Pocket Money for bf/gf

Mojisola

vixarooni wrote: »

No - beacuse my wages arent enough on its own. I only work saturdays and a day in the week sometimes, if i were to pay £300 a month rent i think my wages would be gone rather.

So in that respect im not, and my mum has said she wants rent when i earn enough to pay it which i think is quite fair. Its just that combining what i earn with my boyfriends earnings is what we spend a month.

In your first post you said -
"My boyfriend and i probably spend about 4 figures on ourselves, with our both wages combined. We live at my parents and my boyfriend pays a bit of rent to my mum and i dont pay anything cos im a student."

Do you really think it's fair that you should spend so much on yourselves but claim you're too poor to pay for your living expenses? If you do, that's your life - but I think you're both going to have a shock when you have to stand on your own feet.

OrkneyStar

vixarooni wrote: »

No - beacuse my wages arent enough on its own. I only work saturdays and a day in the week sometimes, if i were to pay £300 a month rent i think my wages would be gone rather.

So in that respect im not, and my mum has said she wants rent when i earn enough to pay it which i think is quite fair. Its just that combining what i earn with my boyfriends earnings is what we spend a month.

But thanks your concern

I am not making a dig but even when I earned hardly anything as a student I still gave something. It seems a bit unfair to me that you are able to spend '4 figures' from your boyfriends income yet you live rent-free and he paying very little in your mums house. Even if your mum does not need the money it is the prinicipal of it to me!

And what on earth do you spend 4 figures on ?

:eek:

aliasojo

shellsuit wrote: »

Personal spending money ~ what's that?

The last time I had personal spending money was before I had the kids! :rotfl:

Thank God! Someone I can relate to.

zoelouise88

when i was 17 i was on jsa and living alone in a b&b i had to pay £11 towards that so was left with £29 for my food, electric and transport (was out in the middle of no where so had to catch bus into nearest town) i must say i would have loved to had been lucky enough to live at home and pay nothing.

even my brother who is just 18 (has recently been put on benefits as he is unable to work due to damaging his arm) pays £10 a week to my mum.

LittleTinker

When you have Baby and you are at home a lot and washing all those nappies....youll find that your electricity will go up so much more than 32 a month. Other bills might go up a bit too, such as Gas, simply because you are at home more and you need to think about keeping little one warm etc

OrkneyStar

LittleTinker wrote: »

When you have Baby and you are at home a lot and washing all those nappies....youll find that your electricity will go up so much more than 32 a month. Other bills might go up a bit too, such as Gas, simply because you are at home more and you need to think about keeping little one warm etc

Agree completely there. Chances are you will use more water, more gas/electricity. If you make your own baby food this will not cost as much as buying jars of readymade, but it will still mean you have to buy more, esp as baby ages. Breastfeeding is fairly cheap but mum does have to eat slightly more calories (or at least its recommended). If you formula feed then milk can be expensive, and once LO off formula then you will likely still be buying more milk for them to drink too. This is what I meant previously when I said you need to be adaptable when LO comes along and find your feet a bit!
Ok, think thats it for now

kr15snw

Im a student but if I didnt pay my way then I doubt we would eat!

I live with my OH and hes being kind in letting me only buy the weekly shop as my contribution. I earn about £200 a month. I spend about £150 on shopping for the house!!

Part of life of being a student is not having a penny to spend on yourself. Nights out? Only special occasions after Ive saved a bit. Holidays? Match betting and saving my £2 coins pays for that!

When I lived at home I paid £100 a month as I was earning about £400 a month then. But this was on the policy that I still had to buy all my toiletries and anything that wasnt basic food. So if I wanted a pizza, I went and bought it myself. My rent covered the basic shop, and the joys of having my washing and cleaning done (but I wish my mum didnt do this as boy do I struggle now!!)

galvanizersbaby

aliasojo wrote: »

Thank God! Someone I can relate to.

Me too - this personal money idea is an interesting concept but alien to me! :rotfl:

pollyanna24

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Agree completely there. Chances are you will use more water, more gas/electricity. If you make your own baby food this will not cost as much as buying jars of readymade, but it will still mean you have to buy more, esp as baby ages. Breastfeeding is fairly cheap but mum does have to eat slightly more calories (or at least its recommended). If you formula feed then milk can be expensive, and once LO off formula then you will likely still be buying more milk for them to drink too. This is what I meant previously when I said you need to be adaptable when LO comes along and find your feet a bit!
Ok, think thats it for now

Thank you very much! This is exactly the kind of help I need. At the moment, we pay £32 a month in electricity and I've got a feeling it's not enough, so I'm sure I'll get a big bill eventually. Luckily we have money if that happens. I haven't put it up for when the baby comes as at the moment we have two lodgers (sometimes three) and I figured it would all balance out iyswim.

The water is not on a meter, so I just pay what the water people tell me to. They tried putting one in, but then changed their mind for some reason.

Re the food. Should I put the budget up to £200 then? Is that reasonable? One of our lodgers leaves at the end of this month and my food budget is going to go down from £250 to £200 for three adults, so should that be enough for two adults and one baby?

galvanizersbaby

pollyanna24 wrote: »

Thank you very much! This is exactly the kind of help I need. At the moment, we pay £32 a month in electricity and I've got a feeling it's not enough, so I'm sure I'll get a big bill eventually. Luckily we have money if that happens. I haven't put it up for when the baby comes as at the moment we have two lodgers (sometimes three) and I figured it would all balance out iyswim.

The water is not on a meter, so I just pay what the water people tell me to. They tried putting one in, but then changed their mind for some reason.

Re the food. Should I put the budget up to £200 then? Is that reasonable? One of our lodgers leaves at the end of this month and my food budget is going to go down from £250 to £200 for three adults, so should that be enough for two adults and one baby?

Gosh you are organised Pollyanna - wish I was that good!
Don't know where in the country you are but I reckon you should avoid the water meter as long as poss cos chances are your better off paying what they ask under the old rates system - with the meter you pay for what you use and in my experience in a household with more than 2 that can be quite a bit!
I reckon your safe with 200 for the food - course figuring in the nappies and wipes and hopefully you won't need it but formula milk you may end up spending a bit more but reckon that sounds about right