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ADVICE for my Son - AS I am moving away

pbsmiles
pbsmiles Posts: 102 Forumite
in House buying, renting & selling
Hello

I currently rent a property with my daughter who works (23) and my son who is at college (18).

In May next year I shall be moving in with my partner which means I will be moving area.

I am not concerned about my 23 year old but my son who will then be 19 will have to fend for himself.

Can anyone advise me on how to best approach this from finding him somewhere to live and how he can pay for it as I am expecting him to remain at college for the time being.

Many thanks
Concerned Mother.

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  • pelirocco
    pelirocco Posts: 8,275 Forumite
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    Not that concerened if you are expecting him to fend for his self , when he doesnt have the means to
    Vuja De - the feeling you'll be here later
  • pbsmiles
    pbsmiles Posts: 102 Forumite
    pelirocco wrote: »
    Not that concerened if you are expecting him to fend for his self , when he doesnt have the means to

    I was looking for advice, not an opinion. You know nothing of my circumstances so I suggest you keep your thoughts to yourself.
  • HampshireH
    HampshireH Posts: 5,001 Forumite
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    Can he and your daughter not share a rental place together?
  • pbsmiles
    pbsmiles Posts: 102 Forumite
    HampshireH wrote: »
    Can he and your daughter not share a rental place together?

    Unfortunately my daughter won't consider it, that would be ideal but its never going to happen.
  • aneary
    aneary Posts: 921 Forumite
    Look on spareroom.com he is probably best looking for shared accommodation as it is cheaper, however be warned I used to share for years and outside of university accommodation there are very few who will rent to a 19 year old.
  • marliepanda
    marliepanda Posts: 7,186 Forumite
    Do you have any family he can stay with, any friends? Does he have any friends parents he could stay with who are a bit more 'concerned' than you?
  • Marmaduke123
    Marmaduke123 Posts: 832 Forumite
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    Does he have any income, such as a part time job?

    At 19 I should think the best option is to lodge with a family - perhaps a friends family or one of your friends.

    I should imagine you will need to pay his living expenses if he has no income, or just a very small one.

    Are you really asking about possible benefits?
  • fairy_lights
    fairy_lights Posts: 9,220 Forumite
    Will he still be at college then? Is it college or University, and is he in receipt of any funding?
  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    pbsmiles wrote: »
    I was looking for advice, not an opinion. You know nothing of my circumstances so I suggest you keep your thoughts to yourself.



    Well your circumstances are that you are leaving your son, who has little to no income, to fend for himself whilst you move away to be with your partner.


    Your reasons are unknown, but your circumstances are quite clear.


    The point stands, how is he supposed to pay for food, utilities, accommodation, travel? - Will you be funding him?


    If not, will it be me paying for it?
  • glasgowdan
    glasgowdan Posts: 2,968 Forumite
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    I'd be putting my kid first and delaying any move in with a boyfriend for a couple of years.

    19 is on the young side to be tossed into shared flats if he isn't ready for it. It's doable, and he'd have a world of experiences and friends to gain. But if he did it out of choice rather than be forced it'd be so much better
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