How to deal with neighbour's kids messing with car?

softwaremad

my husband is blind and when he finds cars on pavements whilst trying to walk around with a guide dog and at times myself & dd with him it is extremely frustrating at times he has scratched cars with the shopping bags or the dogs harnesses whilst they have been hogging pavements! once the shopping bag caught a tail light & smashed it! (wonder how miffed that owner was). But at the end of the day paving is for pedestrians NOT vehicles. God dont you hate these people who have cars & think they own every bit of tarmac. ibet that poster doesnt stop for pedestrians to cross the road or to let others out.

Round by my house the kids all pplay in the road, it is a way in which they learn to socialise part of their development, gardens these days are not big enough for kids to ride their bikes on ad get the exercise they require. Get a grip poster! kids need to have fun and not all parents are irresponsible.

One neighbour recently had a go at my daughter cos she was sniffing her flowers! at least she wasnt playing post mans knock or damaging their property! some people are just so miserable. My daughter is disabled (autistic) and doesnt understand so it went over her head, but attitudes like this are what makes life hard for a family like us to intergrate into out local society.

Op just shout when you see them get away, if you see parents say loudly & proudly what your brain is telling you. Asd IS an amazing disability, it prevents those from filtering (i.e. from being sensitive to others) at times like this it is perfect, not however when someone needs sympathy but you know swings & round abouts!

anewman

Update - now 10 days later. Next door neighbours arguing at about 0:30. The people who visit them had parked their car particularly close to mine despite the bays being quite wide and mine being parked as close as possible to the furthest away line. The couple appeared to be arguing and the woman was trying to get into the car or something. Anyway, the alarm was set off fully when they were next to the car. The guy attempted to start the car unsuccessfully a few times then reversed off at speed, tyre screech, like a complete idiot. In the past I have seen this guy get out the car, bottle of beer in hand, seeming like he was completely !!!!ed. What a wonderful bloke.

I took down their reg and then went to look at the car to check for any damage. Then the neighbours two doors down who I sent the note to about their kids messing with the car came out and started being verbally aggressive. The general theme was they were not happy with the letter, no one had done anything whatsoever to the car and that I was harassing them and they were going to complain about it. Interestingly their eldest kid came to the door, which I think kids should be in bed long before 1am - but suppose that's up to them and not up to me to judge.

I made the mistake of mentioning catching her putting the egg on the car, as they were claiming they had nothing against it. As anyone would, guilty or not, they denied it and suggested she could not have done it because... She'd have run off if she did it (bear in mind I did run out as soon as I heard it and she was facing her house and going towards it and she seemed sheepish when claiming to be looking to see what's gone on). And that they had to move from their doorstep and go to the car to see what had happened to the car with the alarm going off, and they have a clear view from their front door-step so that doesn't make sense and it does not make sense that she was there so quickly either. So neither of the things they say makes any sense and it makes them look like liars that they seem to feel they have to give such justifications.

Oh and he had to mention the thing about them thinking I wash the car too often - obvious jealousy as I rarely wash it compared with most sane people who do it every week.

Oh well, I wonder if I should be so nice to stay inside and do nothing next time I catch the kids doing something. Suppose it's a blessing my printer is broken and I cannot print another letter out to stick through their letterbox. Well suppose it stopped the kids messing on the whole, although they had obviously put a twig on the door handle of the car yesterday - saw them out the window crouching down by the car and messing about. Seems like I can not win.

Edit: Looks like the alarm was set off because it seems someone kicked the rear wing causing a big dent. What's more is I believe I have their reg number.

Dick_here

Is there anywhere else you can park ? It might be better if it's out of your vision, as I guess currently you're on the lookout every few minutes which must mean you're permanently on edge.

I don't think you should get too worked up about a twig, that is kids being kids, provided it's not been used to damage the car.

Good luck with finding out who owns the car that caused the dent, that is damn annoying.

poppyolivia

We had trouble with parking...council, wardens, police all said:

MUST NOT means you shouldn't but it does happen and nothing will be done about it.

CAN NOT...it's against the law if you do it.

Boppy_2

Firstly to the original poster - i wouldn't send them anymore letters, i would take it further now and contact the housing, it isn't on at all, also start a diary of things happening and what you see with dates and times for back up.

