Meeting new people with little or no money - Is it possible??

Lucy1982_2

I can only get 90 out of mine.... it's not big enough for anything else.

Not that I drive fast of course! I stick to 70 ish most of the time on the motorway...

Butterfliesarepretty

Bayblue wrote: »

I've been reading this thread with interest and thought I'd add my thoughts...

I do think that it is harder to meet new people when you have little or no money, simply because you go out less. Often in a DFWs lifestyle the social life is first to go because it's not a necessity, well, I know that that's the case for me anyhow. Then unless you have/had a big circle of friends to begin with you can find yourself a bit bored or isolated. After all, yeah you can have no spending days out but they are a bit more difficult to sort out and find than a trip to a pub or restaurant. I'm not moaning about all BTW, cos it's all my fault for spending too much in the past, but I'm a bit annoyed with myself- I never thought that all that buying rubbish would restrict my social life now! I don't have the answer to this, well, except to pay off the debts ASAP I suppose and not to be too strict with yourself.

Meeting people online- I could go on about this for hours. To make it short I just don't like it, I know that makes me totally unusual and a complete luddite but I just don't. I think that it's partly because, when you meet someone in 'real life' it's much more um...gentle and less assumptive (for want of better words). I mean that person could end up a friend, an acquaintance or a lover but it's much easier to gauge that when you meet organically whereas online I find it more of an assumption that everyone is 'lookin for lurve' . Or maybe that's my doirty mind!;) Anyway I don't like it, it scares me- must be my age lol:D
Now , don't get me wrong, I can chat on forums about money, the news and even TV progs all day but when it comes to one to one chatting and those dating/friendship sites I run a virtual mile.

I have realise fairly recently that I do need to get out more, otherwise I'm going to wake up when I'm older with just my computer for company. I've decided to make the effort more by in inviting people out and looking up some old friends, it just won't be done online!

Whilst I don't think that this forum is cliquey as such, it can, understandably I suppose, seem a bit family/couple oriented sometimes, so best of luck to all of the single DFWs out there, hope you all find what you're looking for.

I'm not too keen on dating websites either, I tried it years ago and just found I got weirdos messaging me.
Yesterday I finished work, and last night I went to my first car meet, it was great, really friendly people mostly couples and I left the pub (sober of course) at 10pm totally worn out with chatting about mx5's and life in general. But I have already agreed to go on a camping trip in the mx 5 to a car show in southport in august, apparently they all get the barbecue out and eat and drink at night while during the day they walk around looking at the different cars on show, even fiestas etc are there. So for a cost of £6 its a bargain. I just need to buy a small tent now to go in the boot.;)

So I've made friends on here, the car club, and on facebook also made one friend. Life is good.

Dating I find scary again. Not sure if I'm ready for that yet.:undecided

Happy birthday chip hazard:beer: now you have joined the 40's club like me.

Tete_en_l'Air

Hmm, my car vibrates like mad when I get to 72, but I don't care I still love her!

Just looking at the comments about meeting people 'organically', I agree sometimes meeting people on the internet does seem a bit forced, but one of the things that made me give it a try was when I read a magazine article that said you shouldn't just sit there waiting for Mr Right to fall from the sky and into your arms, you need to be a bit proactive and look for him. Any other area of life you would, if you were looking for a job, say. It's not very romantic though I know!

Oh, and it is indeed all about the hair, and the length of the... legs!

Lucy1982_2

I like nice hands to... don't ask me why, but I do!

I think proactive is good, but without looking desparate. I like talking to people and things like that so I make the effort to get to know people. But that is normally about it.

Tete_en_l'Air

Haha, that reminds me of when I first started with it, I confessed to a friend in a bar that I was internet dating and I said "You don't think I'm a desperado do you?" and she just went, "Lucy, look around you {lots of middle-aged, short, beer-bellied, bald Geordies chanting football songs} - you'd have to be a desperado to go with any of these and how else are you meant to meet people?" That made me feel better!

Tete_en_l'Air

Eeks, I hope that doesn't make me look shallow that I judged them on how they looked!!! It's just I'm a giantess so I need a tall man, and we've already established it's all about the hair... and I want a man with a modicum of social decorum!! That's all!

Lucy1982_2

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Eeks, I hope that doesn't make me look shallow that I judged them on how they looked!!! It's just I'm a giantess so I need a tall man, and we've already established it's all about the hair... and I want a man with a modicum of social decorum!! That's all!

I don't think that to much to ask for at all.

Although I am not a giantess as you put it... but I do like tall men!

Riq

There is always an amount of shallowness.

If they have the world's greatest personality but look like they have been attacked by a madman with a spade and you don't fancy them looks wise, I honestly don't think it will last

Sugarplumfairy_2

back now , had to do some work tut

Have a thing for hands too, nice manly hands , yum

I am only 5ft 4 , but do prefer tall men too.

Told my Best Friend also that I was poking about on online dating and she said 'go for it' its all kn0bs that hang about the pubs anyway !! Made me feel better do, thought she would think I was sad. After each 'date' I had an update phone call from her wanting to know everything. It makes it easier and more fun when you have friends supporting you.

Tete_en_l'Air

Mmm, they're lovely. New bloke is 6'5" though on his profile he put 6'4" so he wouldn't seem like a freak!

On another note altogether - how many posts do I need before I'm a Stalwart? It's sort of my aim of the afternoon, is it 200??