Hyper,naughty 6 year old boy,HELP

jess1974

Lokolo wrote: »

Why not?

I used to get smacked on the bum when I was being naughty and I have turned out just fine.

I recommend this method to. Its been used for years and years by many parents, why stop.

Because it does'nt actually teach him anything, and it was the word HARD that i really object to...that kind of advice is definately not helpful..

sparkle1_2

You poor thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am a mum of two My daughter was diagnosed as having Dyslexia and Dyspraxia and as soon as this was done a big weight was lifted off her shoulders and she completly changed. Unfortunatly not able to get diagnosis through school but got one through a university (although I had to pay it was worth every penny) My daughters reading age was and is above average but I knew something was just not right. Believe in yourself if you think something not right then something is wrong I get frustrated with proffessionals who are not living in a situation i understand that they have years of experience and training but sometimes you feel as if you are banging your head against a wall! Hugs Hugs and hugs sent to you X.

mummyyummy_2

Hi Crockpot u and me are going through the same but ive got it x 2. I bet like me uve already tried all the great advice given on here, and none of it works. U can give all the positive praise, offer all the rewards for good behaviour and speak to all the professionals you want but in the end the buck stops with you. Im the same. Will you PM me? id love to chat more one to one with you, sounds like we may be able to help each other xmyx

Sarahsaver

Sorry i didnt manage to get back here yesterday.
Try reading the book 'beyond toddlerdom' by Dr. christopher greene, he wrote toddler taming.
also a jar of nice things about your kids, one jar each, and every day sit down with them and get one thing out of the jar. A child psych. nurse gave me a list once but I am sure there must be something on the net.
it is so very hard when you are going through a bad patch to see the positive things but you must remember theres always a bit of positive somewhere.

fsdss

mummyyummy wrote: »

. I bet like me uve already tried all the great advice given on here, and none of it works. U can give all the positive praise, offer all the rewards for good behaviour and speak to all the professionals you want but in the end the buck stops with you. Im the same. xmyx

most of the time "things" do not work because they are being carried out half heartedly or incorrectly and without you realising it. the key to making changing behaviour work - is to look at your own behaviour first, and then analysing your actions and the reactions of the child.

Example:
jonny goes into the newsagents with you and asks for sweets- you decline- jonny drops to the floor and has a tantrum - you give in because it is embarrassing and buy jonny a sweet. jonny has learnt that in order to get his own way - he needs to have a trantrum particlary when in public.
turning this scenario around - had jonny not been given a sweet, and had a tantrum - you can bet your bottom dollar that it will not happen again.

there are key triggers usually in behaviour (like someone stated before hunger is one)