A question on depression

absolutebounder

roversbabe wrote: »

Thanks again! I appreciate you getting back to me about this

rb

You say you have lived with the black dog for many years. can you say why you think it started. can you say how you are affected today and what help or treatment you have had or are getting now. i am interested in one or two techniques that I think could be useful but do not know if regular counsellors and doctors are using them. from initial research and obseving posts her I think not.

onewingedangel

I've always suffered from deppression, and have been on anti depressants since 12 years old. I suppose thinking back i was always down as a child, but at that age I noticed i was feeling differently from all my friends and went to the docs.I also started self harming.

absolutebounder

onewingedangel wrote: »

I've always suffered from deppression, and have been on anti depressants since 12 years old. I suppose thinking back i was always down as a child, but at that age I noticed i was feeling differently from all my friends and went to the docs.I also started self harming.

How old are you now if you dont mind me asking. You say you were always down but do you have any happy memories.
What was home life like ie dominant parents abuse fostered etc.
Have you done any anchoring of happy memories so that you can draw on the emotion at any time with counsellors?

onewingedangel

"How old are you now if you dont mind me asking. You say you were always down but do you have any happy memories.
What was home life like ie dominant parents abuse fostered etc.
Have you done any anchoring of happy memories so that you can draw on the emotion at any time with counsellors?"

Hi there.
I'm 25 now.
The thing is my home life was great, I couldnt have wished for a better family, though at the back of my mind i always wondered if the loved me, even though we r a close family. i was bullied at school, but the main reason i think was i had low self esteem and felt I wasn't worth anything, ugly, fat, etc.
I haven't been to see a councsellor or anything as i stopped self harming as soon as my son was born as i had someone else who needed me. I still get low from time to time, but i definatly feel a difference from the anti depressants. they tried to cut thm down when i was pregnant, but I started having suicidal thoughts again, so they put me back up to my normal dosage.
If u have any other questions, i dont mind answering.

crank_girl

onewingedangel wrote: »

"How old are you now if you dont mind me asking. You say you were always down but do you have any happy memories.
What was home life like ie dominant parents abuse fostered etc.
Have you done any anchoring of happy memories so that you can draw on the emotion at any time with counsellors?"

Hi there.
I'm 25 now.
The thing is my home life was great, I couldnt have wished for a better family, though at the back of my mind i always wondered if the loved me, even though we r a close family. i was bullied at school, but the main reason i think was i had low self esteem and felt I wasn't worth anything, ugly, fat, etc.
I haven't been to see a councsellor or anything as i stopped self harming as soon as my son was born as i had someone else who needed me. I still get low from time to time, but i definatly feel a difference from the anti depressants. they tried to cut thm down when i was pregnant, but I started having suicidal thoughts again, so they put me back up to my normal dosage.
If u have any other questions, i dont mind answering.

Don't write counselling off. Its not just about removing symptoms in the short term - its an effective way of building up your internal resources and dealing with the root cause. Antidepressants should only be a short term measure in the majority of cases.

I've found it really useful in just dealing with the day-to-day grind of depression and the spiralling negative thoughts that come with it.

onewingedangel

crank_girl wrote: »

Don't write counselling off. Its not just about removing symptoms in the short term - its an effective way of building up your internal resources and dealing with the root cause. Antidepressants should only be a short term measure in the majority of cases.

I've found it really useful in just dealing with the day-to-day grind of depression and the spiralling negative thoughts that come with it.

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Yeah i've heard that it can really help. I think when I was younger ecause I felt like an outsider, i didn't want to feel any more excluded, but I think if i had to start feeling suicidal again i would definatly go for councelling.
Thanks for this though.:o

crank_girl

onewingedangel wrote: »

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Yeah i've heard that it can really help. I think when I was younger ecause I felt like an outsider, i didn't want to feel any more excluded, but I think if i had to start feeling suicidal again i would definatly go for councelling.
Thanks for this though.:o

Why wait? Prevention is better than cure after all. Funny thing about mental health is people only ever use the term to refer to poor mental health. There are lots of things you can do when you are feeling well to keep yourself that way, particularly if you are prone to depression and anxiety.

absolutebounder

onewingedangel wrote: »

"How old are you now if you dont mind me asking. You say you were always down but do you have any happy memories.
What was home life like ie dominant parents abuse fostered etc.
Have you done any anchoring of happy memories so that you can draw on the emotion at any time with counsellors?"

Hi there.
I'm 25 now.
The thing is my home life was great, I couldnt have wished for a better family, though at the back of my mind i always wondered if the loved me, even though we r a close family. i was bullied at school, but the main reason i think was i had low self esteem and felt I wasn't worth anything, ugly, fat, etc.
I haven't been to see a councsellor or anything as i stopped self harming as soon as my son was born as i had someone else who needed me. I still get low from time to time, but i definatly feel a difference from the anti depressants. they tried to cut thm down when i was pregnant, but I started having suicidal thoughts again, so they put me back up to my normal dosage.
If u have any other questions, i dont mind answering.

Bullying certainly doesnt help but then kids can be very cruel and hopefully you can leave all that in the past. One of the ways of beating this is to anchor the emotion of success in your mind every time you feel or do something good and set a trigger such as squeezing your fingers together so those emotions come back when you need them.
Just in case you dont know what I mean by an anchor. It is something that triggers a memory in the same way that when you listen to the radio every so often a song comes along that takes you to a particular event in your life.
Anchors can be very powerful both in a positive way as well as a negative way. The trick is to learn to control them.
Im short of time at present but will try and revisit shortly.

onewingedangel

Thanks for your comments. I honestly feel fine now though, but i understand what u mean, it would be much better to deal with the problem.
To be honest, my son makes everything worthwhile. i wouldnt change a thing if it meant not having him. Soppy i know.lol

onewingedangel

Thanks for your comments. I honestly feel fine now though, but i understand what u mean, it would be much better to deal with the problem.
To be honest, my son makes everything worthwhile. Soppy, i know.lol
The good thing is though that i'm no longer on diazepam for my anxiety and panic attacks, but the next time i am at the docs for more tablets I will ask about conselling.
Thanks.:o