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Do shoes come off at the door?
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BlondeHeadOn wrote: »I'm disabled, and can't walk without shoes on as they hold my splint. I have been made to feel very self-concious about this in some peoples' houses,
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Oh, I would share your embarassment at that sort of occasion. DH and I had our wedding reception in our home and I would never, ever have considered asking anyone to remove their footwear on entering - that would just be incredibly rude!lostinrates wrote: »I'd klike to further my stance on this. I went, about a year and a half ago to a formal dinner party with colleagues, and indeed seniors, of my DH held in someones home.
I put a great deal of effort into choosing clothes right for meeting his bosses and colleagues and that included the shoes. I purposely wore shoes with a broad heel, so as not to risk floor dents, and to match them to what I was wearing. I have NEVER been asked to remove shoes before at such an appointment, as was, frankly, a bit wrong footed by being asked to. And a bit embarrassed as I had not ''prepared my feet'' for the evening and I had yucky chipped nail polish on etc. Might sound silly, but I was very concious of it, though I hope no one else noticed. I was very relieves I had no athletes foot or verrucas! But I hope none of the other barelegged/thin tights women did. The only woman who was quite relaxed was the hostess. She had lovely silk slippers on, though.
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All shoes off once you're in my house. That goes for workmen, family, friends, neighbours, delivery people.
I have cream carpet almost everywhere, and I have more than enough to be doing without scrubbing dirt out of them.
No-one has ever had an issue with it.:A MSE's turbo-charged CurlyWurlyGirly:A
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That's horrible that you have been made to feel uncomfortable. I do prefer people to not wear shoes inside my home, but that is only extended to family and close friends. If I was opening my home to people who didn't already know my preference for no-shoes then it wouldn't even be mentioned.BlondeHeadOn wrote: »I'm disabled, and can't walk without shoes on as they hold my splint. I have been made to feel very self-concious about this in some peoples' houses, where they want guests to take off their shoes - I just can't, I will fall over! I actually find some people are quite rude when I say I can't take them off, which I find very offensive - it's not something I can help after all.
I can't remember this ever being an issue when I was younger, so it must be a more recent fad. Not one I like though, and I think it is not at all disabled-friendly.
We have light-coloured carpets, but it wouldn't ever occur to me to ask people to take their shoes off. We just clean the carpets regularly (a rug doctor works wonders), and don't stress about them otherwise.
As you say, a carpet can be easily cleaned, and I'd much rather be worried about meeting new people than about my carpet!
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When we arrived in the UK, the culture of taking one's shoes off was very foreign to us. In SA a lot of floors are tiled etc.
Well, we went to visit people and were asked to remove our shoes at the door.....I looked at them blankly as I had no idea of why I had to remove our shoes!! :rotfl:
Hubby was wearing old work socks which had a hole in!:eek: Well, we are now in the habit of wearing our 'good' clothes when we visit! 0 -
I'd like everyone to take their shoes off when they come in -and it should be an obvious one given my taste in carpets (pale) - but my parents would be the first ones to gripe about it if I asked them to:mad:. I've rather resigned myself to having to have a really big doormat and forget about it for the time being -even though my parents know very well just how much I hate any unnecessary housework. Time enough to tell everyone to take their shoes off in years to come ...Obviously - when I can enforce that rule without griping I will make an exception if someone physically needs to keep their footwear on for health reasons.
I always take a quick look and/or ask when I go in someone else's house to see whether they want me to take mine off or no - and I expect that most people WILL want me to.0 -
skintchick wrote: »I think it's rude to ask visitors to take their shoes off! WHat else are they supposed to wear?
OH and I don;t wear shows in the house, but I'd never ask visitors to remove them and if people ask me to in thier houses I'm pretty offended (and usually ask if I can keep them on).
I'll only take them off if people insist and I tend not to visit again if they do, as I think it is so rude.
Actually - if someone stated they intended to keep their shoes on (without a suitable medical reason to do so) after they had been asked to take them off - then I expect they wouldnt be asked back again anyway (even if they had phrased their intention in request format). Telling people one is going to keep on wearing one's outdoor footwear in a house where that isnt done shows a lack of respect and consideration for the host/ess. As the hostess - I would just make a mental note that it was just as well I had found out early on that the person concerned didnt have good manners and therefore wasnt going to "fit in" - as good manners are the norm amongst the people I know.0 -
I would never ask a guest to take their shoes off in my house, unless they were covered in mud, dog poo or something else unsavoury!
We take our shoes off when we come in, but thats mostly because I have 2 kids who couldn't keep out of mud or puddles if their lives depended on it.
We have a basket by the front door that outdoor shoes go into and the slippers/crocs or whatever stay in to change into.0 -
I've already asked the question about visitors with really pongy feet, but what would the sticklers for visitors removing shoes do, if a doctor, the police or paramedics had to come in? I'm just curious.0
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