Depression Support Thread

septemberblues

Sorry, that sounds a bit strong to put on here, but I was feeling so positive yesterday, now I feel rubbish again.

Hope everyone else is ok and enjoying this glorious sunshine.

LadyMorticia

Alba - She was so lovely and really friendly.

September - Hun, we are all here to support eachother and if things are getting to you and you feel down or anything hun then please feel free to post how you are feeling. We may not always know what to say but we will always support you. [[hugs]]

xx

septemberblues

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Alba - She was so lovely and really friendly.

September - Hun, we are all here to support eachother and if things are getting to you and you feel down or anything hun then please feel free to post how you are feeling. We may not always know what to say but we will always support you. [[hugs]]

xx

Thanks LM, I think to find out my daughter wanted/tried to commit suicide has really knocked me. What if she had succeeded? I thought I was the suicidal one. Trouble is, depression doesn't only affect the sufferer, it affects other members of the family too.

LadyMorticia

septemberblues wrote: »

Thanks LM, I think to find out my daughter wanted/tried to commit suicide has really knocked me. What if she had succeeded? I thought I was the suicidal one. Trouble is, depression doesn't only affect the sufferer, it affects other members of the family too.

It's a hard situation to deal with. Thank goodness she didn't succeed but I know that the fact that she tried is also very hard.

I'm not any good at advice with this type of thing as I don't have any children but one of my friends has tried to commit suicide a few times and I've always told them that if they ever feel that way again to talk to me, no matter what time of day or night.
Do you know if she's only tried once?

xx

septemberblues

LM, I didn't ask, I was gobsmacked at what she said. When I am taken by surprise I tend to say nothing, when really I should have asked her questions. She is having counselling though, and the person she sees is very supportive. She has been seeing her for a couple of years. I feel really tearful today.........................

alba37

Oh God, I'm not surprised you've been knocked for six today SB. That's just terrible to find out. Thankfully she didn't succeed.

I think it would be for the best if you can avoid the visit in July. Think of anything you can as an excuse to avoid them coming to visit. I know it might be really hard, but if for some reason they had something to do with your daughters decision to contemplate suicide, this has to be stopped. Please think of a way.

Now you know about this, you can keep more of a watch on your daughter, and if pos get her to a doctor. Thinking of you.

A x

septemberblues

The person is her brother

alba37

Ok, I guessed it could be difficult, didn't expect it to be so difficult!

Can she be away the days he's out?

feelinggood_2

Sb - I'm sorry things are hard for you and your daughter. I wish there was something practical I could suggest, but without knowing the situation, its hard to know what to say. Like Alba suggested, could she be away whil he is visiting? Would it be possible for him to stay near by but not in your home? I'm really sorry about your Daughter, that must be incredibly hard for you. You mention she is having counselling, would something like family therapy or something help? I know this was offered when I first got diagnosed with depression - both my parents weren't very well at the time, and the GP offered to refer us to a family therapist/counsellor.

And thanks all for feedback about meds. I phoned Pysch and double checked, and I'll take them back tomorrow to get it sorted out. Didn't want to go back now because I'm friends with the dispenser at the Pharmacy and I didn't want to point out his mistake to him! I only worked in a Pharmacy for a couple of months, and it is clear to me, so I'm suprised they misread it.

alba37

septemberblues wrote: »

My daughter is 22, her brother is 10 years older. He is a schizophrenic who is violent when unmedicated, he has been in a pscychiatric hospital for several years, but is on the way to being released into the community. Not near us thank goodness.

TBH he terrorised her when she was younger (before being locked up and medicated) and he is a different person now, but now he is very needy of his family and I don't know how he would react to daughter if he finds out she won't see him. He was very, very dangerous before, and killed someone. Don't really want to upset him........................................

Crikey, this gets more complicated the more you tell us! Obviously like FG said we don't really know the situation, so my thoughts could be way off the mark.

If your son is much better and well medicated, I am presuming he could maybe handle his sister being away better than his sister feels seeing him. I wouldn't tell him she doesn't want to see him, (and keep that fact as quiet as pos) but have an excuse prepared, that she had to be away from home for some reason, when he's visiting. It is very very difficult and hopefully someone closer to you who knows the circumstances may be able to come up with some ideas worth considering.

This is a terrible situation for you, I hope this can be worked around somehow.

A x