Hyper,naughty 6 year old boy,HELP

apples1

.......and tell him you love him and tell him he is a good boy. If he does something "naughty" tell him what he did was naughty and he knows better than that NOT that he is a "naughty boy". Label the behaviour not the child.

Start to use treats you would often give anyway as rewards. "Mummy is so pleased that you came out of school with a smile that I would like to give you XXX when we get home." This is easier than using them as a bribe too.

Finally use positive language e.g say " speak in your nice voice" rather than "don't shout" or "walk carefully" rather than "don't run" or "stay nicely tucked up in your bed" rather than "No getting up after I've shut the bedroom door". Say what you want to happen rather than telling him what not to do. Finally read him a bedtime story every night!

Just a few thoughts. Hope they help.

Psykicpup

Do let us know how it goes on - the behavoiur of both boys is likely to change as you get into the rhythm lol so we may have some other bright ideas lol
you managed to catch up on your sleep yet?
why not ask little one for a massage ' as you are tired' - it wont make you sleepy I promise lol but good together fun -edit just remembered having a really sleepy making 'massage' from my son when I was trying to distract him one time .... poss wait until you are NOT tired - he might be good at it lol

pinkpig08

Hi, I have a 5 year old and he sounds just the same as yours! I found this on the nspcc website. There are some leaflets giving advice and tips, they may help:
http://www.nspcc.org.uk/helpandadvice/publications/leaflets/parentingleaflets_wda38357.html?gclid=CKfhg7mj7pMCFQuZQwod6VyrzA

Jollygiantswife

Hi there, firstly I can completely relate to what you're talking about - i always said that if I'd had my DS first I wouldn't have had any more kids!!!

Have you thought about giving him eye-Q capsules? My son (who's almost 8) was exactly as you're describing - he is bright but he couldn't sit still, was loud, disruptive, argumentative and constantly fought his (older!) sister....

Last summer holidays I decided to start giving him eye-Q. Don't get me wrong, it's expensive for the first few weeks because you need to boost the stores of Omega-3 which means 6 capsules a day (they're about £8 for 30), but once that's done it's 2 capsules a day from then on.

I didn't mention it to anyone, and after about a month loads of people noticed the difference - especially at school. Don't get me wrong - he can still be a pain in the butt, he's still a typical boy but he's less aggressive and more open to discussion and compromise.

Hth!!

apples1

We give our daughter eye-q smooth (one little sachet of yogurt like stuff) each day. I have 100% belief that this is of benefit. We also buit up her reserves as per instructions but the maintenace dose is one per day. Buy them in Boots on 3 for 2. Not cheap but well worth it in our view.

pandora205

Hi - it sounds like you've taken some positive steps Crockpot. Well done.

The received wisdom is that 'it takes 21 days to change a behaviour' though we can't track down the origins of this, so keep on with it.

If you can't get to a parenting group there is a great book written by Carolyn Webster-Stratton, author of one of the most effective parent groups, which I highly recommend. It is full of sensible practical advice and is a good read.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Incredible-Years-Carolyn-Webster-Stratton/dp/1892222043

Have a look at the reviews - they say it all.

Good luck.. it isn't easy being a parent!

Carmina_Piranha_3

it's a shame there aren't parenting classes with childcare in another room

everything i was going to say has been covered. have you had parents evening at school yet this year? if your child isn't listening to the conversation perhaps you could ask the teacher what she thinks about dyslexia and/or ADHD. i did this last night, my son has started high school and all of a sudden he seems more 'different' than he used to. his SEN teacher said that even if the amount of help won't change it can still be useful to get a 'label' if the child seems aware that they are 'different'. is your son upset about his reading and writing?

omega 3 really does make a massive difference, it can even get rid of eczema.

if you go ahead with rewards or treats please don't do what a friend of mine does and leave the eldest out. if the eldest is not being naughty then he deserves a treat too

lastly have a big hug *HUG* sometimes being a parent is just so stressful!

Jollygiantswife

Oooh just had another thought......

Have you had his hearing checked recently? Sounds bizzare I know, but, again referring to my DS, I had always thought he had something wrong with his hearing but kept being told he had "selective hearing".

Anyway I eventually insisted on a hearing test (after waliking down a street with him one day and quietly saying "would you like me to buy you a Playstation game?" - and he didn't hear me!) and believe it or not he only had 30% hearing in one ear and needed grommets!

The staff at the hospital said that his "naughtiness" might just have been him not hearing (not, not listening!).

Ironically the grommets were put in just a few weeks after we started giving him Omega - 3 so we've never been entirely sure what has done the trick - I know his school work has vastly improved too so either way it's been a success!

Good luck!

Millie2008_2

erm, since when have school nurses been qualified to diagnose (or not) ADD? I was always *good* at school, yet I have ADD (I kept it all pent up in school, then acted out when I got home), so does not necessarily follow. I would pop along to your GP for a chat and maybe an assessment with an educational/child psychologist, this is nothing to worry about whatsoever and could save him the years of heartache and frustration I endured

Hugs to you all xx

MonkeySaving?

crockpot wrote: »

What do I do, apart from calling supernanny?

Smack his bottom, HARD.