Cheating husband - your thoughts please

crazyangel_2

cells wrote: »

cut his penis off?
no seriously.....

im sure theres some internet site that will tell you how without killing him
perhaps

MyHusbandsCheatedOnMeButICantLeaveHimBecauseOfTheKidsSoImGonaCutHis!!!!!!!!Off.com


TBH i dont understand why anyone would cheat on their partner if they have had kids ect together.

This post gave me a giggle cause when my ex cheated for the final time i was going to bite his small thingy off ,but the only thing that stopped me was the thought he could bleed to death (what a shame :rolleyes: ) then i would go to prison. But now in hind site i think i should have gone for it.:rotfl:

Loretta

Chollita wrote: »

Deflection of blame - classic reaction when feeling guilty.

If you are working, running the kids about and looking after your home it sounds to me that if he thinks he is not getting enough attention then he has too much time on his hands and is not pulling his weight and not doing his fair share because it sounds as if you don't have time to go off having affairs!

If after he has been caught out and told that you know and he still thinks it is OK to make excuses and try and blame you that makes it all worse still.

I would check out the financial situation, get some legal advice, I am sure that side of things will be in your favour and then get rid of him. he will have to pay towards your family as well as a place for himself and will find out what it is like to manage on his own.

It sounds as if he has casual sex and one night stands, if he had a new relationship and wanted to leave he would have somewhere to go, because of the way he is doing this I don't suppose any of his casuals would want him full time especially when he will have to pay you to, he would look a lot less attractive in those circumstances

The cheek of some people!

I forgot to say there is the health issue as well, I would want him to go through the sheep dip before he even walked in the door let alone sat on the sofa ugh! or on the shared loo seat let alone anything else!

van22663

So sorry to hear about your situation hun. We are all very different and we all have different levels of what we will and wont tolerate. The very bottom line is what YOU are prepared to put up with. Whatever you decide, take one thing at a time. Dont rush to move house, you have kids, so you get priority over the house. I am on my own, 2 kids, receive some benefits and I got a mortgage, so dont think that you wont be able to do that alone.
The mans classic line of "you werent giving me enough attention" is his way of justifying what he was doing. He is the one at fault, not you.... pardon you if you were not able to give him your undivided attention while you were running a home and raising his children. I do hope it works out for you, remember that the most damage done to kids is usually before the divorce/separation when they can see their parents at loggerheads and not after.
Good luck and kep us posted.

van22663

Sorry, kep us posted is obviously KEEP us posted. X

xbabex

I know its been up a while so things may have moved on. I have only just joined the site..
I know its strange but I feel sorry for him really..He will lose you and the respesct of his children..
You will not have to move them from the home I am sure till they are at least finished school.
You don't say if they know yet? Has he asked you want you want to do, or told you what he wants? Do you want to leave him?
I guess he will leave it to you. After all he is weak...
Why do you think you are going mad? Angry, lost, want revenge (very natural) or is it just the legal/financial issues?
Just remember its his problem nothing you could have done to change it.
He would have still done this no matter what. Its what he enjoys doing..
I have been married for 30 years with 2 grown up kids and we may be splitting up and it scares the hell out of me even if it is what I want.
People always asume that I will be looking for another man!! No way I want to enjoy life as ME! Take one day at a time and get legal advice before doing anything..My guess is that you will be soon very happy; as you...Keep us updated..

Alisonsvilla

how are things going.

I can imagine-I bet you feel like you are on a rollercoaster.

Hang on in there-it will get better-although you don't think it will at this stage.

My husband has now lost all of his family-everything we worked for and built up together-crazy isn't it?

softwaremad

as an alternative to others who have posted responses i suppose you could stay with him and get out more yourself - get out with friends and start enjoying your life socialising is good for the soul - dont let yourself be a doormat as it seems he has used you as one. get out have fun and do some using back - hes still in the house then (free baby sitter) and you get to raise your confidence and self esteem then you will be in a better position to decide what you want.