Depression Support Thread

slowlyfading

alba37 wrote: »

Hi SF :wave: Was totally lost! Just found the new thread now! How's your day been?

Its been okay thanks, how about you? x

alba37

Hi SF, my day has been alright, thanks. My friend came up tonight and stayed most of the evening. It was good seeing her. But I got nothing done in the house again! Any plans for the weekend? The weather is supposed to be good here tomorrow, so might try and get some gardening done... the grass is so long now, it'll be a nightmare to cut!

Should really get to bed, I'm so tired, but can't be bothered moving!

slowlyfading

Just relaxing I guess - I've nothing to do now my exams are over, and uni doesn't finish for another 3 weeks I'm off to bed now, night xx

petunia100

Can I just ask if fellow suffers of depression experience people telling them to 'stop wallowing in self pity' and 'pull yourself together', or is it just me?

alba37

Hi petunia,

I think it's quite usual for people (normally those who have never experienced depression, but not always) to say things like that. I guess it's the same as everything in life, unless you experience something you don't really know what it's like. If it were so easy just to "pull yourself together" there would not be so many depression sufferers in the world, imho.

Night night SF, sleep well.

alhggyb

petunia100 wrote: »

Can I just ask if fellow suffers of depression experience people telling them to 'stop wallowing in self pity' and 'pull yourself together', or is it just me?

Luckily I haven't had that personal experiance, but I've heard the comment come from a lot of ill informed and ignorant people. They'd be a lot less opinionated if they had experiance of real depression.

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:

And here we are in Depression Thread Home No.7!:j Careful guys - the paint's not quite dry!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
How's us all doing this morning?

First things first, a huge Tiffy to petunia100 (pet) and to alhggyb (alh)! I hope you'll both find a warm welcome from the guardian angels here - pretty wonderful peeps. Just to reassure all our newer friends - yes, I do know that I'm not a cat!

And secondly...ROLL CALL!

Huge, moulting ''WE'RE OVER HERE!'' Tiffy hugs to...
sazzy(sazbo), ethel(ethelbloggs), gario(gario900), elona, bmf, gem(geminilady), ilgd(ilovegreatdanes), blinky, gilly, cb2, flis, karrie, rose, beer, miro, ltd(learnigtodrive), cat (cat9586), ltf(lipsthefish), lrs(letrobinsonsing), bunnie, goldie(importedgold), tank girl, zippy, pc (poppycracker), rbk, skintaz, pj(poppyjay), rain(rain-is-insane), judders, newlywed, cm(carolnmalky), katie(tulip), mac, jackie(the mad bird), fg(feelinggood), sf(slowly fading), qb(queenswayboy), ccstar, kellie, dawny, fantastico, han, queenie, sh(santashelper), juno, spikey, meyore, hayley, ifa, petri(petrichor), vicky, glad, andi, mum(mumoftwins), pinklady, stebiz, tooties, lisa-m, tao(tao81), westie(westclok), carpy, pink-b(pink butterlfly), skintc(skintcatt), rovers(roversbabe), lisa-d(lisa-derby), dd2(daisydoughnut2), lewt, hyder, maz(maz123), cham(chameleon), bbbb(bibbitybob), curly(curlywurlygirl), fd(feelingdown), sssssss, pumpkin, su(su4stu), hibees, impy, consp(conspirator), maisie(maisiemay), cif, di(dithedancer), child(child359), star, wfs(whitefeatherspirit), katp, bizzy(bizzybeks), pills, cnmm (conandmattsmum), bltn(betterlatethannever), charlene, vb(velocityboy), sp(smallpackages), gill, lisa-ew(elegantly wasted), welsh(welsh worrier), lass(loopy lass - I can't call you loopy angel!), chelly(chellysays), bobsa, shelby(shelby161), john roberts(john-r), juliav, antronella, steph, new cook, catsavingexpert(cse), shaz, lfh(looking for help), tdmmdi(the devil made me do it), gillh(gillianh2), wmf(weymuffred), lou(loublue), suki(suki1964), toothsmith, katyk, bay(bailey), ree(reehsetin), jen(jen.eng), specialk, li(limana68), shelley (fallen angel shelly), shawz, tom(tomstickland), horace, purplegirluk(purple), miss tbc(tbc), ecoelle, nicifer(nic), diamond78(diamond), grace, wo*f, weegie, gill07, big-board(bigb), moonrakermagpie(magpie), karen23(karen), deals, pug(pug-in-a-bed ), mumh(mumhug), nats3006(nats), tote alley stressed(tote), littleone83(lo83), piggeh, lexa34(lexa), iom(iom-rf), hooters, wanty(iwanttosave), hev, haribo(haribo-junkie), quasar, ws100(windowshopper-100), turkishd(turkishdelight), nopot(nopot2pin), week, littlemissmoney (missy), lady morticia(ladym), oompah, chocomum(choco), skollieal(skoll), truthseeker(truth), week, angellotz (lotz), beachbeth(beth), whitevanwoman(wvw), cat64, redruby(red), setmefree2(set), rainbow child(rainbow), marru, cazac71(caz), chr_is(chris), philnicandamy(phil), back2square1(back2), earth, ab, aknot, debbiemids72(debs), before hollywood (holly), lita, pricey147(pricey), jinky67(jinky), pipkin71(pip), benthosboy(martyn), ellerose(elle), skintchick(skinty), pandora, n71, quid-itch(itch), wannabe sybil(sybil), vmf199(vmf), ninnins(ninns), fairydawn(dawn), high-rise andrew(andrew), learner2001(learner), tangled memories(tangy), kman2001(kman), alleycat (alley), hazeyjewel(hazey), thinkginge(ginge), carmen, fedupnow (feddy), tibbie's mum(tibs), ceejayblue(cjb), drifter34 (drifter), brightonman123 (bm123), top-drawer(jen), maverick(mav), 10past6 (10), tattyrabbit(tattyr), shazza40(sh40), runwin(win), rizel, jayleighann(jay), moggycat(moggy), septemberblues(blues), tyler, night-owl(owl), alba37(alba), pinkprincess(suz), petunia100(pet), alhggyb(alh) - et al.

Sorry if I've left anyone out - shout out if I have. Getting an old Tiffster now - all this rushing around to new threads - you have no idea just how heavy catflaps are guys - not to mention the smartie cupboard!:silenced: (To our new friends - don't ask!) The smartie cupboard proved to be even heavier this time because I found katie-tulip had shut herself inside it, watching BB9!
Right, I'd better get on with some Tiffing then guys.
Be kind to yourself everyone.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

alba37

Morning! Hope everyone has a nice day today.

The sun is shining so I guess that's a good start. :cool:

Catch you all later.

A x

Tiff_2

Hi pet!:hello:
Welcome to the clan hun - thank you for posting.

pet wrote:

Can I just ask if fellow suffers of depression experience people telling them to 'stop wallowing in self pity' and 'pull yourself together', or is it just me?[/pet]

I'm afraid hunnie, that this is a very common response to people with mental ill health issues. Have you come across this yourself, pet?

It is upsetting to get that response because it wouldn't be said normally to someone with a visible or physical ailment. I think that mental ill health is one issue that is still stigmatised by people who have had no experience of it. And that can be down to just plain ignorance - people simply don't know what it's like or what a huge variety of mental ill health conditions there are. There's a big difference betweeen depression and just feeling sad or low.

I'm always tempted to give the response, ''You know - I hadn't thought of that. Tell me how please?''
If only it was that simple!
If it wasn't a range of real illnesses, there'd be no such thing as a psychiatrist or any other mental health professional. No-one would choose to have mental ill health - and we tend to leave it until the very last moment before seeking medical help, which can't be good for us.

Back to you hunnie, is there any particular area that you get this response in? Please feel free to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx