Depression Support Thread

Horasio

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Why the heck are all these people from secondary school adding me on Facebook? Most of them didn't even like me, and why the heck did my ex who apparently hates me add me on Facebook?

I sense ulterior motives......

.....or they could just be surprised that I'm not a geek anymore, but I'm going with the ulterior motives thing at the moment....

xx

There is reason we don't keep in touch with ex schoolmates.

I got in contact with some old mates on Friend's Reunited a few years back and realised why I didn't keep in touch. Some people meet some lovely lifelong friends at school, but my generation were not that friendly, very competitive and critical. I tend to get on better with people who are older (not grumpy judgmental women in their 50s but women in their 70s are great!!) and younger people.

LadyMorticia

I completely know what you mean Ccstar. I made some lifelong friends at school. That's where one of my best and closest friends and I met but then there were some people who tried to stab me in the back any chance they could get.

I think I will only accept people who were nice to me because most of the people who are trying to add me bullied me at school.

xx

Horasio

Taken from another forum and thought it was very interesting.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life.

Horasio

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I completely know what you mean Ccstar. I made some lifelong friends at school. That's where one of my best and closest friends and I met but then there were some people who tried to stab me in the back any chance they could get.

I think I will only accept people who were nice to me because most of the people who are trying to add me bullied me at school.

xx

You don't have to accept the nasty people as your Facebook friends, select the ones who make you feel happy.

slowlyfading

I notice that no one's online now, but I'm so low today. sigh. and I know I haven't posted on here for a while, but I've not felt I had anything to say.

feelinggood_2

Sorry you are low SF. Whats up? xx

dawnylou

SF, sorry to hear you are having a bad day, hope things get a bit better for you as the day goes on x

feelinggood_2

Hey Dawnylou, hows you?

slowlyfading

feelinggood wrote: »

Sorry you are low SF. Whats up? xx

I've got my final exam on wednesday, and am really really worried about it. sigh. how are you today? xx

Tiff_2

Hi blues!:hello:
I'm so sorry for not replying sooner angel, but I look forward to getting to know you and I'm glad you posted hun.

blues wrote:

Hi all, I haven't posted on here before but I'm feeling desperate and could do with some advice. I'm posting under an AE as I don't want people (mean ones!)to know who I am and judge me.

You won't be the first one to use an AE hun and you are welcome regardless.
Anyone who judges you angel, needs to be part of a new mental health extreme diet - you drop them like a ton of bricks, and lo and behold - you're suddenly generally about 11 stone lighter!

blues wrote:

I have been suffering depression for quite a while, actually I'm suicidal as I can't see a way out of my problems, but they are not to do with money (even tho I don't have any). Basically, I have been having psycotherapy for about 8 months, twice a week just lately as I feel so sh*t. I've been referred to see a psychiatrist by my doc and start antidepressants when I collect them.

Before anything else, please keep yourself safe hunnie. If you feel yourself even moving in that direction, you need to see your dr asap. As you're already a client of the mental health services, you should have access to the crisis team. If you don't know their number hun, call your mental health clinic/dr and ask for it.

Of course, there's always the Samaritans - owl posted their number yesterday - and of course NHSDirect, who do provide mental health services. The bravest thing of all when you're in that situation is to pick up the phone and ask for help. There are other organizations who can help, depending upon your situation and many can be found at the national charity MIND's website - here's the link for that angel:

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Links.htm

I hear you're feeling desperate angel but you have to think this through. Suicide isn't the way hunnie - sadly, it's what some very poorly people turn to in the hope that at least they'll be out of pain and fear that nothing can resolve the problems. Thankfully, they rarely succeed and often end up even more ill - both physically and mentally - than before. I'm not judging you blues, and I sincerely hope that you won't take that step hunnie and give everything else a chance to help.

blues wrote:

Has anyone seen a pyschiatrist? I'm scared they will Section me, or will he/she just chat? Why should I see a pyschiatrist instead of psychotherapist or doc? I'm scared enough of seeing a psychiatrist to lie and say I'm ok. Sorry if this sounds muddled, it's just like my head.

First rule of recovery angel - always be completely honest! They'll have heard it all before, so don't worry blues. If they don't know about it, they can't help you with it. You're likely to have an informal chat as an assessment with your psychiatrist. They're just like any other medical professional, it's just a different part of the body.And angel - many people feel like that at first. You have to remember hunnie - these people are professionals and they're on your side. You did the hardest part, the day you asked for help.

The general intention behind mental ill health treatment, imho, is to, as much as possible, keep you at home, living your life the best way you can, with as few drugs, if any, as possible. They will consult you at every step - you are part of your own recovery! They don't lock people up and throw away the key anymore either. Even if, by some strange chance you were admitted, a lot of clinics have rooms that are more like hotel rooms, generally en-suite and without locks.
The purpose of being admitted is to get some basic intensive support for you. I don't know your situation angel, but it is highly unlikely that you'll be admitted. There is such a room shortage and even if you do go in, it's usually only for a short break. If you do get offered help as an inpatient angel, it'll be a voluntary stay and with the best intentions of putting a care package together to best support you. It's not as frightening as it sounds sweetie. And like I say hun, it would be highly unlikely to happen. The only time they section people is if they're a very serious risk to themselves and/or others and they refuse help.

I know all these job titles are scary hun, but once you know who does what, I think you'll feel better. A psychiatrist can prescribe medications if you both think they would help. They'll explain what help they think they could offer you. Again, there are other options such as day centres with support staff and various groups and further counselling - so it's not all about meds, hun.
Again from MIND's site, I think this link will be useful for many of us:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Factsheets/History+of+mental+health/A+brief+guide+to+whos+who+in+mental+health.htm

blues wrote:

Wow, what a nice bunch you lot are here, it's not what you get in Discussion Time or the Benefits board is it:eek: . Thanks for your replies and I feel a bit more reassured by the replies about the psychiatrist,I presume it is only one visit to see them, rather than going to see them several times. Well, the psychotherapy is good but realistically I'm not sure I would be in such a cr*p place if I hadn't had it, BUT it has got to the point where I am very appreciative of the time the therapist gives to me (it's a woman), I see her twice a week and without it I'm sure I would have killed myself by now. I picked up the antidepressants today and will start them tomorrow, I've resisted them so far but even I think I need some help!
Sorry if I sound like a drama queen, really I'm not

Lol - I don't know about those boards hun, but yes, we're a pretty okay group of people, blues. We've all had a variety of experiences and there's a basic respect for each other that people here have for others. Many have been where you're at now.

You may see the psychiatrist once, but if you both decide that they can help you, then you might see them every few weeks or months, just to review the situation and see that you're getting all the help you need, and that the support you have - medicinal or otherwise - is working. Everyone is an individual situation you see angel. They really do just want to help you - please try and remember that. To me, that's just being a good dr. They're not going to just throw some meds at you and then just turn their backs on you angel - which to me, is not a very responsible way of looking after clients.

I hope you've picked up your prescription and started your meds hun. Don't hesitate to call your dr, or pharmacist, if you have any questions about them. Whatever the med is, you're generally started on the lowest dose to avoid any reactions and they tend to take a while to kick in as well.

You've admitted yourself angel that you need help and the input you've had so far has helped you. Maybe it's just time for some more support? It can feel scary when you don't know what to expect I know hun, and you've asked some really comon questions too. But you've got nothing to lose blues, and everything to gain.
I'm not a professional hunnie, so always use your own judgement as with anything else. I hope this has helped reassure you a little sweetie. Please feel free to come back and post whenever you want to - you're most welcome here.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx