Depression Support Thread

Sazbo

Hi Carmen

Thanks for posting. Sorry to hear you're having a tough time of it. I'm afraid I can only post a brief reply at the moment, but I just wanted to suggest that if your son has underlying issues with alcohol and drugs, then it might be worth his considering counselling or specialist support for these issues. Anti-depressants are good as a short term measure, to give a 'breathing space' as it were, but they will not address the underlying issues in the longer term.

It may be worth going back to that understanding doctor and have a chat with them about what counselling or other support agencies may be of help to your son.

I wish you all the best; it can't be easy for you. In the meantime, please feel free to post here if it would help. There's a wonderfully supportive bunch of people here.

Take care and much love,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

Tiff_2

Hi ettie b!:hello:
And it's about time too! Do you know just how very much you've been missed here young lady? I was really worried in case the wardrobe you'd built with gario, had eaten you. I bet that wardrobe wasn't the ''Chippendale'' you thought you were ordering! :rotfl:

Talking of our lovely gario - (for those who don't know, he's better looking, but similar to, Donnie Osmond!) - he's being very flighty recently. Hope the ribs are better angel. Where's you at stenny hun? Now don't you make me come looking for you!!!
And pc, meyore, diamond and cc, among others, I'll be heading your way next with replies. Of course in Tiff Towers, 'next' has had a bad habit recently, of meaning anything from 1 hour to 3 weeks!


ettie - I digress. I do that a lot - think it's something to do with eating grass...

I think the whole thread jumped with joy on hearing from you angel! You really have been through the mill hunnie - but it sounds like you're finally on the road to recovery, thank heavens! Don't worry about managing the chicken and tuna sweetie - Tiffy will happily make the sacrifice to help you out with getting rid of those.
You wouldn't have gone through all that if you'd checked into my hospital hun.



I hope you continue to get better quickly ethel - no over-doing it! .....Although, as I mentioned staffing of the thread earlier, as well as still being Thread Ambassador to the UN, you are also now our very own Bionic Ethel!

Just want you to know that you are a very special part of this thread hunnie:A , and we're all with you in thought and sending you lots of love and hugs.
Welcome home, sweetheart.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

LadyMorticia

rose07 wrote: »

hi hun

how r u today?

yeah might be an idea to show her what you write, only if you feel comfortable to do so.

Art is a great way to express yourself, brings out our creative sides. Maybe you could do a piece of digital artwork, think about one things are troubling you atm, maybe write down a few words that symbolise how you feel, then create a piece of art to go with your words. And if you want to show it and talk bout it then i will listen

What memories do you get, is it sometimes to painful to remember?

Lol im always questioning things, i wrote a list of questions recently, helps to just write it down hun, even if you cant find the answers, but you can go through each question at a time, instead of it being all jumbled in ya head

take care
xxx

Heya.

I'm surviving - Anni style.lol.

I was abused as a child for 14 years so the memories are just of that and I get flashbacks and nightmares too. I've had extensive CAT to help me deal with it, but to no avail. I feel so stupid for getting upset over things that stopped happening 7 years ago.

xx

LadyMorticia

Heya Tiff.

slowlyfading

Tulip wrote: »

Hope the argument will be sorted between you and your friend though.

Thanks sweetie, its not really been sorted. hope you're having a good afternoon x

Diamond78 wrote: »

Hiya hun, how are you?Hope ok and not upset by the argument you have had with friend. Hopefully you would of both sorted it out by now and not fallen out. Hugs xx

Its not really been sorted at all sigh. oh well. how are you this afternoon? xx

Horasio

Did some cooking and making a coffee walnut cake:)

Watched some YouTube - anyone remember those scary public information films from the 1970s/80s?:D:eek:

slowlyfading

CCStar wrote: »

Did some cooking and making a coffee walnut cake:)

ooh yum, can i nick a slice?

Horasio

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Heya.

I'm surviving - Anni style.lol.

I was abused as a child for 14 years so the memories are just of that and I get flashbacks and nightmares too. I've had extensive CAT to help me deal with it, but to no avail. I feel so stupid for getting upset over things that stopped happening 7 years ago.

xx

You poor thing - some people are real pigs for putting people thro what you went thro - I hope they have been dealt with and it is quite normal to get the flashbacks. It does help to talk about it. I have horrible dreams about a job I had 27 years ago that was a nightmare:eek:

The abuse I got (which was mental) still haunts me.

LadyMorticia

CCStar wrote: »

You poor thing - some people are real pigs for putting people thro what you went thro - I hope they have been dealt with and it is quite normal to get the flashbacks. It does help to talk about it. I have horrible dreams about a job I had 27 years ago that was a nightmare:eek:

The abuse I got (which was mental) still haunts me.

Sorry it has taken me a little while to reply. I have become a bit of a PS2 dance game fanatic.lol.

The only thing that happened with regards to the abuse was that I was put into care at the age of 14. I was put into care as a baby fpr 4 months because of neglect and abuse but I was then placed back home and the abuse started again up until I was 14, when the social services got involved again and found out about everything. I was told by a court psychiatrist that I could sue the local social services department but I decided not to, as it wouldn't really take all of the hurt or memories away.

I'm sorry that you were abused too. I was mentally abused by my ex and the scars are still raw. ********hugs********

xx

Carmen

Gemini and Sazzy, thank you both for your helpful comments.

My son's drinking has been getting worse over the last few years, he says it helps him cope (they have had a rough few years) but he did ease off a little when he started to feel better on the medication. His drinking was always done in the house but now he is going to the pub with his 'friends' something he has never done without his partner, maybe that's how the drugs came back into his life.
He has been offered councelling, both at the Dr's and his place of employment but, he felt the meds would be enough. He is quite a shy person ( I was at his age) and finds it hard to chat to new people, unless he has had a drink!

I have just had a long chat to his partner. She is so distraught, saying he doing things which are so out of character for him damageing property! I'm quite convinced that this is down to the drugs because drinking only ever made him happy.
She pleaded with me to take him to our house, so that he would be 'safe' and maybe get well enough to go back to them.She loves him still but does not like him at the moment.
I know depression is an awful thing, I took meds for 6 years but last year managed to wean off them. Mine was work related and once that was eliminated things got better slowly. I talk to my son about this and how it is possible to cope with the things that life throws at you.
One looks back to their childhood and worry that maybe something happened and this is the result but, he has assured me that he had a normal happy childhood.
Now I am just rambling sorry.
Thanks for reading
Carmen x