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WorriedMum

Hi Dianne.
Everyone here already said most things I feel but I can tell you, I watched this forum for month's before posting, best thing I ever did. Started to be strong and get on with life instead of frozen in time. Good luck with your BR date, I know you may think no-one understands but really, they do and honestly you will come through this felling better

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Persolv0 wrote: »

Hello Diane:hello:(I could tell you the wavey hand is intended to help cheer you up but unfortunately its because it fascinates me and any excuse will do:o)

Five years ago my wife and i decided to sell up our flat to release equity to pay of a large part of the debts we had/have.
I did nt really mind too much as it was a top floor flat and always felt a bit small and the thinking was we would be able to rent a decent sized house and have more space which indeed has happened.
But...that was our flat where we brought our daughter up for ten years so a part of me misses it and i liked the community feel we had with our neighbours.

Anyhow we had around six weeks before we had to be out and i guess we were both worried we would nt find a place in time but i know my wife was terribly worried at this prospect...we went to look at one house in a not too great area of town and if im honest i just went along with t with no serious intentions of moving in....i did nt account for my wife liking the house itself and rather than upset her i agreed t move in....god did i hate the prospect and i am certainly no snob and had a very working class upbringing.

I felt absolutely miserable there at first and just could nt settle(I wanted my home back!) ...but over time i had a little chat with this neighbour and a chat with that one and slowly i began to settle.

We did move on after a year or so but i still have fond memories of the rented "home" and i hope that once you ve had time to readjust you ll hopefully see things aint that bad.

Any arguments my wife and i have had over the years are down to two things...money(the obvious one) but also our reluctance to discuss our debt issues together......dont let debt/money get in the way of all the positive things you and your husband will share but try to sit down together and decide on a course of action

best wishes

Hi there love the wavey hand :hello: thought I would send one on to you he is really cute. thank you for your help dont know what I would do without this site and all the support and hugs I am getting.

Love Diane

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scaredwitless32 wrote: »

Diane, just a thought, does your hubby read or post of the boards? Maybe if he didnt, it would be good to get him to have a look. He might take some comfort from the different situations others are experiencing?

Hi there hubby does usually read posts with me things are a little strained between us at present but hopefully we will get there. He is aware that there are loads of us going through the same and it is hard for all. We have had our ups and downs but after 25 years of being together this is our lowest point. Just hope we will get through it together. Take care
:heartsmil Diane

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Afternoon everyone
Feeling a little better today hubbys birthday so we been to have chips and look at the sea. Too cold to do anything else snowing here. Had a suprise today though my daughter is a model and she has just been accepted with an agency in LOndon and she is doing a fashion show shortly so I will be having a trip to London again. I went a few weeks ago with her for a photo shoot with Diesel great fun. Gives us something to look forward to.
I dont know with all these chips<jaffa cakes and the large bag of m+ms Ive justed stuffed my face with I will be like a barrel before long confort food I suppose.
:hello: Diane
Sorry richard pinched your wavey hand its cool!!!!

betterlatethannever

:T thats great news Diane.
See, sometimes it just takes a new day to make things a little better.
I always find Sundays evenings my worst time for feeling low

When shes a top super model, who won't get out of bed for less than £20,000 you'll wonder why you were ever worried.:D

Praxis99

I bet your post has struck a cord with a lot of people I know it has with me. I too sit surrounded by the relative wealth of my neighbours (in the new build townhouses across from me) and in the old days when I moved here and I had my old Merc in the drive I felt like was one of the gang. As my debts started to bite its fair to say I've felt a tinge (or more of envy) that only now is disapainting as I've come out the other side of my debt crisis (I was given an early discharge in Mar) and I am starting to rebuild.

As I final point I have family in the building game and they have often remarked about doing jobs for 'professional' people 'living on beans' but prepared to do so for the sake of outer appearances. How knows what happens behind those closed doors of our neighbours.........

Persolv0

dialysis wrote: »

Afternoon everyone
Feeling a little better today hubbys birthday so we been to have chips and look at the sea. Too cold to do anything else snowing here. Had a suprise today though my daughter is a model and she has just been accepted with an agency in LOndon and she is doing a fashion show shortly so I will be having a trip to London again. I went a few weeks ago with her for a photo shoot with Diesel great fun. Gives us something to look forward to.
I dont know with all these chips<jaffa cakes and the large bag of m+ms Ive justed stuffed my face with I will be like a barrel before long confort food I suppose.
:hello: Diane
Sorry richard pinched your wavey hand its cool!!!!

Well....i suppose its ok you pinched my wavey hand...kinda ok anyway ...i suppose.....wanders off mumbling something about copyright and can she just do that........just kidding but its a seriously cute emoticon though:j
Happy birthday to your OH:hello:

Good to see you guys have had a nice day and your more upbeat today.

Enjoy the rest of your day

philnicandamy

and whats this about me being a bad influence?

i'm angelic me.....

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philnicandamy wrote: »

and whats this about me being a bad influence?

i'm angelic me.....

HI now im really really wanting jaffas but ive non left!!!!

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Hi all
Angel got hubby to read posts and I think it helped he realised that our neighbours are not what they seem and also knowing we are not alone.

We have had an OK day today feel a lot better feelings of optimism, I cooked in my kitchen tonite and it was nice. Hope these feelings last. Thank you for all your support on this site I would try and list you all but I am on the whisky maybe not a good idea
love and hugs Diane;)