ADVICE for my Son - AS I am moving away

Jenniefour · 22 September 2017 at 3:07PM

Would he be able to go with you and enroll in a college in your new area?

This Shelter link might be helpful:- https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/housing_benefit/housing_benefit_for_young_people

If you're expecting him to stay at college, assuming that's what he wants to do, he's almost certainly going to need some continued financial support from you. Might be an idea to work out now how much you can afford to contribute towards his ordinary living expenses, so you and he have a starting point to see if him living independently is even feasible.

Addition: didn't realise there was a relevant post elsewhere. Leaving this up anyway.

jayII · 22 September 2017 at 3:37PM

Unless he has a disability and can claim disability related benefits, he's unlikely to be entitled to anything, particularly as he will be a student.

If he is jobseeking (i.e. not in college or university) he might get JSA of just over £50 a week, but he's unlikely to be entitled to housing benefit, due to his age.

pmlindyloo · 22 September 2017 at 3:48PM

jayII wrote: »

Unless he has a disability and can claim disability related benefits, he's unlikely to be entitled to anything, particularly as he will be a student.

If he is jobseeking (i.e. not in college or university) he might get JSA of just over £50 a week, but he's unlikely to be entitled to housing benefit, due to his age.

This is misleading information.

There are exceptions about being entitled to HB and he may be eligible for income support if he is estranged from his parents.

However, in all likelihood he would have to claim UC as he is single and the rules for this are complicated. Benefits may be an option depending on the circumstances but he will need professional advice.

We do not know the OP's circumstances and they seem unwilling to share (possibly due to some rather judgemental posts) so it is not sensible to give detailed advice.

Cakeguts · 22 September 2017 at 4:00PM

pbsmiles wrote: »

Hello

I currently rent a property with my daughter who works (23) and my son who is at college (18).

In May next year I shall be moving in with my partner which means I will be moving area.

I am not concerned about my 23 year old but my son who will then be 19 will have to fend for himself.

Can anyone advise me on how to best approach this from finding him somewhere to live and how he can pay for it as I am expecting him to remain at college for the time being.

Many thanks
Concerned Mother.

:cool::eek:

Unless you give him the money he won't be able to pay for his accommodation. It is extremely difficult to get benefits to pay for accommodation even for disabled young people so if he is fit and well enough to look after himself he will need you to pay for it.

The best idea would be for him to move college and go to the one local to where you will be moving to so that he can live with you until he gets a job.

SingleSue · 22 September 2017 at 5:02PM

Is there a reason why he cannot move with you and attend college in the new area?

marliepanda · 22 September 2017 at 5:09PM

pmlindyloo wrote: »

This is misleading information.

There are exceptions about being entitled to HB and he may be eligible for income support if he is estranged from his parents.

However, in all likelihood he would have to claim UC as he is single and the rules for this are complicated. Benefits may be an option depending on the circumstances but he will need professional advice.

We do not know the OP's circumstances and they seem unwilling to share (possibly due to some rather judgemental posts) so it is not sensible to give detailed advice.

I appreciate you then began to say UC was most likely, but how can he claim to be estranged? Theyre clearly not, theyre off to have a good giggle with us and a good giggle about where on earth hes going to live.

Mum moving off to live with a new fella isnt estrangement. Its just shirking of responsibilities...

silvercar · 22 September 2017 at 6:09PM

pbsmiles wrote: »

Unfortunately my daughter won't consider it, that would be ideal but its never going to happen.

That's hardly surprising when it is your responsibility far more than hers. Why should she agree to house her brother when his own mother isn't prepared to do so?

Money_maker · 22 September 2017 at 6:23PM

SingleSue wrote: »

Is there a reason why he cannot move with you and attend college in the new area?

The boyfriend probably wouldn't like the idea. But it is a good idea.

elsien · 22 September 2017 at 6:23PM

kittie wrote: »

Poor boy, dumped by his mother, some mother you are op!! you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Selfish b***h

There are ways of saying things without resorting to abuse. This isn't one of them. Just unnecessary.

Aside from any personal relationships, which we don't know about, maybe sister doesn't want/can't afford the financial responsibility of renting a place for the two of them when there's a complete lack of clarity around how the son will be financially supported. OP, if there's no entitlement to benefits, which I suspect is what you're looking for, is the plan for you to support him financially? For him to work part time? A combination of the two?
I'm guessing he's also not keen to move away from friends to live with your boyfriend.

ScorpiondeRooftrouser · 22 September 2017 at 7:00PM

pbsmiles wrote: »

Unfortunately my daughter won't consider it, that would be ideal but its never going to happen.

Possibly she feels that if it's ok for parents to abandon 19 year olds to fend for themselves then there's absolutely no reason a 23 year old sibling should be saddled with the responsibility. This is probably something she's learned somewhere. No idea where that might have been.

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