Does your OH support you in being OS?

ashlea170706

mine laughs occasionally at all the tips n hints i tell him he always asks if i get it off here but he has now become to like the value range and their are never any complaints from him about meals(mayb thats because he knows if he moans he can cook dinner himself hehe!) overall though he often asks me about the site and occasionally posts as me in the tech forum as he is good with computers! ash x

Gena

I'm another lucky one, my OH loves how I try to save money, and happily makes suggestions. He introduced me to Aldi a couple of years ago and is perfectly happy trying value food or padding meat out with beans etc. He has had a couple of smiles since I've discovered this site (and constantly hog the computer, occasionally coming out with my latest favourite tip), but he says that my new obsession is a pretty good one to have. Naturally I agree!!!

Kaz2904

My OH is so not on board it's untrue!
He never compliments the cooking and can't see why I'm not happy to spend more money on food. He's not keen on the cakes, liked home made homous, and just generally thinks we should eat processed food.
Then he doesn't like veggies either but I still make him eat them.
After tea tonight (my first ever HM quiche) DS (4) said wow mum it's lovely- you're the best cooker ever!
DD keeps going back to the kitchen for more so they tend to appreciate what I'm doing for us.

The kids love being in the kitchen and deciding what kind of bread to eat later that day. What shall we add kids? I've trained them to look for yellow labels when we shop and they shout- Mummy yellow label- shall we get it?

I like trying to be OS and feel a sense of pride from learning new skills and recipes and trying to cut the cost of food. So ner!

mrdexter

Kaz2904 wrote: »

My OH is so not on board it's untrue!

I've trained them to look for yellow labels when we shop and they shout- Mummy yellow label- shall we get it?

I like trying to be OS and feel a sense of pride from learning new skills and recipes and trying to cut the cost of food. So ner!

My OH is the same, and my DS3 is a bargain hunter in Tescos too :-)

meanmarie

OH thinks that he is OS....he finds the Lidl cheeses and salamis wonderful and knows that they are cheap. On the other hand, he doesn't think that there is a need to 'budget' where food is concerned...you have to eat so you pay whatever the price is kind of attitude, doesn't understand that I will gather sticks from ditches to use in the fire, or that I would reuse things a hundred times over if I could.

Think that at 67 he is beyond redemption

Marie

Olliebeak

My OH has his own place but spends most of his time with me and I do all the main food shopping on my own - refuse to have him in the supermarket with me! We don't pool our money as such - but split costs ' as and when' the need arises.

My OH is 'getting there' as long as there isn't something that he personally wants (note 'wants' not 'needs'!). He's stopped moaning about all the green and white labels in the cupboards and has learned that he really MUST read the labels to distinguish the various items (:rotfl: ).

He's learned that when I shop, he gets what I choose to buy and that I won't just get him something because he's asked for it. If he wants it, and it's outside my version of OS, then he can darn well get it himself out of his money.

He has discovered HomeBargains in our local shopping centre and will bargain hunt in there, whereas I rarely get to go there. They sell lots of end of ranges, experimental varieties that didn't quite catch on etc. (he got some McVitie's orange and cranberry jaffa cakes last week!). He has a very sweet tooth and will buy lots of sweets/chocolate/biscuits that I'll just walk past in Asda! He's also very wasteful of fruit and will buy huge bags of oranges and apples without a thought as to how long they will sit in the fruit bowl. Then he'll buy some more and ignore the stuff that could do with using up first - I'm continually having to rotate stuff to keep wasteage to a minimum.

I know that lots of women wouldn't handle things this way, but it works for us (more importantly - it works for ME :j !)

lil_me

In a word, NO! I sometimes see glimmers of hope but he usually deflates the good mood they put me in by doing something which annoys me. I have to take him shopping with me tomorrow as he needs to go where I am, fingers crossed he stays in the car...

angchris

when oh first moved in with me he was used to having money and buying exactly what he wanted cost didn`t even enter his head. he would happily throw in the trolley cartons of ready made ambrosia custard at £1.50 ish a pop :eek: and steaks and ready meals/processed food.
money was tight for us at the beginning (when isnt it?:rolleyes: )and we really struggled as oh wasnt working as he had to jack his job in to move over here and he still was pushing for the expensive food. slowly over time he tried the value versions of what he was used to and realised they were perfectly fine to eat and that the 11p value custard in a packet was just as easy to add boiling water to than to snip the top of an ambrosia carton and heat it.
oh had never in his life looked out for reduced food and was embarrassed when i first dragged him to the whoopsie section and wouldn`t come with me...i dragged him saying "you don`t even know anyone in this area":rotfl:
i had to laugh the first time as the whoopsie shelves were rammed with lovely food reduced to silly prices like 10p oh almost yelped in excitement "omg look at this" "omg we`ll get all of that" we literally filled our trolley with cakes/bread/meat + veggies enough to feed us for a few weeks for a couple of quid. then at the checkout i payed using my nectar vouchers and the total came to about 49p for the trolley load :j ever since that day oh has literally run off to the reduced counter leaving me still wandering through the entrance with the trolley :rotfl: he is now 110% behind every little thing i do as he can now see that you needn`t spend a fortune to live well and that the little bit of extra effort daily by cooking from scratch/baking bread/making cleaning stuff all helps towards having a more secure future as we are able to go on nice trips and have savings which we wouldn`t be able to do if we carried on with his spending habits.

floss2

My DF is & isn't......he's always cooked from scratch, to the point of never using my tin of Birds custard powder (which I had before I moved in 2 yrs ago) and making fresh custard......which can be costly!

He doesn't like value ranges, or shop for yellow labels, but then again we don't have a huge stock of money sitting in the freezer or cupboards, it's mainly ingredient stuff, batch cooking (like meatballs, pasta or gnocchi) or leftovers as we're a bit limited on kitchen storage space.

We do eat fresh meat, fish & fruit / veg from our local shops & greengrocer and we buy free range eggs.

I tend to do the shopping as that is my share of our household bills.....and when I go, it's with a list & a keen eye for a bargain - such as last Easter's whole cleaned filleted salmon c/w bones for stock for £5 - on offer & reduced because Tesco needed to sell it. Tasted even better because it was such a bargain and we had about 8 meals off it!

He does accept that my Os tendencies have saved money - he is chief breadmaker now with my Ebay bargain BM, loves my 4 Le Crueset pots that were a £8 car-boot bargain, and he won't buy something just for the sake of it, only if we need a new one. We also use the Tesco vouchers for deals - RAC membership, anniversary meals & half price wine with the last 2 lots

culpepper

Mine has improved over the years.
He used to love spending money and would buy a thing new rather than look for where he had put the one he already had.
He just couldn't process the idea that actually if he spent all the money,what would there be to live on?
That is definitely learned behaviour from his parents who were deeply in debt but lived like millionaires.
Nowadays he will look for the best prices online,hunt in charity shops and try to mend before throwing away. He isnt totally cured, he still has lapses when
he wishes for a bit more 'luxury' but often on reflection he discovers the luxury was in the lackadaisical spending and not actually having the object in the first place.