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MSE News: Single mothers 'worst hit by cuts'
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kerrydrobertson wrote: »there is very little benefit to her getting one as the benefits would be cut, so not much incentive for her to get a job.
To say they will be worse off isnt very fair as they seem to have a pretty cosy life as it is just now.
See this is half the problem, you say there is no incentive as if the only incentive is financial. Short term gain long term pain......"You've been reading SOS when it's just your clock reading 5:05 "0 -
gadgetmind wrote: »Speaking as an employer of many, I wouldn't expect to see marital status or number of children on a CV, wouldn't think to ask for this information during an interview, and wouldn't be at all surprised if there were laws that would prevent me asking such questions. (But I might be wrong.)
yes there are laws but on the whole the opinion of mothers in general is still the same - the kids get ill etc its the mothers who need to take the time off to look after the kids.
in actual fact im much more hard working than alot of single, child-less people i know yet no one will give me the time of day as i have been out of work for a long period of time and i make no qualms of telling employers why i returned from abroad it was because of the end of my marriage and i came back to my family home. i dont want to lie to them.Countdown to Discharge Is On!
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If a benefit claimant chooses to be unemployed then he gets nothing.
If a housing claimant chooses to be homeless then he get no state housing.
If a woman chooses to be a single parent, she gets benefits, a house, free medical, schooling - and child maintenance.
In the EU, she gets nothing. She thinks twice before getting her knickers off. That does away with a need for a CSA and benefits complety.
Oh yes, I should have thought twice about sleeping with my husband without contraception which lead to the conception of 3 children within marriage. He's an educated, middle-class, should know better parent. But he doesn't. I need the CSA to chase him or I need legal aid to chase him through the courts. Either way, someone, somewhere, needs to make him pay for the children he wanted and was happy to have. His friends and family are happy to support him and his lifestyle (self employed money into their accounts rather than his) so our children go without.
And do not tell me that it's my fault that I had children with someone like that. He wasn't like that when I married him. He has changed beyond all recognition since meeting the 'other woman'.
Don't you dare tar all single parents with the same brush. Many of us are deeply ashamed at having to fall back on state handouts to get us through difficult times. But fall back I have. Make an attack on NRPs who fail to face their responsibilities. And in my ex's case, attack his father who was absent from his son's childhood - not hard to see where he got it from, is it? Hindsight....0 -
Do you find that single parents tend to take more time off then people without children?
How on earth would I know? I have no idea which of my employees are/aren't married and which do/don't have children. Some tell me in the general course of chit-chat, some don't. I certainly don't ask as it's none of my business.
I'll leap on *anyone* with excessive "sick" days per annum regardless. Most people I employ are in the 0-2 days per annum bracket. Anything above 5 attracts attention. Anything in double digits, unless it's a one-off serious illness, and it's time for a serious chat about their future as they're clearly not coming into work with a spring in their step (or indeed at all!) and maybe it's best for everyone if they move on. And yes, I do extend these standards to myself.
The levels of absenteeism in the public sector disgust me. How can an employee do this? How can their manager allow it?I am not a financial adviser and neither do I play one on television. I might occasionally give bad advice but at least it's free.
Like all religions, the Faith of the Invisible Pink Unicorns is based upon both logic and faith. We have faith that they are pink; we logically know that they are invisible because we can't see them.0 -
the kids get ill etc its the mothers who need to take the time off to look after the kids.
As long as it's just a couple of days a year, and as long as it's unpaid leave, why would an employer object? !!!! happens, people (even your best people) need time off at short notice, and if you want to retain people (we do: recruiting is hard, very hard!), you need to be flexible.I am not a financial adviser and neither do I play one on television. I might occasionally give bad advice but at least it's free.
Like all religions, the Faith of the Invisible Pink Unicorns is based upon both logic and faith. We have faith that they are pink; we logically know that they are invisible because we can't see them.0 -
gadgetmind wrote: »As long as it's just a couple of days a year, and as long as it's unpaid leave, why would an employer object? !!!! happens, people (even your best people) need time off at short notice, and if you want to retain people (we do: recruiting is hard, very hard!), you need to be flexible.
My missus is a manager in a care home and does seem to have problems with the single mothers they employ. There are rather a lot of last minute phone calls saying childcare has fallen through and will not be coming in for the shift. According to the HR dept, you cannot dismiss someone for unreliability if it to do with childcare. Can be a real headache.
Probably different in your business as care does tend to be a bit of a Cinderella sector and does not attract the most motivated people.0 -
Probably different in your business as care does tend to be a bit of a Cinderella sector and does not attract the most motivated people.
We do get people applying who aren't fiercely motivated; they don't get the job.
Your career needs to come front and centre, it needs to 100% occupy your work hours, and 25%-50% occupy your thoughts when not at work. If it doesn't, it's a job rather than a career; good luck: you're going to need it.I am not a financial adviser and neither do I play one on television. I might occasionally give bad advice but at least it's free.
Like all religions, the Faith of the Invisible Pink Unicorns is based upon both logic and faith. We have faith that they are pink; we logically know that they are invisible because we can't see them.0 -
Would be useful if the terms "single mother", "widow" and "divorcee" were used. Would save stigmatising many.
Why are all these children not being supported by their fathers?
I've said this several times before, we do people a great disservice by lumping them all in together as "lone parents",0 -
I am a single mum, my daughter is 6. I have been employed the last 3 1/2 years, just moved job aswel. Not the hours I was promised got to do 1 day at the weekend every week but thats life.
I live in a council flat, which I do get some help with rent, I pay £70 a week and £91 council tax a month. Other bills make it up to about £600 or so a month not including food.
This is using my income from my prev job as I only changed jobs two weeks ago.
My income:
Wages £150pw
Tax Credits £113pw
Child-benefit 20.30pw
Maintence £7.50pw
£290.80pw
I had left around £140 left a week to buy food etc. Normally around £60 a week, I also have two rabbits to feed aswell.
I dont think that is too bad tbh. I dont miss time with my girl, during the week I have started doing 9.30-3 so I can get her to and from school. And then 1 day at weekend. Only a 20 hour contract but I've done 30 hours this week. My last job was at Sainsburys doing 9.30-2.30 Mon-Fri, 25 hours a week.
My new job didnt know when I was starting and when I went in they sent me home and I didnt work for 3 days. I hated it, I found being at home REALLY boring. Not something I would do full-time.
I cant see how people can say they will lose out being on benefits because you dont, plus your being a good role model for your child/ren. I had my girl at 16, got my first job at 17. So you can judge me all you like. I'm doing the best for my daughter. I only get £30 a month from her father aswell, as stated in my income.0
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