One Wedding and two Families

Lillibet_2

Yep, another vote for doing it whilst on holiday.

Hubby & I eloped (to the local registry office, followed by a ploughmans at the pub & a evening at the theatre), flew off on "holiday" 2 days later & posted the wedding announment cards from the airport en-route. Saved a whole lot of bad behaviour from hubbys' war-ring family, even if it did temporialy put his mothers nose out of joint. She got over it.

This was 4 years ago, by the time we had paid registry office fees, my outfit (department store trouser suit & top), new shirt & shoes for hubby, very small bouquet for me (£25 I think? I later put them on a family war grave & took photos), lunch & a couple of rounds of drinks for 4 (us & 2 witnessess), theatre tickets for 2 for the evening (OK not traditional but we felt we wanted to do something....other than the obvious!) & 2 weeks in Morrocco it still cost over £2K, and that was with nothing fancy or wedding-ish (except for a bow-tie for our dog, who came with us!) I didn't have hairdresser, beautician, manacurist etc, the theatre tickets were local not London prices, the pub was a nice but very definately Pub not wine bar or restaraunt by the river, the holiday was booked as a hoilday not a honeymoon (in fact it was booked several months prior to us deciding to get married! We just timed the wedding to fit). So be warned you might need to re-think your budget if you want anything remotely traditional!

HTH;)

miserly_mum

ailuro2 wrote: »

I'd definitely go for a weddingmoon, take the kids away on holiday and get married while you're there. Have a party for friends and colleagues when you return.

Simple all round and fmaily doesn't have to be invited.

Doing a wedding for under £2K will be worrisome too, very hard to keep under budget.

Much nicer to have a holiday too. Bring some exotic soap back for SIL!!:rotfl:

This weddingmoon idea is getting more tempting by the minute. We were hoping to have a very laidback wedding. Almost a "come a you are" type of thing. But unfortunately thats a scarey thought with some of our relatives :eek:

£2k is for the basics , we haven't set a date and are in no rush so the smaller "bits and pieces" could be bought as we go along in sales/ebay etc

Having read the Wedding threads on here i'm sure we could pull it off for a lot less if we were being really tight.

As for SIL soap is good but a wire brush and Dettol would be better :rotfl:

davetrousers

Holy Cow! What's with the avatar?

miserly_mum

Lillibet wrote: »

Yep, another vote for doing it whilst on holiday.

Hubby & I eloped (to the local registry office, followed by a ploughmans at the pub & a evening at the theatre), flew off on "holiday" 2 days later & posted the wedding announment cards from the airport en-route. Saved a whole lot of bad behaviour from hubbys' war-ring family, even if it did temporialy put his mothers nose out of joint. She got over it.

This was 4 years ago, by the time we had paid registry office fees, my outfit (department store trouser suit & top), new shirt & shoes for hubby, very small bouquet for me (£25 I think? I later put them on a family war grave & took photos), lunch & a couple of rounds of drinks for 4 (us & 2 witnessess), theatre tickets for 2 for the evening (OK not traditional but we felt we wanted to do something....other than the obvious!) & 2 weeks in Morrocco it still cost over £2K, and that was with nothing fancy or wedding-ish (except for a bow-tie for our dog, who came with us!) I didn't have hairdresser, beautician, manacurist etc, the theatre tickets were local not London prices, the pub was a nice but very definately Pub not wine bar or restaraunt by the river, the holiday was booked as a hoilday not a honeymoon (in fact it was booked several months prior to us deciding to get married! We just timed the wedding to fit). So be warned you might need to re-think your budget if you want anything remotely traditional!

HTH;)

The original £2k budget was for a small wedding and reception I know the Weddingmoon would be a lot more with accomodation etc.

There definately wouldn't be a foreign Honeymoon so that should keep down the cost too.

I live in a small town in Northern Ireland and we have some great Country Restaurants that do Wedding Receptions amazingly cheaply.

The Golf club we originally thought of is beautiful and has great setting for Photos and crazy golf etc that would keep the kids occupied too.

miserly_mum

davetrousers wrote: »

Holy Cow! What's with the avatar?

You WANT me Davetrousers, I can tell :rotfl:

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OberonSH

Hey there, I've had this problem with my family, my immediate family all hate me, thanks to my father telling them a pack of lies, my mum is having to tiptoe round him and pretend she's going elsewhere, and there's a few friends wh just CANNOT behave themselves if there's a drop of liquor about. So d we invite them because they're family & freinds and we really should?

No.

We've not invited them, and told them why - it's our special day, and we can't trust you to behave yourself/not get drunk and try it on with my mum/turn up in clothes that have seen the inside of a washing machine. And you know what? Most of them hung their heads in shame, apologised and said they didn;t realise their behaviour/personal hygiene had got so bad. A couple got upset, but I was adamant. I'm not having that sort of thing at our wedding, and if convention says I have to have some drunken lout at the reception groping the bridesmaids, then screw convention!

Invit the ones you want, and if the others ask, tell them straight why they're not coming. They may sort themselves out, or they may not. Either way as long as the groom turns up, it's a success!

bandraoi

I think you do want your dad there, even if you're not close, so why not go to Portugal with your mother in law and kids and get married there.

miserly_mum

bandraoi wrote: »

I think you do want your dad there, even if you're not close, so why not go to Portugal with your mother in law and kids and get married there.

Nice idea but it'd cost a fortune in flights and accomodation as my Dad wouldn't have room to put us all up.

I want him to be there because it'd look bad if he wasn't. I know that sounds awful but apart from my children and one Aunt who I love to bits the only other real family i've got is him. Theres no question , he would come if he was invited and so would his wife.

bandraoi

miserly_mum wrote: »

Nice idea but it'd cost a fortune in flights and accomodation as my Dad wouldn't have room to put us all up.

I want him to be there because it'd look bad if he wasn't. I know that sounds awful but apart from my children and one Aunt who I love to bits the only other real family i've got is him. Theres no question , he would come if he was invited and so would his wife.

I don't really think it would cost a fortune. There are extremely cheap deals available if you look around and keep an eye out. Book a big villa and some cheap ryanair flights and you could have it sorted for under £1.5K