What do you do if you suspect your partner is cheating

Exodi wrote: »

Perhaps it would have been better placed to say 'mostly' then as I can't see the majority of people coming clean when asked, I mean in this thread alone the people (except you) with first hand experience of confronting their cheating spouse had them deny it and whilst I'm glad it worked for you, I can think of a plethora of reasons why starting by asking is a bad idea (of which I won't repeat).

Yes, maybe it would have been better to say 'mostly'...

Exodi wrote: »

It's also nice you haven't had to resort to techniques that make you a 'second-rate gumshoe' but I wonder what would have happened if the shoe was on the other foot and they'd said no but you were still suspicious (as is the case for the two posters below you)?

Nobody has any idea what would have happened if the shoe was on the other foot.
But I knew 100% that he was having an affair so the conversation would have continued if he'd denied it.
The point is the OP doesn't appear to know for sure that her husband is having an affair - unlike me and bugslett who dealt with that knowledge in the way that felt best to us.
Personally, I wouldn't have wasted money on a PI if I'd known 100%.

Exodi wrote: »

But we're comparing apples and oranges, I guess everyone's different and what may work for one person may not work for another. As you had said, and NeilCr has reiterated, having a non-accusatory conversation in the first instance seems like the best placed advice.

And that's why people's opinions and advice - although totally opposite - are valid.

I doubt the OP is coming back to update this thread.

The OP started the thread at the end of Feb with a one liner with minimal information and made one more post.

Pollycat wrote: »

I doubt the OP is coming back to update this thread.