Depression Support Thread

Stephb1986_2

Morning all!!

Alba you beat me for once!!! nice one! i must of been really tired i had a long day.

Welcome back WVW

Still got toothache i took a ibruprofen before bed and brushed my teeth even though it killed me to do it there was a hell of alot of blood

Hope everyone is ok and enjoying thursday its nearly the weekend and i'll be home soon yay!!!

Steph xx

absolutebounder

Chollita wrote: »

Mental health services really suck in the UK. It really needs a hell of a lot more money,

that is not really true.
How much does the patient pay? Do you get a bill for treatment other than prescription cost?
because of the system which allows doctors time to be taken up by people who shouldnt be there (coughs colds etc) there is pressure to move people on.
This means a lot of specialists see people that have been referred but really dont want to be there and this is what stuffs up the people who do. to get benefits in the Uk you have to play along with the system and that means attending appts but if someone doesnt want to be there they will not be able to help. This is actually soul destroying for the therapist.
Doctors often only get ten minutes with a patient. i dont know how long LMs appointment was but it is unlikely to be long enough. it is not solely about money as the NHS has had loads more money than a few yrs ago. It is about being able to treat people who are committed to getting better. Because of the nature of committment the private sector gets more of these patients because if someone really really wants the change they will make the financial commitment even if that means giving up things at home.
The NHS does a good job and is one of the best in the world but it has limitations like everything else. how many countries have free treatment available anywhere near the quality here.

alba37

Morning everyone! :wave:

Steph, how do your teeth look?

Hi AB, Re: the NHS. I've experienced the UK system and the Spanish system (also free, apart from a % of some prescription costs) No where is perfect, but I have had many distressing experiences here, and much less so in Spain. The one that is forefront in my mind was treatment of terminally ill cancer patients. We didn't touch the treatment, information, care and service in Spain (in my experience)

I don't think there can be a perfect system anywhere, but I do feel there is plenty room for improvement.

Hope everyone has a good day.

A x

Stephb1986_2

They look white luckily they haven't fallen out yet ha ha

How are you this morning hun?

Steph xx

alba37

I'm fine ta Steph.... you'll be home soon! :j I'm sure the sensitivity will go soon. It'll be worth it in the end! How long did it take and was it gel they used?

I'm off out for most of the day, gym first then to see a friend... although I'll no doubt be here in between!

Hope you have a good day!

A x x x

gillette147

Hi folkes,
At work and very tired. I couldn't get up on time and so was 30mins late in.
It took 2hrs to strim the back lawn when I got home lastnite....maybe that's why I'm bushed.
I have a big document I must have done by the 8th. But I can't make myself do it....too boring!

I found AB's post very interesting. I have spent my life adding to my wall. I am such a different (worse) person than even only 2yrs ago. I'm not sure I can let anyone in any more. My ego throws up walls and feigns disinterest to the point that I don't want to go out and I don't want to do anything.
The only people I want to be with are my sister and her kids and my mom. I am myself with them but I just can't be like that with anyone else. I don't know where my future lies as this seems to be a spiral.

And I just want to say.............
Some of you (most of you) have experienced real bad things. You deserve to allow yourself to believe that. People like LM (x) have had in a totally objective way a horrible life and should in no way feel guilty or belittle what they have gone through. Your reactions to stuff now is normal and you are normal for feeling like that. It's not self pity or wallowing in it.
End of sermon xxx

This is the wallow thread anyway. Our emblem is the hippo.
Take care of yourselves
xxx

KentishLady

How are we all today?

Sun is shining in Kent and we have a beautiful blue sky without a cloud in sight. I should go for a run today but I suspect we will end up snoozing on the beach again.

GP's appointmment went OK. I mentioned to her about returning to work and she looked at me as though I was off my trolley. lol. She then asked me if the anti-d had been fully explained to me, and did I know how long I would need to take them for etc etc. I think she thought I thought that because I was beginning to feel better I could stop taking them ( I know that isnt the case - but I also know i do HAVE to go back to work at some point and I need to start preparing myself and get used to the thought of it - I ruminate on things for ages before I am ready to go and do them). Anyway upshot is she has now signed me off for the next 3 weeks which takes me up until my next weeks leave. She was obviously worried I would try to go back before my leave and has nicely scuppered that idea .

I am relieved to be honest. Had a nice afternoon with my mum, called work and had a chat with one of my friends who said everyone is missing me and worried about me which is nice. She is looking after my desk and said everything is just where I left it (I hoped she cleaned my mug tho otherwise I will have a whole load of mould to deal with when I get back:eek: ). At least my photos of Big Cat are still there so I am relieved about that - I would have been gutted if I had lost them as I am still grieving for him nearly 4 years on from losing him (I know this sounds mad but he was my soul cat and my best friend - he helped me through the worst with my husband and I wouldnt have got through it without his snuggles and purrs at night, and his cleaning my face before we fell asleep). I miss him so much.

Moving on swiflty as the tears have started.

KentishLady

LadyM hope you are feeling a little more positive this morning. UK Mental Health Service suck. They are underfunded and most definitely the poor relation of healthcare. Not that this excuses the way you have been treated. In my experience, they only have the resources to fire-fight the most severe and vulnerable cases where people are at immediate risk of harm or at immediate risk of causing harm to someone else (i.e. sectionable). Those of us who have an understanding of our conditions and are able to articulate how we are feeling (or who have carers who can do this for us) are most at risk of falling through the net because they dont fall into the immediate risk category.

You have taken the first most important step in identifying that you need help and that was a really brave thing to do. Keep fighting for what you know you need - persistance does pay off and try to believe that you are a wonderful, beautiful person who deserves to be supported and treated with respect by those medical people. I haven't known you for very long (and only through this message board so obviously this is just snapshots of you) so I don't know all you have been through. But from what I've seen you are stronger maybe than you think you are so I am sure you can get through this with the help of your friends.

KentishLady

:hello: hello to razorbladekisses

:wave: and welcome to steph123

Stephb1986 hope the teeth are feeling better today. Bet they look good!

Tulip, Shaz, meyore, FG, slowlyfading, gilly, alba and Tiff (plus anyone else I've forgotten) hope the sun shines for you all today & you have a trouble-free day.

And thank you all for having me here - it is really helping (and it keeps my mum off my back - she was muchly relieved when I told her about this place).

KL.

Tulip

:hello: KL,

Hope you are well,Hope you also have a trouble free day its lovely and sunny here as well where I am in Devon going to my parents for lunch today as well,got to get the bus at 12pm


love and light,

Katie xxx