Redsquirrel's 'Striving For Better Days' Diary

boredofbeingathome

I have a sneaky way of getting around council system forms...save to pen drive and re load it the next time, tehehe.

I like the idea, of a DFW, city.....sighs at bean harvest.
Is there any way you can turn up to help OH ? Or is that putting cat amongst the pigeons?

redsquirrel80

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

I have a sneaky way of getting around council system forms...save to pen drive and re load it the next time, tehehe.

I like the idea, of a DFW, city.....sighs at bean harvest.
Is there any way you can turn up to help OH ? Or is that putting cat amongst the pigeons?

More like putting a pigeon among cats! Nah much as I detest his ex, I do understand it'll be a difficult time all round and he still feels he has responsibilities and cares about people who are still his family/ his kids' family.

Off to work with a hangover after I decided the best way to deal with previously unknown emotion was to drown it in wine....

redsquirrel80

Just got this by email.. as usual I'm cynical.. but food for thought...

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It is ironic, perhaps, that words like 'lightness' and 'bliss' send a lot of people running, groaning or sneering. It is partly 21st Century cynicism no doubt, but also partly due to our addiction to the heavy.

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]In the modern age we carry around with us egos the size of cargo ships - laden to sinking with guilt, worries, negativity, self-doubting, self-obsessing, hypocrisy, fear and guilt. Not to mention the last episode of Big Brother or East Enders, a shopping list for the next three day's meals and a virtual map of your local shopping centre. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]But what would it be like if we were able to literally 'drop' our heavy load. In the same way as you may drop a heavy boulder if it was giving you pain to carry it. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Getting rid of the heaviness of the mind [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]In his best-selling book, The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle tells the story of how he awoke one night feeling miserable, loathsome and with the thought in his head 'I cannot live with myself any longer.' Then suddenly, he says "I became aware of what a peculiar thought it was. "Am I one or two? If I cannot live with myself, there must be two of me: the 'I' and the 'self' that 'I' cannot live with." "Maybe," I thought, "only one of them is real." [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]He then proceeded to have a profound spiritual experience where he completely lost the whole of his 'self' and spent years walking round in a state of bliss just marveling at the world around him. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Few of us will be lucky enough to kick the self to touch so rapidly, but how much happier would we all be if we can at the very least manage to lighten it a little. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]You are not your mind - it is out of control [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]The mind, says Eckhart Tolle is really a tool that we use but it has become so increasingly all-present and powerful that we have now got to the stage where we believe that we are it. We have come to associate with it so much that we actually believe that we are all that stuff going on inside the over-active machine gone mad which is our mind. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]The first step in lightening ourselves and freeing ourselves of the pain of the mind and ego is to realise that we can disconnect ourselves from it. Try to be more the 'I' that is observing and just being rather than the 'me' that's eating itself up with anger, resentment or anxiety. Observe the mind at work as if it was seperate from you, not as if it is you. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Whenever you can, focus on the present moment right now. The mind is forever thinking about the past or the present but when you are truly being and living as yourself you are strongly present in the NOW. In the world around you. In your physical being. In your spiritual presence. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Switch the mind off when it is not currently needed. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]In everything you do be lighter [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]In everything that you do, be lighter. Walk around with a lightness yet brightness of presence. Be a presence of light in a room rather than a brooding heaviness weighed down by stuff going on in your head. Allow heavy emotions and manic thoughts to evaporate into the air above you. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If your mind sounds like the dark engine room deep down in a huge steel ship, throw open the windows and expose it to the light around you. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If you are walking around thinking 'woe is me' or 'I am so depressed' try disconnecting yourself from that self you are observing and just be that person who is aware of that woe and heaviness in the 'me' that is actually just your mind grown out of control. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]When you find yourself brooding or over-worrying or lamenting, realise that the mind that is thinking is just a tool that is out of control and that you can switch it off. Reducing the size and activity of your mind will take some work but it will work if you try it. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Lighter in body, lighter in presence [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Be lighter in your thinking.[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Lighter in your mind.[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Act with lightness. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Think with lightness. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Be lighter in your being so that you are always ready to float on rather than being stuck or sluggish. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Be light in your decision making so that you can flit where necessary - but settle for as long as you are comfortable. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Feel lighter in body too and you will become that lighter being. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Perhaps to some extent we are even scared of the true lightness of our being - as we might be scared of a bright light or an angel appearing above us. But if you open your mind to the light you will be blessed by its presence. [/FONT]

boredofbeingathome

Getting in touch with your inner Id?
A lot of them say something similar about that niggling little voice, and letting go....I just think sometimes as human beings our brain needs distractions in order for us to function. It is like the soap phenomenon, by looking at their lives, and seeing how dysfunctional they are, then we can feel better about our own. It gives us something to talk about, ponder and realise, oh well, it's not so bad after all..then all carry on in our little way.

boredofbeingathome

Is the heaviness the hangover? hope that is better.......

redsquirrel80

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Is the heaviness the hangover? hope that is better.......

LOL yep my head feels heavy! Yeah feeling alright, just tired.

I think there's a good point in that email about not dwelling on things too much... think you're right about distractions, one of the reasons I'm trying to find myself more things to do. Have often wondered about counselling etc where you're encourage to 'get everything out' - think it can be good to do at times, but also that there's something in the theory that 'keeping (some) things in' can be a useful self defense mechanism. I also think that it's all part of life experiencing a range of emotions, both good and bad.. I like what Karma was saying the other day about recognising and experiencing them, rather than trying to change how you think.

And on the less deep side, good grief my workplace is full of wuckfits today! :rolleyes: :rotfl:

boredofbeingathome

I heard a good saying last week. Look at the past as an apprenticeship for the present. You are never going to be able to change it! so name it, claim it, then throw it away....now if ever that was turnip related:T ...............wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...lobbing it all away.:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :cool:

Lucy1982_2

Hi Guys

That's one of my big things at the moment. What is in the past can't be change, let all look to the future!!

pania

just caught up, you ok hon? you have my number and PM if you want to talk. xxx

pania

Hey squirrel!!! did you realise someone had put a photo of you last night on the net????