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To the OP - at least the flat won't be 'temporary housing' - it will be yours for as long as you want it.

I'm sure you'll soon make it ino a nice home.

specialK

Are you sure that they won't be able to help you more? Surely they mean under the homelessness route, they can't help further? You would still be placed on another list?

I would make it look 10 times harder than it actually is with your pram at the viewing.

Good luck!

LittleTinker

neas wrote: »

Thats a bloody good point, re=reading post sounds cheeky... and she been in temp housing 9 years. How can you not use contraception... if you cant afford to have more childnre.. surely you'd know how costly kids were.

State of england these days .

I really dont think that you, of all people, should criticise.

As a matter of interest, how much DOES it cost to raise a child?

DaisyFlower

cindy100 wrote: »

this is my last refusal, they have offered me 2 flats both in the same place, both on the 4th floor with no lift, i'm going to see the other one tomorrow, lets hope the housing officer is strong and can carry my double buggy up the stairs lol. If i don't accept this then i am making myself homeless and they no longer have to house me.

Looks like you have no choice other than to take it then, you cant be choosy when it comes to social housing. 2 and 3 years olds can walk so you wont need a buggy for much longer anyway.

Your only other choice is to work and private rent a property to your choice and standard.

Surely if youhave both been in temp accomodation for 9 years, one of yuo would have finished your course and been able to work.

Amanda65

LittleTinker wrote: »

As a matter of interest, how much DOES it cost to raise a child?

Think of a number, quadruple it, then add a bit more :rotfl: .

I really don't want to 'OP bash' but do know that my OH and I have worked very very hard to keep a roof over our heads and bring our children up. As OH works in manufacturing we have had several periods of redundancy in the past 20 years due to not having a manufacturing industry in the UK any more (but that's another soapbox!). He would love to have gone back to college and re-trained but unfortunately we were not in the financial position for him to do so and he had to take whatever jobs came along.

Despite having a degree, he is now working on the same salary that he was on 6 years ago - a real struggle with 3 teenage children and ever increasing bills - but better than being homeless.

I think the point I am trying to make is that sometimes we do make our own choices in life and cannot always expect others to pick up the pieces. However the situation is as it is and the OP cannot go back and change previous decisions. Good on the OP and her OH for going to college and trying to improve their future but perhaps, if they ahd thought it through, a night school course and a day job may have been a better option :rolleyes:

Hope it all works out - a home is what you make it and once the front door is closed you could be anywhere.

cindy100

neas wrote: »

Thats a bloody good point, re=reading post sounds cheeky... and she been in temp housing 9 years. How can you not use contraception... if you cant afford to have more childnre.. surely you'd know how costly kids were.

State of england these days .

My partner did work while we were in temporary housing, then he lost his job and is on a jobseekers course to help him get a job, i am doing a part time computer course and will be starting work soon as well. Thanks so much for your contribution neas

pinkshoes

melancholly wrote: »

i am getting really really tired of the confrontational attitude to people in social housing.

And maybe some of us are tired of people using social housing as a human right, rather than be grateful for getting anything.

May I point out that originally, the benefit system was a temporary measure to help those who were going through a "blip" in life, and it was there to temporarily support them until they got back on their feet and support themselves again.

How many people would love to quit their job and go back to study, but can't because they have to keep a roof over their children(s) head(s)?

How many people would love to have children but are currently working their ar*ses off to be able to afford it?

And here we have someone who's had THREE children, despite neither of them working, and here they are complaining that they don't want to live in the 4th floor in a grotty area.

We're not confronting those who live in social housing, we're confronting those who are lucky enough to have been given social housing, who instead of being grateful, are moaning!

cindy100

pinkshoes wrote: »

And maybe some of us are tired of people using social housing as a human right, rather than be grateful for getting anything.

May I point out that originally, the benefit system was a temporary measure to help those who were going through a "blip" in life, and it was there to temporarily support them until they got back on their feet and support themselves again.

How many people would love to quit their job and go back to study, but can't because they have to keep a roof over their children(s) head(s)?

How many people would love to have children but are currently working their ar*ses off to be able to afford it?

And here we have someone who's had THREE children, despite neither of them working, and here they are complaining that they don't want to live in the 4th floor in a grotty area.

We're not confronting those who live in social housing, we're confronting those who are lucky enough to have been given social housing, who instead of being grateful, are moaning!

Nobody quit their job, my partner lost his job and is trying to gain more experiance so he can find a job that will last and not a temp thing. so we can buy our own house and come off benefits.

bestpud

I don't think you can do a lot but accept this place.

It probably won't be as bad as you think - there are bound to be pther tenants who don't want to be there either and you will hopefully find at least one neighbour who is friendly!

Once you are in, you can register for HomeSwapper as they arrange swaps across the country. Also, your own council will have a swaps list. It may take a while, particularly if it is an undesirable area, but you may be able to swap out. Sometimes, people are more concerned with being by family/friends than the area anyway so are happy to move into areas some would consider awful.

As a last resort, once you are working, you will still have the option of private renting again.

I can see why you are upset, but I guess I'm trying to show you the options still open to you as it's easy to feel there is no hope at times like this.

Good luck.

melancholly

pinkshoes wrote: »

And maybe some of us are tired of people using social housing as a human right, rather than be grateful for getting anything.

May I point out that originally, the benefit system was a temporary measure to help those who were going through a "blip" in life, and it was there to temporarily support them until they got back on their feet and support themselves again.

How many people would love to quit their job and go back to study, but can't because they have to keep a roof over their children(s) head(s)?

How many people would love to have children but are currently working their ar*ses off to be able to afford it?

And here we have someone who's had THREE children, despite neither of them working, and here they are complaining that they don't want to live in the 4th floor in a grotty area.

We're not confronting those who live in social housing, we're confronting those who are lucky enough to have been given social housing, who instead of being grateful, are moaning!

all i was saying was that the post from neas was pretty rude - i completely accept your point and have posted on the other infamous thread on the housing board about the issue of council housing 'entitlement' essentially agreeing with you in principle. i think that it can just be dealt with in a much more polite manner than that post from neas! i don't think any of your posts (prior to the quoted one ) were anything other than fair. i'm not defending social housing in general (although i think it is something very important that this country should be proud to have, along with the NHS and other benefits), i just don't see why certain people feel the need to make their points in the way that they do - it's getting to the stage where the way the posts are phrased undermines them as they come across as cheap insults - and MSE is no place for a slanging match.