Depression Support Thread

Sugar_Coated_Owl

LM, I'm around for a bit if you need to chat (((HUGS)))

Hi, Sam, welcome to the thread. I guess at the moment you're just left thinking 'why?' Will she talk to you now? You would think after being together for so long you at least deserve a reason as to why she ended the relationship. If I were you I would try to speak with her, say you need to know why e.t.c so that you can have closure and allow yourself to move on.

There's no quick solution to the hurt/upset that you are feeling. Time is a great healer. After I split with an ex I honestly didn't know what to do with myself and couldn't imagine life without him in it but life does go on and you do eventually find the strength to move on.

It sounds like she was a fool to let you go and I'm sure in time you will find someone else who will love you and appreciate all the things that you do fo her.

(((HUGS)))

LadyMorticia

Thanks RBK. I think I will do a compromise with myself and just clean the kitchen.

Thanks for everything.

P.s. I love your avvy.

[[hugs]]

Night night.
xx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Take care of yourself LM Hope you manage to sleep well xxx (((HUGS)))

rizel23

razorbladekisses wrote: »

LM, I'm around for a bit if you need to chat (((HUGS)))

Hi, Sam, welcome to the thread. I guess at the moment you're just left thinking 'why?' Will she talk to you now? You would think after being together for so long you at least deserve a reason as to why she ended the relationship. If I were you I would try to speak with her, say you need to know why e.t.c so that you can have closure and allow yourself to move on.

There's no quick solution to the hurt/upset that you are feeling. Time is a great healer. After I split with an ex I honestly didn't know what to do with myself and couldn't imagine life without him in it but life does go on and you do eventually find the strength to move on.

It sounds like she was a fool to let you go and I'm sure in time you will find someone else who will love you and appreciate all the things that you do fo her.

(((HUGS)))

Thanks for your kind words, i have done all that, and get replies that she simple wasn't in love with me and could not see a future and that she was worn down, a lot had to do with a depressive job and long hours (social worker) but i tried to support as much as i could. Its just very hard to take as i wanted to meet up and discuss in person and she would have none of it, i do not and will not regret spending my time with her, but the more i look at things she honestly didn't really deserve the attention & love i gave her.

Its just so hard to deal with things and going back to not having someone you thought you could trust in so much when there capable of hurting you so much.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

It is hard to trust anyone again because you're afraid that they may hurt you just the same but it's important to remember that not everyone is going to be like your ex. It sounds like you tried your best in the relationship but unfortunately for whatever reason it just wasn't meant to be.

Do you have friends and family that you can talk to about how you are feeling? Are they quite supportive?

Diamond78

thinking of you juno.

Diamond78

hi to all the new comers, cant remember all your names but its to you all.
Sorry your all having a rough time.Sending you all hugs.xx

needtoearnmoremoney

Hi Sam

I don't post on here very often although I do read all the posts. My husband of 26 years decided that he "wants to live alone" and for us to see each other just as friends and moved out last July. I hit rock bottom and, having never suffered with depression before, was signed off work, cried all the time and couldn't cope.

however - now fast forward to today - whilst it really does still hurt, particularly when I've seen him (he came for a day trip to France with me yesterday) as I still love him - it does begin to get easier and I know that I'm starting to move on with my life and have even started to socialise a little (and yes I know that's easier said than done).

I suppose what I'm trying to say in a rather rambling way is that you need to grieve in your own way and for as long as you need. We are all different and so other people telling you to pull yourself together or to forget about her won't necessarily be right for you at this moment in time. BUT that moment will come

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I hope we're all safe and sound this morning? (Evening sazzy!)
I'm sending a huge Tiffy to our new clan members jay leigh ann(jay), budget budd(budd) and rizel23(riz)! I'm sorry that you're going through the situations that you are guys, but you are more than welcome here and I know you'll have benefitted from the input of the wonderful people here already.
I also do this periodically when we have a litter of new arrivals here - I'd just like to reassure you that yes, I do know I'm not a cat!

I'm also sending get well soon wishes to rbk, tulip and qb. Sorry to hear you've been poorly guys.



Tiffbits...

pc - hello hunnie. How are you? I should imagine you're on overdrive right now. Keeping you close to me hunnie.

juno - sorry to hear about your bird hunnie. Chuffin was lucky to have you as an owner. And well done for spotting that fake note. Thinking of you hun.

gilly-brocky-badger - I'll have a glass of whatever you're having hunnie! I love that word, 'serene' - what a wonderful way to feel. I'm glad for you hun, you've had a lot of stress lately. Tiffy hugs.

weegie - just remember to leave the ink to dry first next time angel - it's a dead giveaway! Hoping you're well hun.

rbk - lovely to see you posting again sweetie - please get well soon. Keeping you in my thoughts.

qb - glad you felt well enough to post - your fans were missing their hugs. Take care and feel better soon sweetie.

sazzy - are you up yet angel? How's your weekend going hun? Sorry I missed you the other night - extra blue smartie on it's way. When you find prince charming hun, ask him if he's got a brother. Be kind to yourself hunnie!

gario - hey gazzi - how did the move go hun? Which country did you end up in?! With you, anything is possible! Thinking of you angel.

rose - hope everything is well with you hun - you don't stand still for very long do you angel? Good luck job-hunting hunnie.

ladym - I'm sure the iron would be fine angel, but with electricity and water, it's never worth the risk - time for a new iron imho. Your hair looks lovely hun. Take care.

miro - how are you angel? I know things must be tough for you and we're all missing you. Thinking of you hunnie.

shaun - hope you've got brekkie on for us all hunnie. That'll be 25 fried eggs, 3 omelettes, 14 sausages, 20 rashers of bacon and 47 cups please! Hoping you're well angel.

ethel - what are you up to lady? I hope the family are fine hun - in my thoughts as always sweetheart.

to ilgd, bmf, ccstar, fg and to all our absent friends, I'm thinking of you all and wishing you well.

Right, the Tiffster's off for a catnap. I'll try and post to our new friends later so please don't think I'm ignoring you guys. here's hoping you all have a lovely Sunday. Stay safe.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi gem!:hello:
How are you angel?

gem wrote:

TIFF
No post from you today,hope you are ok,still waiting for the next Tiff chronicle ...

I know - I think someone locked the catflap, gem! I'm fine hunnie thank you. Don't get me started on The Tiff Chronicles! (see earlier post).

gem wrote:

I am ok thanks but you were right when you said i am one of the silent types.I am much better at listening(or reading)than talking about myself but i am ok,someone once said i am a survivor and i suppose i am but i would like to be happy rather than ok if you know what i mean.I suppose that goes for a lot of us on here,wish i had a magic wand lol.

That could have been me - and you are a survivor angel! Those that aren't survivors wouldn't be here to post sadly. And I think that this little corner of the thread really makes a difference to a lot of people.

I think we all go through the process of looking for that secret answer to everything for our mental health issues. The reading and research I've done on the subject would get me a doctorate at the OU - or at least Tiff Uni!
That's one of the saddest things really because you can learn all you want about it, but you can't make your body and mind just stop on command. If that were the case hun, I don't think this thread would be here. Whereas I care so much for all my Tifflings, there'd be nothing I'd like more than to wake up and find a group post saying,
''CURED - !''

I know what you mean about being happy rather than ok, gem. But let's remember too, that no-one is happy 100% of the time and you never know what's going on behind those ''happy people's'' front doors. Yes hunnie - you're a survivor and you will reach points where you are feeling more than just okay. And thank you, and all the others, for reading and listening to us all, it makes such a difference sweetheart to those who don't have someone around to do that for them. Whether you believe it or not hun, you all do make a difference - and I hope that makes you all feel more than a bit special.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx