Weekly Flylady Thread 14th April 2008

pigpen

Nicki.. get yourself out and have a good time.. his gf.. well.. I think the fact she entertained seeing someone with a family says just the kind of person she is so her opinion on anything I would ignore.. entirely.. and when he does the same to her you can gloat! As for him, he is male and you really shouldn't expect anything better. You could never be like her.. even if you tried!! because you are nice.. and you care about so many other people and you try so hard to make things good in your life.. Anyone who would do what she has.. doesn't. You don't NEED him.. you don't NEED anyone apart from your beautiful special little girl.. and neither does she, but she won't see him in his true colours until she is bigger, nothing you do or say will change that. IT has been his choice to throw away the good things he has.. and when this one kicks him into touch he is likely to come grovelling back.. Have you said to DD that you don't WANT him to come back, that you've asked him and he said he doesn't want to? It might stop her thinking it is likely in the near future.. very basic and it will be hard but it might just work. She will understand.

Big hugs for you both.

lil_me

Hex when you go to B&Q drag a pensioner along with you! Sure it's a Wednesday or Thursday they do discounts. If you're spending that much at a time it'll be worth it.

Nicki, you're not being his GF you are being you. He'll sharp realise when your DD changes her attitude towards him if he lets her down when he says he'll pick her up etc. You're doing the right thing by moving on just as he has, maybe now you've found out that he was unfaithful the only thing maybe you should have changed was doing it sooner. Stay true to yourself and be there for your DD, there is only 2 of you that matter now if he's starting to let her down etc. I agree with Pigpen, make sure your DD understands how things are, she's a bright little girl from what you have said, I think she'll know deep down anyway. She needs to know it's not her he doesn't love because he doesn't want to come back, thinking that isn't good for her.

Well I went to Aldi, took a child, spent much more than planned (part his fault and part mine for not saying NO more often) I need to edit Tesco order I put in aswell because I bought some things I'd ordered which were cheaper.

pigpen

Collected my brood from school.. just 2 more to come home but they bring themselves.

Posted my 2 bags of ebay stuff.. just 2 more parcels to sort and fling now. I posted one recorded delivery because I think the buyer will be a [EMAIL="tw@t"]!!!!!![/EMAIL].. she already emailed 3 days after the listing ended asking 'what is the problem'.. 6 feedback.. need I say more? GGGrrrrrr

ooh.. need to get the chook in the oven for dinner or we'll all starve again lol.

I need to reload the TD's as well.

luby-lou

(((((Nicki))))) - pigpen always seems to know what to say.

From what you've said over the last few weeks on the thread it sounds like you've really tried hard to get on with your life. You've decorated dd's bedroom, signed up for OU course, took steps to get your life back on track and I'd put money on it that he's gutted! He probably expected you to be crying, shaking heap on the floor and not be able to do anything without him - (ok so maybe you've had a few days like that but lets not tell him hey.) But instead you've picked yourself up and made plans for the future without him. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks you're doing BRILLIANT! He is the one missing out not seeing dd's achievements on a day to day basis and one day he'll realise how much he's given up.

When my SIL split with her DH the kids took everything out on her. She got the tantrums, blame, where's daddy questions and he got the hugs and took them out to Macdonalds, wacky warehouse, etc so they thought he was the hero. That's just kids - like pigpen says when she gets older she'll realise its you who has been therefore her always!

Justamum

Nicki - Pigpen said it all really. Hugs to you and your DD.

pigpen

I've been all adventurous.. I've hoiked the chook in the oven.. AND.. made cauliflower cheese!!!

See.. I am a clever me!!

I want ginger sponge too... but can't be faffed to bake one..

skintscotslass

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

Lovely flat SSL, South Clerk street never looks like that though! I think someone has been using photoshop:rotfl: Its not the nicest street ever Really noisy, dirty and studenty. If you could transport that flat somewhere else it would be nicer.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: I know, I'm a south-sider. I grew up in Dalkeith Rd and the Wine Glass was a regular haunt. Its changed hands several times and is really lovely now. Mum and Dad left Dalkeith Rd because of all the students. I know I'd crack up after 5 minutes, but its nice to dream about being a south-sider again Oh and the views up Lutton Place are gorgeous!

Mudbath

Nicki - pigpen summed it up. Hugs to you xx

I've been and got some fab stuff for dd's sleepover tomorrow night and it's still a lot cheaper than a proper party. We've bought them a heart shaped box each which DH is currently spraying purple. We're going to attach the photograph on the lid of it and we have alsorts to decorate the box with. Then, everything they make they can put in the box and that will be instead of the party bag. They're going to make rings, necklaces, barefoot sandals and ornaments to put in the box. I'm quite excited :rotfl:

List all done apart from accounts but i'll do some more of that now. I'm helping out at a school event too later but will fit that in somehow.

We've decided to get vinyl tiles again for the kitchen floor as our dog does tend to puke in there and the dishwasher keeps leaking. Went to b&q with the vouchers I had and the tiles should have come to £85. When she asked for £19.70 DH and I went very, very quiet. They were priced up wrong. We nearly ran out of the shop. So, new floor for less than £20 and it was vouchers from scanning so really it was free.

-[strike] school run[/strike]
- [strike]sort out tickets for school event[/strike]
- [strike]walk dog
- two bags of clothes to school
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- hang clothes
- sort and put away underwear[/strike]
- [strike]accounts for first 6 months of last tax year - april[/strike]
- [strike]accounts for first 6 months of last tax year - may[/strike]
[STRIKE]- accounts for first 6 months of last tax year - june[/STRIKE]
-accounts for first 6 months of last tax year - july
- accounts for first 6 months of last tax year - august
-accounts for first 6 months of last tax year - september
-[strike] 10 things in dd's bedroom [/strike][strike]
- 10 things in ds's bedroom[/strike]
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- [strike]go to hobbycraft for magnetic beads/jewellery wire/wool[/strike]- parafin wax dip for wrist x 2
- [strike]phone doctor to arrange physio
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- clear hot spot on box in master bedroom[/strike]
- [strike]ring physio and make appointment[/strike]
- [strike]phone mum to see if she'll DS/DD sit on 10th May
- pick up dd's antibiotics
- pick up ds's eye drops
- post office[/strike]

skintscotslass

pigpen and lil_me - you always say the things everyone else wants to but doesnt know how to.

(((nicki))) I've been there. Its a wonder I have any teeth left, the amount of times I've had to grit my teeth and say nothing. Are you in touch with any of his family? I know it sounds a bit weird, but I still stay in touch with ex's family. I see ex-MIL every sunday and she takes DD to see the aunties. I think its important for DD to see her Dads family, especially if he starts being an eejit. 10 years down the line, me and BF are the ones who get the invites to family parties rather than him and his GF, which as you can imagines, hacks them off no end *evil grin* xx

As for her being involved with him previously, what goes around comes around. Mudbath, can you do a karma chant for nicki please?

Mudbath

May's accounts done - starting on June. This is the first year i've been really organised and kept receipts in evelopes for each month. It's soooooooo much easier!!!