MIL and Money Troubles...

Krystaltips

Ok, my MIL2B has had a bit of a foot stamping moment about things we've arranged that she doesn't agree with and we've said we're not changing them... She called up today to say she's not coming, and also she's not paying... Which could pose a problem to us...

When we decided to get married she said she would pay for the wedding breakfast, then she changed her mind... repeatedly... and in the end made a payment to the hotel on her partner's credit card...

Will she be able to get that money back from the hotel now she's paid it? It's not part of a deposit or anything, just part payment towards a whole amount... We're a bit up and down finance wise at the moment, we might just scrape it without her contribution and my mom has offered to lend us her credit card to cover any shortfall but I really don't want to be worrying about money right before the wedding or paying off a credit card debt right after.... In an ideal world we'd be able to just give her the money back and tell her where to go... but this isn't an ideal world!

meyore

Goodness, poor you I doubt the hotel itself will give the money back because they're usually a bit funny about these things, but you could ask nicely and see. You're going to have to pay for it one way or the other though, so can you not just take up your mums offer if needed, but try your best to pay it off beforehand?

Hope you can get it sorted, she sounds like a dragon

nannis

Oh im sorry to hear that your MIL is being difficult, It's the last thing you need so close to the wedding...
Maybe phone the hotel and explain the situation? They may give a refund, If not is there anyway that you could pay her the money back via your mums CC...not a great solution, but if it gets MIL off your back it might be the answer!

Just to add..Im so glad my MIL live 100 miles away and never speaks on the phone to me!:cool:

MrsTinks

MILs... *sigh* Personally I'd borrow the money and take deep satisfaction in telling her to go away. But I guess it depends on whether you can afford it?
I'd have thought it would be better to pay her now than risk her trying to cause trouble by demanding a refund closer to the wedding and having the unknown hanging over you on your big day...

Krystaltips

Well she's demanding the refund now Tine... I tried to call the hotel but the wedding coordinator who we've been dealing with and who took her payment is on Holiday until Tuesday so there's not much we can do there, OH called her again today, she told him the manager has said she can have her money back but we don't know if that's the truth or cow eggs... and she put the phone down on him so nothing was really resolved...

Lorne

Oh Krystal, how awful, weddings really aren't easy are they? I think I'd be with Tine on this one, I'd try and find the money elsewhere, get her paid back and end her involvement, you definitely don't want this hanging over your day.

Hope you get it resolved

mirrorimage0

so sorry to hear thats all you need now isnt it so close to the wedding. ive been having trouble with mine lately (and she lives next door lol) but she hasnt paid for anything so safe in that department, hope eveything gets sorted out for you. x

Krystaltips

Next door? Gulp! Thankfully she lives a good 15mins away by car and she very rarely leaves the house, has never even been to my house...

I do really wish we had the money to give her back but it's just not available at the minute... Hi sister has just fallen out with her over the whole thing too, I think it's going to get messy!

mirrorimage0

i know all i can keep thinking is we got a good deal on the house cause we knew the people already lol. we get on ok but sometimes you just wanna...............

i cant see the venue giving her the money back to be honest once she has paid, if she demands it back from you just tsay thats fine it will be in instalments at say £2.00 a week as thats all you can afford, just relax and phone thew venue in the mornign to ask what their policy is on refunds, if you explain the situation too it might help

Krystaltips

Thanks mirror, I'm gonna leave it till Tuesday so I can speak to the woman who deals with us (and took the original payment) don't really fancy explaining the whole thing twice...

OberonSH

You poor thing - I really feel for you, having another MIL from hell.

If she's demanding her money back, isn;t it just easier to give her the number for the hotel and tell her to sort it out with them?