Depression Support Thread

10past6

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Hello there.

Hello Lady :hello:

LadyMorticia

weegie.geek wrote: »

He sounds like exactly the type of person who'd take it badly, so I'm not sure you'll be able to not hurt his feelings. You're at least gonna try to let him down gently though, so however bad he does take it, it's both his problem and his fault. Please don't feel any guilt.

Hello you! I was wondering where you had been. I've missed you around these parts.

To be honest I did feel like he was coming on a bit strong. On the first day of us knowing eachother he was like "I really like" you etc, and kept re-iterating it. Then he started trying to make me promise that I'll never hurt him. I said I wouldn't hurt him intentionally but there's always going to be that risk of hurting someone unintentionally isn't there?

Some people don't like some people like that. The more rejections he gets, the more he'll come to realise that, and he'll try and suss out the situation before wading in and declaring his undying love.

On his bebo he has a photo album with people in it who have hurt him and as the description he has written someone horrible about them. Is it wrong that alarm bells are ringing in my head?.lol. Why do I always attract the needy, jumping in heads first type? .lol.

He should really think about the position he's putting you in by saying this stuff when you've obviously not given him reason to think it's reciprocal.

Yeah. I could maybe understand if I said "Omg. I totally like you too. Let's get to know eachother better and omg I so love you" etc.lol. but I have never said anything of the sort. He is a nice guy (from what I've seen and know so far) but at the moment I think that's all we'll ever be.

You've got the perfect get-out though. Explain to him that you're SO not ready for anything like that, and you're not sure when you will be. It's not like you're going to have a boyfriend next week (unless those plumbers come back? What happened with that? hehe I've not been around much lately), so you won't be lying to him for the sake of saving his feelings, it'll be the truth.

I was waiting for someone to mention the plumbers.lol.Stuart at hunts.mind keeps teasing me about it.lol. Do you mean what happened with the leak? Or what happened with the plumber? Okay, so nothing happened with the plumber but the wink adds a nice effect, don't you think?
Exactly. It takes me a long time to build up a relationship with a potential love interest anyway. I was just honest with him and told him I think he's a nice guy but I'm not ready for a relationship right now.

But yeah, hi people! I've not been around much. A mixture of not feeling well, and toothache/dentist visit. I'm TERRIFIED of the dentist. They gave me SO many injections. Whatever they were doing - i had my eyes closed tight - hurt so i kept asking for more and more... On the way out I felt the need to apologise for being such a big girl's blouse about it.

She was lovely though, and eastern-european with the accent to go with it. Rawr.

I was feeling quite "meh" all day, but then I won some money from a bonus thing one of the bookies I use gave me, so that's always nice. I might splash out tomorrow. Buy a book or two. :rotfl:

Sorry you haven't been feeling too well hun. [[[[[[hugs]]]]]] I hate the dentist. No matter how much anaesthetic they give me I can always feels the pain of what they are doing. They have to knock me out now, just for fillings.lol.
Ooo eastern-european you say.

Winning money is always good. What books are you going to buy?

Good to see you back.

xx

Maverick33

Hi Anni
I'll try to condense this post as i go along or it'll take up a whole page - haha.. Yeah i was prescribed Zopiclone, i can take one and it have no effect or it will kick in 4 or 5 hours later - it's kinda pot luck, if it does kick in then i get a few hours sleep but wake up and like you feel like a zombie most of the time from the lack of sleep..

wrote:

I hope the appointment with the new GP goes well, and that you build up a good relationship with them. A good relationship with a doctor can really make a difference. The doctor I see now is lovely and I won't see any other doctor now as we have built up a good relationship.

Sounds like having a good GP that understands is a bonus, i intend to go through everything with the new one and see what happens - fingers crossed.. Meds wise, i started on Cipralex then something else and the last one was Fluoxitine @ 20MG - tried them all for more than 2 months without any difference..

