When do CSA payments stop

KIRSYJ

Please help, my partner has a child aged almost 18 from a previous relationship, this child allegedly attends college. OH has received a letter from CSA asking for our housing costs and the interest rate on our mortgage etc. He is still paying the maintenance and always has but my question is, this child is almost an adult and why should when should this stop and surely we cant e expected to fund his student lifestyle too as we have a child of our own.

N71

KIRSYJ wrote: »

Please help, my partner has a child aged almost 18 from a previous relationship, this child allegedly attends college. OH has received a letter from CSA asking for our housing costs and the interest rate on our mortgage etc. He is still paying the maintenance and always has but my question is, this child is almost an adult and why should when should this stop and surely we cant e expected to fund his student lifestyle too as we have a child of our own.

CSA will stay in payment until he finishes college, when this child benefit ends, so if he goes back to college September for another year, it could go on til he's turned 19.

Mr_Green_Genes

N71 wrote: »

CSA will stay in payment until he finishes college, when this child benefit ends, so if he goes back to college September for another year, it could go on til he's turned 19.

... depending on what course he's doing. Not all college courses qualify.

KIRSYJ

does anyone know which courses are not covered?

kelloggs36

Contact child benefit centre, they will know

rosie-lee

KIRSYJ wrote: »

Please help, my partner has a child aged almost 18 from a previous relationship, this child allegedly attends college. OH has received a letter from CSA asking for our housing costs and the interest rate on our mortgage etc. He is still paying the maintenance and always has but my question is, this child is almost an adult and why should when should this stop and surely we cant e expected to fund his student lifestyle too as we have a child of our own.

At what age will you decide to no longer take care of your other child? You have decided to be with your partner despite the fact that he already had a child. Your partners responsibility to the child he created, started when he/she was born and will only end when they do.

I never understood that having a child would be like entering an 19 year maximum finance agreement. You should be glad to support him studying for a future.

cazziebo

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rosie-lee wrote: »

At what age will you decide to no longer take care of your other child? You have decided to be with your partner despite the fact that he already had a child. Your partners responsibility to the child he created, started when he/she was born and will only end when they do.

I never understood that having a child would be like entering an 19 year maximum finance agreement. You should be glad to support him studying for a future.

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KIRSYJ

Thanks to the last two posts obviously everyone has their view, but when you are actually supporting a hooligans smoking drugs and drinking habit and putting up with threat ands demands for money then feel free to judge!!

roo9

maybe thats because he lacked the father figure in his life.too many people these days dont care about the affect that it has on a child when a partner up and leaves and then does not bother to include him/her in plans or take on holidays.or just an odd few hours here and there,people are too selfish and their new partners are too blame a lot of the time.there is good in every child and it needs constant support and love to bring it out.so before you slate him.think towards what your attitude has been like?from what you have said in the above post kirsty,i dont think you have been much support.we bring the children to our lifes.and expect them to put up with our short falls.and up and leave.what right have we got to put our children through this.and then complain that they turn out for the worse.a child is for life.and while they are not earning they should be suported.and given the best that we can afford.sometimes its our attitude that needs changing.then maybe they will change.

justontime

roo9 wrote: »

maybe thats because he lacked the father figure in his life.too many people these days dont care about the affect that it has on a child when a partner up and leaves and then does not bother to include him/her in plans or take on holidays.or just an odd few hours here and there,people are too selfish and their new partners are too blame a lot of the time.there is good in every child and it needs constant support and love to bring it out.

I agree with what you say about there being good in every child and you are quite right that the child should have the love and support of both parents even if their parents are no longer together. Just because someone is a non resident parent it does not mean that they ended the relationship or that they walked away from their child. Most NRP's are actively involved in their children's lives and they love and support those children every bit as much as the other parent does. There are NRP's who let their children down and try to avoid their responsibilities and that is unforgivable, but some PWC's fail their children in various ways too. Those PWC who do everything possible to frustrate contact and to alienate the NRP are depriving their child of the love and support of the other parent. Being a step parent is a huge responsibility, it is not an easy role, the child already has parents and the step parent has to develop a close and supportive relationship with the child without interfering in parenting matters. Many step parents are doing an amazing job, but it is a difficult job and it is hardly surprising that some people make mistakes.

Often CSA causes greater animosity between parents and both of them end up feeling hard done by. Perhaps we all need to remember that the children involved are having to live with a situation that the adults created, it is not their fault. It should be the priority of the adults involved to put the child's needs first, of course that involves financial support but it involves so much more than that.

Mr_Green_Genes

rosie-lee wrote: »

Your partners responsibility to the child he created, started when he/she was born and will only end when they do.

Not financial responsibility. That's not reasonable. I certainly don't intend to support my 2 for the rest of their lives. They're both at university so I help out now but when they finish, I expect them to support themselves. Anything else is ridiculous. Obviously they're welcome to come back home but rent will be involved!