Long Term Partner Becoming Personal Trainer (Jealousy etc)

annandale

You honestly don't know anything about personal training if you think that people at the end of a hard workout are going to be turned on and start shagging their Pt.

You have to be attracted to the person to want to sleep with them. It's got zero to do with the environment people meet in.

Some personal trainers will and some won't. It's a tiny percentage!

The number of personal trainers who end up in a relationship with their clients is miniscule.

It's not only a job. It's peoples reputation. It's a small industry and most people I know value their reputation. And the one person I know who did sleep with clients almost lost his job over it. Some personal trainers are employed in gyms and any gym worth its salt wouldn't be happy with someone boasting about sleeping with gym members.

Chappers27

Plumber: nope, because everyone knows plumbers do it with lonely housewives.

Window Cleaner: nope, because they catch women having a bath and one things leads to another.

Estate Agent: nope, because they want a quickie after valuing a house

Personal Trainer: nope because two people getting hot and heavy means they'll end up having sex.

Driving Instructor: nope, down a dark country lane etc.

Secretary: nope, "please take down my particulars"

Prison Guard: jeez, no way, they're all gagging for it.

!!!!!! Star: yeah, everyone knows they're just faking it. Go for the interview love!

ps. this IS sarcasm.

pearl123

Chappers27 wrote: »

Plumber: nope, because everyone knows plumbers do it with lonely housewives.

Window Cleaner: nope, because they catch women having a bath and one things leads to another.

Estate Agent: nope, because they want a quickie after valuing a house

Personal Trainer: nope because two people getting hot and heavy means they'll end up having sex.

Driving Instructor: nope, down a dark country lane etc.

Secretary: nope, "please take down my particulars"

Prison Guard: jeez, no way, they're all gagging for it.

!!!!!! Star: yeah, everyone knows they're just faking it. Go for the interview love!

ps. this IS sarcasm.

Don't forget barmaids on the pull.

pipkin71

NoNoDrama wrote: »

My career is !!!! as is her current one so I wouldn't mind one bit!

Perhaps this is really what the issue is?

Your girlfriend is doing something to better her prospects - are you worried that as her career takes off, it will then shine a light on yours?

pearl123

pipkin71 wrote: »

Perhaps this is really what the issue is?

Your girlfriend is doing something to better her prospects - are you worried that as her career takes off, it will then shine a light on yours?

Absolutely, she could earn very good money.

pipkin71

pearl123 wrote: »

Absolutely, she could earn very good money.

I also think, as well, that people fear change and that, subconsciously, that fear is projected as something else. Maybe in this instance it's an unhealthy fear the girlfriend would cheat but if the issue was scaled back, it's more than that.

ska_lover

OP you seem to have control issues. You talk like a little boy with his first girlfriend, rather than a grown man

Yes you should walk away. ..and work on growing a pair

BucksLady

NoNoDrama wrote: »

She is very driven and hell bent on making a career out of it. I've researched and it's a very seedy industry , I can't be in a relationship with somebody who is in this field

Surely, if you cared about your partner deeply, you would support her in any career she decided upon because her happiness would be important to you. To be honest I think your comments are quite selfish.

barbiedoll

powerful_Rogue wrote: »

Men like you are an embarrassment to our gender.

I will never understand why some men get so jealous and controlling over their partners.

When I was married to my ex-husband, I thought that this type of behaviour was normal.

Until we divorced and I met (and married) a perfectly normal man.

Not long after my (now) husband had moved in with me, I mentioned that I would be going out to a work do on a Saturday night, adding... "If that's ok?"

He said..."What are you asking me for, you don't need my permission, I'm not your dad haha!" (a standing joke between us, he's quite a bit older than me)

We always tell each other if we're going out, as a common courtesy, there's no question of "permission".

Sadly, it took me a long time to realise this.

System

barbiedoll wrote: »

When I was married to my ex-husband, I thought that this type of behaviour was normal.

Until we divorced and I met (and married) a perfectly normal man.

Not long after my (now) husband had moved in with me, I mentioned that I would be going out to a work do on a Saturday night, adding... "If that's ok?"

He said..."What are you asking me for, you don't need my permission, I'm not your dad haha!" (a standing joke between us, he's quite a bit older than me)

We always tell each other if we're going out, as a common courtesy, there's no question of "permission".

Sadly, it took me a long time to realise this.

You're not alone

I still find myself asking my bf's permission to go out or see people. At first he was a bit offended as he was worried i felt he was that kind of person, but he;s realised it because of a bad relationship where i did have to ask permission to do anything and usually got verbal abuse for asking. Takes a lot of time to snap out of that mentality If i ask now he tells me im being silly (in a jokey way) and to go have fun.