Work are not very helpful, hence the comment about maybe losing my job & hoping the appointment with OH will help.. I don't think there are nay grants, been looked into before by various people, so it's just me and my benefits which are just about enough to live on now i'm sorted accommodation wise..

wrote:

I don't think I personally handle it. The anxiety attacks are horrendous, and people look at me like I'm a freak, which adds to the distress. I just have to get out of the place I'm in, which can be very difficult if it's in the centre of town or something. I tried to jump in and put myself in situations I'm scared of and it made it worse. A lot of the time I can't even go out of the door.

Those scenarios sound so familiar, i seem to take one step forward by putting myself into situations thinking it will help and taking 10 steps back and retreating to the comfort of my flat..

wrote:

I'm not sure how to advise about the concentration thing as I'm not sure what aids concentration.lol. What type of music do you like? I'm really into metal.

I think the concentration will come back so not too worried about that - but it does get annoying - lol.. As for music, pretty eclectic and will give anything a listen, but i guess i swing towards indie bands - but always open to recommendations

I hope i've not condensed it too much and missed anything out..

Thanks again for your help, it's been a nice relief and made coming to this thread alot easier..

Shaun.

LadyMorticia

10past6 wrote: »

Hello Lady :hello:

:)How are you this very early morning? *looks at laptop clock* I'm going to be so zombified when I go to town later.lol.

xx

10past6

I'm good Lady thx, are you tired?

weegie.geek

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Hello you! I was wondering where you had been. I've missed you around these parts.

And what parts would those be? Oh, the thread. I getcha.

To be honest I did feel like he was coming on a bit strong. On the first day of us knowing eachother he was like "I really like" you etc, and kept re-iterating it. Then he started trying to make me promise that I'll never hurt him. I said I wouldn't hurt him intentionally but there's always going to be that risk of hurting someone unintentionally isn't there?

Definitely. I dunno what to say really. Poor guy sounds lonely and clingy. He's picked the wrong person though. Surely if he knows you well enough to like you like that, he knows you wouldn't be ready for anything?

On his bebo he has a photo album with people in it who have hurt him and as the description he has written someone horrible about them. Is it wrong that alarm bells are ringing in my head?.lol. Why do I always attract the needy, jumping in heads first type? .lol.

There's nothing wrong with throwing caution to the wind, but it's more than a little awkward and pretty creepy if it's only one-sided. :eek:

And the bebo thing is a little odd. Hell, there are lots of people I hate but to have a gallery devoted to them... Be careful with him, he sounds a bit mental.

Yeah. I could maybe understand if I said "Omg. I totally like you too. Let's get to know eachother better and omg I so love you" etc.lol. but I have never said anything of the sort. He is a nice guy (from what I've seen and know so far) but at the moment I think that's all we'll ever be.

Yeah, I hear you. Also though, not to be pessimistic, but why on earth would you willingly get into a relationship with someone who was so needy, so clingy, and takes rejection and being hurt so badly? If we draw a graph and extrapolate, the chances are the next relationship I find myself in will turn to !!!! eventually. I don't want that to happen, but it statistically will. If and when i happens I don't want to have to deal with a loony. If he's acting like a loony while he's trying to woo you, how's he going to be if and when you split up?

I was waiting for someone to mention the plumbers.lol.Stuart at hunts.mind keeps teasing me about it.lol. Do you mean what happened with the leak? Or what happened with the plumber? Okay, so nothing happened with the plumber but the wink adds a nice effect, don't you think?
Exactly. It takes me a long time to build up a relationship with a potential love interest anyway. I was just honest with him and told him I think he's a nice guy but I'm not ready for a relationship right now.

Did they fix your damp patch? Oh, the innuendo I could descend into just now...

Sorry you haven't been feeling too well hun. [[[[[[hugs]]]]]] I hate the dentist. No matter how much anaesthetic they give me I can always feels the pain of what they are doing. They have to knock me out now, just for fillings.lol.
Ooo eastern-european you say.

Yeah, I've not been too well, and the dentist thing didn't help the situation, but it got me out of the house at least. Is that as pathetic as it sounds when I read it back? Ha. Gary and his day trip to the dentist.

And yeah, I have a thing for the accent and stuff. Polish, Czech, Russian... Hrmmm...

Winning money is always good. What books are you going to buy?

I'm going to try and find a copy of "I Am America And So Can You" by Stephen Colbert. I've a feeling I'll be wasting my time trying to find it, but if I can't find it I'll just raid the charity shops and get random interesting-looking things I wouldn't think to look for otherwise.

Good to see you back.

xx

Thanks!

Glad you sound pretty cheerful. Things ok?

Oh, and the new Moonspell album is magic.

10past6

LadyMorticia wrote: »

To be honest I did feel like he was coming on a bit strong. On the first day of us knowing eachother he was like "I really like" you etc, and kept re-iterating it. Then he started trying to make me promise that I'll never hurt him. I said I wouldn't hurt him intentionally but there's always going to be that risk of hurting someone unintentionally isn't there?

xx

Reading the comments, it's an insecurity issue he has, he's looking for reasurrance.

LadyMorticia

Maverick33 wrote: »

Hi Anni
I'll try to condense this post as i go along or it'll take up a whole page - haha.. Yeah i was prescribed Zopiclone, i can take one and it have no effect or it will kick in 4 or 5 hours later - it's kinda pot luck, if it does kick in then i get a few hours sleep but wake up and like you feel like a zombie most of the time from the lack of sleep.

Sounds unpredictable.lol. It didn't have any effect on me whatsoever. I think I have a high tolerance for meds.. Have you ever taken any other sleeping pills? Zopiclone is the only sleeping pill I have taken.

Sounds like having a good GP that understands is a bonus, i intend to go through everything with the new one and see what happens - fingers crossed.. Meds wise, i started on Cipralex then something else and the last one was Fluoxitine @ 20MG - tried them all for more than 2 months without any difference.

Sometimes it can help to make a list of things you need to talk about, as when you're nervous it's easy to forget things. Sometimes it can take ages to find a med that works right for you, and sometimes meds won't be the right thing for you.

Work are not very helpful, hence the comment about maybe losing my job & hoping the appointment with OH will help.. I don't think there are nay grants, been looked into before by various people, so it's just me and my benefits which are just about enough to live on now i'm sorted accommodation wise.

What type of work do you do? Is it a specially trained job? Do you think it would be easier to get another job? Easier in the respect of being trained etc, as I have no idea what the job market is like now.lol.

Those scenarios sound so familiar, i seem to take one step forward by putting myself into situations thinking it will help and taking 10 steps back and retreating to the comfort of my flat.

I know that oh too well. I am the same a lot of the time. I find my home is my comfort zone. I feel safe here, and I feel like everywhere else is a danger zone. On a good day I can maybe go into town and still get panicky. On a bad day I can't even set foot out the door. When I do get panicky, I won't go out for maybe two weeks until I build up my strength and stamina again.

I think the concentration will come back so not too worried about that - but it does get annoying - lol.. As for music, pretty eclectic and will give anything a listen, but i guess i swing towards indie bands - but always open to recommendations

I hope i've not condensed it too much and missed anything out..

Thanks again for your help, it's been a nice relief and made coming to this thread alot easier..

Shaun.

I think I would get very annoyed if I was reading a book and was losing my concentration, as I am an avid reader. There have been days where I can't concentrate but it's never been ongoing. I hope your concentration does return.

I like some indie music. I like The Automatic and Kooks. I listen to a lot of different types of music but not rap, hip hop or R 'n' B.lol.

xx

LadyMorticia

10past6 wrote: »

I'm good Lady thx, are you tired?

Sort of, but I find it hard to sleep. I'm just going to reply to everyone here and then try and wind down for the night.lol.

xx

10past6

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Sort of, but I find it hard to sleep. I'm just going to reply to everyone here and then try and wind down for the night.lol.

xx

Lady, sometimes staring at a computer screen for hours on end, can interfere with the brain, thus causing it difficult to shut down, I've always suggested to people to have at least an hour away from the computer before going to sleep,

Try it sometime.