Depression Support Thread

meyore

CCStar wrote: »

Here is something I took a photo of when I was on holiday in the States when I stayed in a rental house.

Thats really true, I love those sort of things. I have one somewhere, I'll type it in at some point when I'm less knackered.

How are you ccstar?

Xx

meyore

INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE

Nepali Good Luck Tantra Totem

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three R's:
   • Respect for self
   • Respect for others and
   • Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone.
9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back,you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Do all you can to create a tranquil, harmonious home.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
19. Call your mother.
20. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

shazza40

Have given in and started taking my anti-depressants. My sleep pattern worse than before ie dont sleep. Do you normally have pressure in your head when taking the tablets? Hugs to everyone

LadyMorticia

Why can't I sleep? I want to sleep so badly. I'm driving myself insane. I'm so exhausted. I'm so tearful. I'm so irritable. I hate being irritable. I hate myself so much right now.

xx

LadyMorticia

shazza40 wrote: »

Have given in and started taking my anti-depressants. My sleep pattern worse than before ie dont sleep. Do you normally have pressure in your head when taking the tablets? Hugs to everyone

Heya Shazza.

When I first started taking mine I had a pressure in the centre of my head, just above my nose. It was really painful.

xx

Horasio

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Why can't I sleep? I want to sleep so badly. I'm driving myself insane. I'm so exhausted. I'm so tearful. I'm so irritable. I hate being irritable. I hate myself so much right now.

xx

I know how you feel, I didn't sleep well yesterday and really feel odd. It would drive me nuts if I had this every night.

Initially my sleep problems came from living in noisy places and hate staying in hotels or flats.

I think lack of sleep can indicate unresolved issues.

Basically I feel my OH is so slack. He needs to be asked or told to do every single thing, he has very little initiative, it is very wearing and a real passion killer - I feel I am married to a puppet. He wants to set up in business and whilst I know he has a lot ability to do his job, I am not sure he has the get up and go to do it. Our son is even worse and my OH doesn't have the balls to sort him out and I am the ogre when I try. Whatever, my self image is shot and my weight is ballooning.

I really lost it with them today - I am so tired of them being so sloppy and not really doing much. My OH does a fair bit but I can't just leave him to it, I have to supervise and ask him to do everything. It is every day with no day off, so it can be stressful. Sometimes I would like to live alone for a while to relax, living with sloppy people all the time is hard work.

Of course losing it with them makes me feel and act ugly.

shazza40

Hi Lady M
its nice to know im not the only one:eek: Friday does seem along way off when waiting to get help, bit it'll soon come round. I cant sleep either it got worse since the tablets, supposed to get better in a fortnight. Kalms used to work as did valerian but dont know if i can mix with the meds. could be a goodnights sleep tho

budget_budd

RBK - I have a worker that I see once a week, I am seeing her tomorrow, she is coming to my house! :eek: . I hate having people here as everything is just a state I am so ashamed and embarrassed, I think everyone thinks I am too lazy to do it.

I guess Jen you are right although I feel like everyone thinks I am lazy and a waste of time, I just hate myself and living like this.

Anni and those of you who can't sleep, I can only sympathise, my only experience of sleeplessness is just after having babies and them feeding every three hours, but luckily for me those days have passed now and I do sleep well most of the time. I do know what its like to feel (and look) like a zombie and its horrible. I guess you have tried all the usual nice warm bath and lavender, nice warm milky drink? Reading makes me tired too.

CCstar my OH is the same, I feel he doesn't do anything to support and help me and he seems to come home from work and fall asleep, (some nights I leave him on the sofa and hope he's uncomfortable) I don't know he has no real idea what Im going through, and so many times I have felt my life would be easier without him, if he had been killed and not my brother things would be better.

LadyMorticia

CCStar wrote: »

I know how you feel, I didn't sleep well yesterday and really feel odd. It would drive me nuts if I had this every night.

Initially my sleep problems came from living in noisy places and hate staying in hotels or flats.

I think lack of sleep can indicate unresolved issues.

Basically I feel my OH is so slack. He needs to be asked or told to do every single thing, he has very little initiative, it is very wearing and a real passion killer - I feel I am married to a puppet. He wants to set up in business and whilst I know he has a lot ability to do his job, I am not sure he has the get up and go to do it. Our son is even worse and my OH doesn't have the balls to sort him out and I am the ogre when I try. Whatever, my self image is shot and my weight is ballooning.

I really lost it with them today - I am so tired of them being so sloppy and not really doing much. My OH does a fair bit but I can't just leave him to it, I have to supervise and ask him to do everything. It is every day with no day off, so it can be stressful. Sometimes I would like to live alone for a while to relax, living with sloppy people all the time is hard work.

Of course losing it with them makes me feel and act ugly.

It sounds like you do most of the work to be honest, which isn't fair on you. Your OH shouldn't have to be asked to do things and you shouldn't have to supervise. Just my opinion of course and I'm not criticising or anything, it just doesn't seem fair on you. It sounds like your OH and son are taking you for granted.

It really does sound like you need some you time. When people are under our feet all the time it can get very stressful and I'm not surprised you lost it to be honest. [[hugs]]

We all have good and bad days and we all get stressed or upset and lose it sometimes. You're not bad or ugly because you lost it hun. It makes you human. [[hugs]]

xx

slowlyfading

God, I think I may have just ruined the last three years at uni. How am I going to explain it to my mum.....