Depression Support Thread

Sazbo

santashelper wrote: »

im glad i made you smile.

Sazbo thanks for your comments

Hope everyone else is having a good day today

No problem at all xx How are you today hun? When's your next session with relate?

I'm not too bad... been busying myself with breadmaking today... anything's preferable to thinking too much!:o

Hiya Shaz :hello: glad you had a good day with the boys. Karting sounds fun! I'd love to try it, but knowing my luck i'd get 10 points on my licence:rolleyes::D

Uh-oh... red alert, Sazzy's radar's going off - there's a Tiff on the loose! :eek: *sazzy turns out lights and draws curtains* Only kidding my darling tiffy hun! :kisses3: I know you got a lot on your kitty plate the next few days - I'll be in touch ok? Take care sweetheart xxx

Much love and kisses to you all. Hope you enjoy what's left of the weekend.

Sazzyxxxxxxxxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok,I had a nice dinner at my parents then we went for a walk,I went to get some trousers suitable for the Gym and this week I have to buy some trainers,I am really nervous as the induction aproaches but I will be fine

Hope you are well Sazzy,dont worry about Tiffy I will defend you if needs be;) just say the word and Tulip will be there with bells on :rotfl:


Have a nice evening everyone

*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Sazbo

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok,I had a nice dinner at my parents then we went for a walk,I went to get some trousers suitable for the Gym and this week I have to buy some trainers,I am really nervous as the induction aproaches but I will be fine

Hope you are well Sazzy,dont worry about Tiffy I will defend you if needs be;) just say the word and Tulip will be there with bells on :rotfl:

Have a nice evening everyone

*hugs* to those that need one

love and light,

Katie xxx

:rotfl::rotfl:'with bells on' lol. See, I knew I could always count on you Katie hun;):T:D

Don't be nervous about the induction, you'll be fine. (I nearly typed, "Don't be nervous about the abduction" lol dippy Saz!)

What you up to tonight hun?

Sxx

Tulip

Sazbo wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:'with bells on' lol. See, I knew I could always count on you Katie hun;):T:D

Don't be nervous about the induction, you'll be fine. (I nearly typed, "Don't be nervous about the abduction" lol dippy Saz!)

What you up to tonight hun?

Sxx

Just going to read a magazine I got this afternoon and watch some tv I think to wind down before bed :rotfl: at you nearly typing abduction.What are you doing tonight

love and light,

Katie xxx

Sazbo

Tulip wrote: »

Just going to read a magazine I got this afternoon and watch some tv I think to wind down before bed :rotfl: at you nearly typing abduction.What are you doing tonight

love and light,

Katie xxx

lol, you know what it was - i was reading this article yesterday about robbie williams being interested in UFO abductions - so i blame robbie!:o:D

Pretty much the same hun xx Trying to avoid thinking about monday and going back to work, but hey ho... no rest for the wicked eh?:D

Sxxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Yep - that's right sazzy hunnie - you all asked for it...
IT'S TIFFING TIME!!!

And in response to any requests for smarties, my considered answer is



Take care everyone - safe journeys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

I am off now Saz as I need to rest,catch up again soon

chat tomorrow everyone

Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

Tiff wrote: »

Hi guys!
Yep - that's right sazzy hunnie - you all asked for it...
IT'S TIFFING TIME!!!

And in response to any requests for smarties, my considered answer is



Take care everyone - safe journeys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

takes out the Smarties she has put aside for emergencies like this


sorry Tiff but the answer is yes to Smarties


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi skinty!:hello:
Sorry to have taken so long to reply hunnie - Life has a habit of getting in the way sometimes. You are most welcome here angel.
Let's have a look here...

[quote-skinty]...
I am really down. Part depression, part pre-menstrual, part genuinely upset over stuff.
I should be in bed but I am sitting her drinking wine wishing I could have a cigarette with tears in my eyes.
I HATE feeling like this! I want to be in control of my emotions! I should be happy for crying out loud.
I just need a bit of a hug.[/quote]

Ok hun, no-one says we have to be anything - it's the high expectations we have of ourselves that is the real problem. You will be happy again sweetie because we have a whole range of emotions that we all go through - it's what makes us human. Scant comfort I'm sure hunnie, but no-one's mood stays down forever. I don't know what triggered you to start posting, but I'm glad you did angel. There is a positive in your first post skinty, in the fact that you could identify a variety of causes for your low mood and that shows you've got some good insight into your issues. But I hear your pain angel and, as requested.....

skinty wrote:

Hi again. Feeling a bit better today and thank you for the hugs. decided I would be brave and instead of keeping everything inside would actually tell my OH what am worried about and he was helpful and listened. It was really good to talk about it instead of try to deal with it on my own so I am better today.
Still having a glass of wine, but I managed to do some housework and feel more on top of things.
Am having some wedding-related issues with someone in the bridal party and not sure what to do about it - only ten weeks to go now so do not want a big row just now! But i also do not want to pretend it is OK as this person is not behaving well.
But having shared with OH that really helps - we are dealing with it together. Tried to get in the sun a bit today as well. Really, really do not want to slide into being very ill just as I get married!!
I like the cat pics on here.
Hugs to Badgie especially - when are we having coffee again? (No I am not the ex!! ha ha)
Hope it is OK to ramble in here!

Cat lovers are especially welcome here, skinty!
You should feel really proud of yourself for opening up to OH about your problems hunnie! Talking things over with someone you trust can make things a lot easier - you've shared what's upsetting you and you got support and a different perspective. I'm really happy that OH helped - you must be rally relieved. I bet you wish you'd done it sooner don't you, hun? And you should be able to say anything to your OH hunnie - that's part of love.

Congratulations on your impending wedding angel! Ten weeks will fly by. I don't know what the problem is with the person in the bridal party hun, but surely it's better to get it sorted now, rather than having it hang over you and snowball and then be pushed into dealing with it when there's only 2 weeks to go? This is your day and you have every right to have things as you want them. I know it can be uncomfortable angel, but if you speak to those concerned calmly and reasonably then you will have done the right thing. It will be a load of your mind. You won't get this special day back again hunnie, so make it the best it can be for you and OH.

Now, there was another Tiffy thought I wanted to voice, angel. Any bride is usually frazzled until the moment they reach the altar. They've co-ordinated everything with the precision of a NATO exercise and are on edge waiting for something to go wrong. On top of that bless you, you're worried about your mental ill health too. Stress and worry is going to make things a lot harder for you and they can make people ill. So, see your dr hunnie if you're concerned and keep looking after yourself physically (eating, sleeping etc.) as well as mentally. Make sure you've got all the meds you'll need if you are on any. Let people help you as much as they can - delegate the little stuff. Set aside some ''You Only'' time every day, to empty your mind and do some relaxing. Why not keep a journal of these final weeks leading up to your wedding? It'll relieve the stress and give you a precious keepsake in years to come. The big morning will dawn with the realization that all has been done that can be done and now all you have to do is enjoy your day, so try and start feeling that way now skinty and enjoy the time leading up to the wedding.

Hey missy - be careful with our gilly-badgie! It's badgie season and yes, they look cute, but they can be unpredictable at the best of times. Just kidding gilly hun - you're a sweetheart!
Anyway hun, I hope this has helped a little. Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi miro!:hello:
Hey hunnie - how are you?
I found you tucked away in a corner of page 18 and wanted you to know you're always in my thoughts.

miro wrote:

Just popping in to say hello.
I hope we are all doing as well as can be and that the summer months prove fruitful.
I'm not around much at the moment as life and myself seem to dislike each other even more. I'm not sure how much more I can take of life, but i'm still breathing as I type this. I've been told to think of the future and the positives it may bring - a bit difficult when 99% of what you know is death, pain, destruction and lack of love and affection. I mean, who would want an unattractive, mentally damaged, in debt idiot like me, with my history, albeit none of it my fault.
Take care all and I hope positive things are happening in all your lives.
Miro

I'm glad you're hanging in there sweetheart.
May I remind you, that there's a hoard of people here who really care for you angel. You're a great personality and you've brought so much to the thread miro! I know that's not the same as having an in-your-face-live person around, but it is sincerely meant. The way you wrote about yourself is not the way anyone else would. We're our own worst critics and we punish ourselves with the language we use about ourselves. When that becomes a regular habit, it's hard to see any light angel.

As you'll know through The Tiff Chronicles, I can relate to some of what you've said. And I know how much it hurts. To be asked to imagine a very bright, happy future is more than a little unfair because that's what we were already expecting before things happened to us. And after all, it's not something that people generally do and when we're told to do this, it almost dismisses all we've been through. If you were bouncing around and over the moon after all you've been through sweetie, then I'd be really worried about you. There's no set time limit for healing hunnie, so I'd urge you to keep going. What I will tell you, is that nothing stays the same and miro, you can still have a life where those bad things won't be the dominant ones.
What I do hear is your pain angel, all of which is very real and you'll start to heal from it a piece at a time because everything changes. A step at a time, remember? Some things obviously can't be healed and replaced, I know hun. But by physically planning for a future, it will move you further away from the painful past that's holding on to you. And sweetheart, it's okay to move on from a lot of things - there's nothing wrong in that. Three words jumped out at me from your post near the end hunnie - ''with my history''. That's how we have to look at some things sometimes - as history. Hold on to those words hun, because history is not the same as the future.
So don't go galloping through the daisies if you don't feel like it miro - no-one expects that. Start with little plans, where you will see a more immediate change - meeting people, evening/day classes, something that you'd like to try and slowly move on to the big stuff like a change of home for example, over a longer period of time. You're a survivor miro - and you're good at it, regardless of what you say.

Besides, you're not leaving me here on my own with this lot to take all the blame!!!

So miro my friend, I'll send you some Tiffy hugs (yes, all right - and smarties!) and give your own final words back to you but re-tiffed...
positive things will happen in your life. Be kind to yourself angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx