hurting your manly ego it appears. Grow up mate.
  • Marvel1
    Marvel1 Posts: 7,172 Forumite
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    Affairs can happen no matter what profession.
  • emmatthews
    emmatthews Posts: 678 Forumite
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    I think you're better off ending it. Your stereotyping of an entire profession is just ridiculous. I'm sure some PT's have affairs just as I'm sure some police officers, teachers, bankers do. Doesn't mean they all do.

    If you seriously have such low opinion of your girlfriend and her ability not to start shagging someone else then I really think you should do her a favour and end it (or show her thread and she'll finish it instead).
  • decbel
    decbel Posts: 2,804 Forumite
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    emmatthews wrote: »
    I think you're better off ending it. Your stereotyping of an entire profession is just ridiculous. I'm sure some PT's have affairs just as I'm sure some police officers, teachers, bankers do. Doesn't mean they all do.

    If you seriously have such low opinion of your girlfriend and her ability not to start shagging someone else then I really think you should do her a favour and end it (or show her thread and she'll finish it instead).

    Yes.

    If she ever got to read this it would be over anyway.
  • Diary
    Diary Posts: 591 Forumite
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    For goodness sake and the sake of your girlfriend - finish it. Your attitude towards her will only get worse - much worse. She could be in real trouble if you're not careful with that attitude.
    Master Apothecary Faranell replied, “I assure you, overseer, the Royal Apothecary Society dearly wishes to make up for the tragic misguidance which ended so many lives. We will cause you no trouble. We seek only to continue our research in peace".
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