Depression Support Thread

juno

Woohoo, a n00b! :hello: Ninnins

Sazbo

santashelper wrote: »

:sad: feel down tonight you know the way it goes sometimes you can feel lower than others any way my husband says whats wrong with you nothing i say just feel a bit down, his response oh is that all i tried to say i feel unappreciated so he says what do you want then to go out my reply is not tonight as i feel tired, like you do when you feel down so then he goes off on one about he cant please me so i tried to explain a woman needs notice to choose what shes wearing and get in the mood so he says well do you want to go out next week so i say yes then he walks off muttering about the cost of going out.

I cant help having depression and am finding his comments are not very helpful we are going to relate at the moment and at the end she says do you both want to come back next week, well your the expert he says you tell us whether we should come back her response was well it looks as if one person wants to and the other person does'nt how can i win when im hitting my head against a brick wall

Hi santas :hello:

Big hugs angel. I know where you're coming from xx Sometimes just a little support seems so much to ask doesn't it? How long have you and oh been going to relate? Do you think it's helping? If not, do you think it might be worth trying a different counsellor? It wasn't very helpful of oh to say to her "what do you think", obviously i dont know the situation, but it seems to me that it might be a way of him avoiding talking about how he actually feels? Does he have stuff he's struggling with? Just my thoughts hun xx Are you, or would you consider having counselling on your own?

Take care hun.

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxx

Sazbo

Ninnins wrote: »

Couldn't believe my luck in browsing through to find a support forum dedicated to emotional and mental well-being. Problem is, when you are trying to save money, it's quite difficult to make yourself feel better, albeit fleetingly, by getting your hair done, a beauty treatment or the like. It's one of the reasons for my debt in the first place!

Any other contributors hit a 'wierd' stage in their (late forties) life?? It feels like my batteries are running out, my power-pack needs recharging, my zest or spark is just about to fizzle out - you get my drift ... and yet I still need to keep vibrant and active as I have a demanding career and I'm running a home single-handedly for three adults (two dependant sons who are grown up but still living at home).

Any shared experiences gratefully received!

Hiya Ninnins :hello: welcome to the thread hun

Yeah, I'm definitely going through a weird stage... a very extended one lol:rolleyes::D

Would it be possible to get treatments done at beauty schools by students or trainee haridressers? I've done that myself - might keep the costs down. And go out for long walks or cycling? When work and home is demanding it's important to keep up nutrition etc, so yr getting all the energy need. Also, when your running around after other people all the time, find time to do stuff for you.

Take care.

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxx

meyore

Hi saz, how are you? Haven't seen you posting for ages
Xx

Horasio

Hi everyone

Feel soooo tired. Settling a bit more now and less manic, enjoyed the rain today, relaxing and felt it was OK to stay in and sort.

Still not got broadband - why can't internet providers provide the net as fast as other services?

santashelper_2

Sazbo wrote: »

Hi santas :hello:

Big hugs angel. I know where you're coming from xx Sometimes just a little support seems so much to ask doesn't it? How long have you and oh been going to relate? Do you think it's helping? If not, do you think it might be worth trying a different counsellor? It wasn't very helpful of oh to say to her "what do you think", obviously i dont know the situation, but it seems to me that it might be a way of him avoiding talking about how he actually feels? Does he have stuff he's struggling with? Just my thoughts hun xx Are you, or would you consider having counselling on your own?

Take care hun.

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxx

i had counselling through my gp on my own which covered issues of confidence and support over my parents not being supportive in my life which has helped me to see i have always had low self esteem because of this situation with my parents and recognising they would never change has helped me to see i needed to move on from hoping they would change i suffered with burnout and a breakdown 4 years ago so this has been going on for a while my gp suggested i went to relate as i explained my husband was not showing the support i needed. It is possible he has issues as his dad left when he was very young and hes never wanted to know him and his stepdad died when he was in his 20s which we talked about at the meeting but his opinion is he doesent have issues and when she asked why he thought he was there his reply was i dont know i dont have a problem

Sazbo

santashelper wrote: »

i had counselling through my gp on my own which covered issues of confidence and support over my parents not being supportive in my life which has helped me to see i have always had low self esteem because of this situation with my parents and recognising they would never change has helped me to see i needed to move on from hoping they would change i suffered with burnout and a breakdown 4 years ago so this has been going on for a while my gp suggested i went to relate as i explained my husband was not showing the support i needed. It is possible he has issues as his dad left when he was very young and hes never wanted to know him and his stepdad died when he was in his 20s which we talked about at the meeting but his opinion is he doesent have issues and when she asked why he thought he was there his reply was i dont know i dont have a problem

Well it sounds as though your oh might very well have stuff that needs to be worked through, but maybe he's not ready to at the minute. Which doesn't help you of course. Perhaps it's worth pursuing with relate. Sounds like the counsellor is aware of this and maybe she can bring you both to a point where you both know where the hurts lie. At least once you both know where stuff's buried, then you can decide the best way forward maybe? Hope that makes sense.

love,
Sazzy xxxxx

Sazbo

CCStar wrote: »

Hi everyone

Feel soooo tired. Settling a bit more now and less manic, enjoyed the rain today, relaxing and felt it was OK to stay in and sort.

Still not got broadband - why can't internet providers provide the net as fast as other services?

Hiya CC, good to see you :wave:

Glad things are settling down for you. Moving is always so flippin stressful innit?:rolleyes:

Re: broadband - in my experience they are hopeless generally. I guess telephony etc is more lucrative for ISPs so they dont bother about sorting broadband in a hurry:rolleyes: But not good enough really.

What are your plans for tomorrow? Still sorting stuff?

Love,
Sazzy xxx

Sazbo

meyore wrote: »

Hi saz, how are you? Haven't seen you posting for ages
Xx

Hiya meyore hun :wave: bless your heart xx

Last two weeks have been a bit difficult and needed a time-out, but i'm ok xx

You can talk tho, stranger:D How's things with you? Is your OH still away?

lots love
sazzy xxxx

santashelper_2

Sazbo wrote: »

Well it sounds as though your oh might very well have stuff that needs to be worked through, but maybe he's not ready to at the minute. Which doesn't help you of course. Perhaps it's worth pursuing with relate. Sounds like the counsellor is aware of this and maybe she can bring you both to a point where you both know where the hurts lie. At least once you both know where stuff's buried, then you can decide the best way forward maybe? Hope that makes sense.

love,
Sazzy xxxxx

thanks

hopefully relate will be able to help its a painful time at the moment i just hope the issues can be resolved