Long Term Partner Becoming Personal Trainer (Jealousy etc)

shiny76

annandale wrote: »

What exactly do you think people get up to in an open plan gym?

Squats and Lunges!

powerful_Rogue

Men like you are an embarrassment to our gender.

I will never understand why some men get so jealous and controlling over their partners.

FredG

Affairs can happen in any working environment, the strength of your relationship, your characters and the commitment of both parties dictates if an affair happens, not what profession you decide to go into.


Don't restrict your partner. She'll be gone quicker than a hiccup.

fairy_lights

I can completely understand where OP is coming from.
Personally I would have to end things with my OH if he ever became a gardener because it's a commonly know fact* that all gardeners end up having affairs with attractive housewives while their husbands are away on business.






*Source - Desperate Housewives.

Pollycat

fairy_lights wrote: »

I can completely understand where OP is coming from.
Personally I would have to end things with my OH if he ever became a gardener because it's a commonly know fact* that all gardeners end up having affairs with attractive housewives while their husbands are away on business.





*Source - Desperate Housewives.

You've been reading Lady Chatterly's Lover too much.

Seriously, it's very rare to have such a unanimous response to a post.
I hope the OP takes note of this and readjusts his opinion of his partner's new career.

UKTigerlily

I have a male PT & we train alone with nobody else in the building . . . guess what? He's never made a move on me & I haven't on him & would leave if he did. This has to be a troll surely? It takes two to have an affair, so basically, OP, you don't trust your partner. I think you need to end the relationship & let her find someone she deserves

motorguy

NoNoDrama wrote: »

Fair play to you. Just hope no one richer/better looking comes along

And you really think thats all it takes to break up a happy relationship?

Wow you really do have low self esteem. :eek:

leslieknope

i suggest you have a personal training session and let us know how you feel after. because if you're doing it right, you feel like you're going to die and you've covered in sweat. the last thing you'll want to do is get jiggy with the evil person who made you push yourself.

Robisere

I was once with a woman just as jealous as you are. I could not talk to or even look at another woman, without the green eyed monster coming between us. This was driving me mad, because at first she seemed perfect: beautiful, generous of spirit and would do anything for me, even to doing and giving me things I really did not want. Then came the 'orders' to give up my friends, some of whom were either married or living together and happy. I was accused of seeing the wives and partners and having so many 'affairs' that I would not have had time for work or anything else. All untrue, it was crazy. I left.

Eventually I met and have been married to a wonderful lady for almost 30 years. She does not have a jealous bone in her body, never takes it to heart when I talk to and have a harmless banter with another woman. Today, I was outside talking to my very attractive neighbour after cleaning out both our Green Waste wheelie bins, for which I received a nice peck on the cheek from said neighbour. When I came in, my wife asked in jest, if I was still planning to run off with the lady!

That's the type of situation you would not be able to understand. Leave this lady OP, you are probably making her unhappy.

She is fit, planning on getting fitter, also planning on building a new career for herself and moving on up with her life. You are probably not fit, don't intend to try getting fitter, and will remain stuck in what you call a !!!! job, because you lack the drive and ambition that your lady has in spades. Give her up, you are badly matched and you suffer in comparison.

phillw

leslieknope wrote: »

the last thing you'll want to do is get jiggy with the evil person who made you push yourself.

That isn't a very good argument. Firstly, some people are bound to be turned on by that experience. Secondly it assumes that the personal trainer is willing to have sex with any of their clients, if only the clients wanted to. Some personal trainers will, some won't. It depends on what is going on in their own heads & you can't ever know that.

The partners growth is not the problem, it's that the OP isn't on the same growth path. That needs to be worked on.

Jealousy will kill a relationship. Trust is the only way forward.

Robisere wrote: »

She is fit, planning on getting fitter, also planning on building a new career for herself and moving on up with her life. You are probably not fit, don't intend to try getting fitter, and will remain stuck in what you call a !!!! job, because you lack the drive and ambition that your lady has in spades. Give her up, you are badly matched and you suffer in comparison.

I think that is a bit harsh to suggest throwing in the towel, but yeah if she's found drive and ambition then the OP needs to find some of his own for his own sake. Then the jealousy will disappear.