ADVICE for my Son - AS I am moving away

pbsmiles

Marmaduke123 wrote: »

Does he have any income, such as a part time job?

At 19 I should think the best option is to lodge with a family - perhaps a friends family or one of your friends.

I should imagine you will need to pay his living expenses if he has no income, or just a very small one.

Are you really asking about possible benefits?

At the moment I am asking for advice, where do we start, how do we go about it, will he get support? I have worked everyday of my life and never claimed a penny, I have no idea how benefits work, I am just looking to get the best for my son in a changing situation.

pbsmiles

glasgowdan wrote: »

I'd be putting my kid first and delaying any move in with a boyfriend for a couple of years.

19 is on the young side to be tossed into shared flats if he isn't ready for it. It's doable, and he'd have a world of experiences and friends to gain. But if he did it out of choice rather than be forced it'd be so much better

He will not be tossed anywhere.

glasgowdan

I know...but he may feel pressured

Comms69

pbsmiles wrote: »

At the moment I am asking for advice, where do we start, how do we go about it, will he get support? I have worked everyday of my life and never claimed a penny, I have no idea how benefits work, I am just looking to get the best for my son in a changing situation.

Right -


Well why do you expect your son to claim then? I mean he wont be entitled to very much anyway, but why are you forcing that on him, when you yourself (foolishly or not) didn't claim a penny.


Why should I be paying for your son? Why don't you?


Not having a go, but you give no background at all. Not sure what advice you can expect.

pmlindyloo

Unless you have family/friends who are willing to home him then this might be better on the benefits forum.

We do not know your son so it is impossible for us to say whether he is able to cope on his own.

Unless there are reason why he cannot move with you and change college this might be the best option.

Otherwise you are going to need some expert advice about what benefits he may be able to claim.

I would pop into CAB for further help. HB for under 21s no longer exists except in some special circumstances so you would need to find out whether he fits into any of these categories. It is likely that he would also need to claim Universal Credit instead of Income Support (probably the only legacy benefit appropriate)

This is a complex area so go and get some information from CAB.

pbsmiles

Comms69 wrote: »

Well your circumstances are that you are leaving your son, who has little to no income, to fend for himself whilst you move away to be with your partner.


Your reasons are unknown, but your circumstances are quite clear.


The point stands, how is he supposed to pay for food, utilities, accommodation, travel? - Will you be funding him?


If not, will it be me paying for it?

Wow! I wished I never put this post on I am being condemned because everyone is assuming a lot out. Thanks guys. I will go elsewhere for advice, will show this forum to my son later, we can have a giggle together.

Comms69

pbsmiles wrote: »

Wow! I wished I never put this post on I am being condemned because everyone is assuming a lot out. Thanks guys. I will go elsewhere for advice, will show this forum to my son later, we can have a giggle together.

Who is condemning you? I'm summarising your post.


Why not just give more information?


e.g. any maintenance you get for your son, which he would now be entitled to.

fairy_lights

pbsmiles wrote: »

I will go elsewhere for advice, will show this forum to my son later, we can have a giggle together.

Poor kid, you're tossing him out and think it's something to laugh about.
You could have got a lot of good advice on here but have it your way.

xylophone

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/72452709#Comment_72452709

You may need to use some of the savings to assist him with rent/living expenses.

Will he be eligible for student finance?

marliepanda

pbsmiles wrote: »

Wow! I wished I never put this post on I am being condemned because everyone is assuming a lot out. Thanks guys. I will go elsewhere for advice, will show this forum to my son later, we can have a giggle together.

So, you're not concerned at all?


Thought as much