Statement of intent

gallygirl

uzubairu wrote: »

Take all the time you need.

I hope we can be a source of support for you, the same way you have been for me and many visitors to this forum.

Take care.

Seconded, and dodgy hug added :grouphug:

evab_2

Sending you best wishes and support for whatever you are facing at the moment, take time for yourself!

setmefree2

StuartGMC wrote: »

SMF2 - there are some very significant events occurring in my life presently, so no planning for holiday. I will post a short message here regarding what is happening soon but in summary "money doesn't buy you happiness" and "you never know what is around the corner" are perhaps relevant for consideration.

I hope all of you will bear with me in the interim.

Stuart sending you tons and tons of good wishes and lots of hugs

abouttimetoo

evab wrote: »

Sending you best wishes and support for whatever you are facing at the moment, take time for yourself!

Stuart, I couldn't say this better myself as Evab's words and thoughts echo mine too

Take care

twinklie

Hope you're ok Stuart. More positive vibes coming from my direction as well. x

chirpchirp

Stuart, we are all missing you and wish you the best of luck.

Tesco_points_addict

Hi Stuart

I really hope you are ok, you have bee such a insperation to many of us on here, please let us support you. Whatever is going on all of us here will support you all we can.

Best wishes

TPAx

StuartGMC

All
Thanks so much for your kind words. In summary, after 25yrs, I am leaving my wife. Things were not extremely bad but were not great either and although I'd raised issues in the past we have drifted apart. I had focused on financial aspects accepting "my lot" and wasn't "looking" elsewhere, but, late last year I became close to someone who I think can make me happy. She too has been in her relationship 25yrs and we both have children so after much discussion and extensive soul searching we believe the best thing is for us to be together whilst ensuring the children remain secure in knowledge of being loved by all the adults affected. I know many will disapprove, but I hope some here will at least understand.

We now need to sort out the separation whilst I temporarily rent a room for a few months before moving in with my new partner and her children. A difficult time then, but one in which we are all determined to support the children throughout.

I will post here a few updates intermittently and of course comment upon the changes to be taken on board with a new mortgage later as I move forward on that topic; a whole new challenge awaits!

Again thanks for your concerns and support, you're a great group to know :A

uzubairu

Thanks for the update.

You clearly have a lot do (and do it in the right way for all parties involved).

I have friends/colleagues who have stayed in relationships well past the sell by date, and it has really messed up their kids.

I hope you can make things work out.

Still thinking of you and hoping to hear from you soon.

StuartGMC

Uzubairu, Thanks for your kind words, yes, staying together "for the children" rarely actually seems to help them especially if the relationship continues to degrade whilst they are growing up and needing stability whilst education demands are high, yet home life can be disruptive if the atmosphere is tense or argumentative. Presently, my wife and I are still determined to keep our interactions civil in both short and long term, for our daughter's sake but also in recognition of the time we've had together - few I guess get to 45 with 25yrs in one relationship these days.

I will stay active here and as things stabilise will be back asking for advice from you all!