Secondly i just want to say whilst i sympathise slightly with the woman with 4 vehicles i hope to god you don't live near me, people who park on the pavement are a nuisance as are people who have untrimmed hedges and park their cars outside their house, no way am i walking into the road with my baby in a pushchair for fear of damaging someones property (that can be replaced) so if you don't leave a big enough gap for my baby, myself and shopping to get past its tough plop if your car gets scratched!!

softwaremad

Bobby i love the tough plop will have to use that me thinks its hysterical!!

op leave the chavs alone! no more letters next time you see them with a drink in their hands or their guests ring the police and report their drunk driving. idiots they sound like! keep a diary of every event whether they verbally abuse you or get at your car, if they are housing assciation send a letter detailing everything to the housing department - losers like this need to be moved on away from decent people.

we have an issue now with a little rascal that moved in here 2 weeks ago i can guarantee that they willnot be living here for too long if things continue as they have been. none of us will stand for the poor behaviour and lack of disciplined children running around causign havoc for everyone.

i personally pulled the kid the other day told him that if he came near me or mine that i would detach his head and reposition it up his bum. hopefully this will sort him out as we previously tried the police with him (10yrs old) for gods sake this sort of kid is the reason why abortions should be made up to 11 yrs not reduced to 20 weeks!

my kids would be in deep trouble if they ever showed such disrespect for others or their belongings!

exup

I have a feeling judging by the desription of these neighbours that no amount of diplomacy or tact is going to make them respect you or your vehicle.
They will no be criticised by anyone and any attempt whether constructive or not will only lead to verbal abuse or worse.

The only few things I can see it will improve are:
You move away (probably not an option) or park the car somewhere else - maybe a local lock up.
The family members are moved away or move themselves.

Whether the police arrest them for drunk driving - being a nuisance or even serve an ASBO I doubt it will have any effect on them.

I really feel for you here - but I fear the only thing that will be understood is to be 6 1/2 feet tall - go round to their house and politely teel them if you get any more hassle you will pick their car up and feed it to them.. then maybe they wil leave oyu alone.

PasturesNew

B4st4rds. Nasty, anti-social, common, filthy, scum.

You need to move in the medium-term. Shared parking never works, there's always some w4nker spoiling things.

MrsE_2

softwaremad wrote: »

we have an issue now with a little rascal that moved in here 2 weeks ago i can guarantee that they willnot be living here for too long if things continue as they have been. none of us will stand for the poor behaviour and lack of disciplined children running around causign havoc for everyone.

i personally pulled the kid the other day told him that if he came near me or mine that i would detach his head and reposition it up his bum. hopefully this will sort him out as we previously tried the police with him (10yrs old) for gods sake this sort of kid is the reason why abortions should be made up to 11 yrs not reduced to 20 weeks!

my kids would be in deep trouble if they ever showed such disrespect for others or their belongings!

I personally would feel uncomfortable threating a 10 year old, no matter how horrible.
I would have gone to his parents.

anewman

MrsE wrote: »

I personally would feel uncomfortable threating a 10 year old, no matter how horrible.
I would have gone to his parents.

I am starting to think I should be threatening their kids if I catch them doing something like intentionally kicking a football at the car again. Their parents don't seem to care and think they've done nothing wrong, so I won't get anywhere telling them anything. It's not my problem if I've got to shout at the kids - their parents decided they were the wonderful people who were in the right (and to come shout at me at gone midnight in the street about it) - they could have at the very least said they have told their kids not to touch the car again (I don't even expect any kind of apology although it would obviously be a good thing) - instead they make themselves look like parents who won't take responsibility for their kids actions. Even make themselves look jealous by turning it into "we've got nothing against your car" - when all I wanted and mentioned was stopping the kids messing with it.

There are some council garages I could probably look in to trying to get 3 minutes walk away, but I shouldn't have to come here drop off shopping etc, then drive round to the garage, open the door, park, lock up then walk back - and walk back to the garage, unlock, drive out, and then lock - and pay money for the privilege. But suppose the good thing is the garage is in the next street down so hidden out of view of neighbours.