Happy Mother's Day - yeah right!!!!!

cazac71

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

Ah, poor lad. He's a forgetful 15 year old. It's not the end of the world that a 15 year old boy forgot mother's day. You're the mum. Go to the rugby, tell him you love him and forget the meaningless card.

Exactly! Ignoring him IS childish, it wont help. YOU are the MUM!
Dont take it so personally.

melancholly

i bet in 3/5 years time, when he's passed the teenage grunting phase, he'll pay more attention and feel bad for being a bit of a brat right now. i'm not sure what age i was when i realised that parents were people too, and that they had feelings (!)..... that it wasn't ok to just lash out at them because they were there and that i should say thank you for things that they did. we never really did fathers day or mothers day when i was growing up, but now i make the effort to do something for it (even if my mum hadn't remembered what day it was and hadn't noticed the big envelope that arrived earlier in the week!!! but she really appreciated when i nagged her to open it on the phone!)

sticher

I'd much rather my boys appreciate me all year round rather than do something because I expect it once a year.

I definitely agree with this, but in my house also, this is not the case. I got a card my youngest made in school and one he made yesterday (with my help). He also wished my 'Happy Mother's Day' when he got up.

From the older two I got exactly what I got for my birthday - nothing - not even a hug. I was very upset really.

It does hurt to feel unappreciated and I told them this, but as I also told them this on my birthday, it seems to make no difference. On my birthday my eldest said that my Christmas presents were meant to count for my birthday as well (birthday 13 Jan!) - I said I wondered how he would feel if I did the same to him.

Its not about material things, but about how it makes you feel. This is my second Mother's day without my Mum, and I think as she used to help them get a card/small gift, I probably notice it all the more.

geekgirl

Ive brought my 3 up to not get involved in all the hype of these mother/father/grandparents/valentines days.
My daughter still always makes me a card and gets me something little which is really nice but I wouldn't expect it.

We enjoy Christmas cos its good fun and I celebrate my kids birthdays because I think the birth of my babies is something to celebrate. Other than that we don't 'do' the other days in our family.

I would be pee'd off tho with any of my kids if I asked them to empty the dishwasher and they didn't no matter what day it was.

LouBlue

sticher wrote: »

From the older two I got exactly what I got for my birthday - nothing - not even a hug. I was very upset really.

It does hurt to feel unappreciated and I told them this, but as I also told them this on my birthday, it seems to make no difference. On my birthday my eldest said that my Christmas presents were meant to count for my birthday as well (birthday 13 Jan!) - I said I wondered how he would feel if I did the same to him.

Its not about material things, but about how it makes you feel. This is my second Mother's day without my Mum, and I think as she used to help them get a card/small gift, I probably notice it all the more.

You poor thing. Ungrateful little sods. Sorry if that sounds harsh to people, but thats how I feel. I hope things change as they get older. Hugs to you. xx

Carmina_Piranha_3

my brother made me laugh. i spoke to him at work and reminded him that it's our mum's birthday AND mothers day at the weekend. he was astonished and had no idea that it was mothers day, and will have to 'try to find something'. where does he work? TESCO :T:rotfl: he hadn't noticed any of the signs or merchandise aisles, bless him.

Kaz2904

It really is a bloke thing isn't it?!
DH forgot to get me a birthday card last year and DD (then 5) said don't worry I know where Mummy keeps the cards. So she duly got one out and wrote it and was so pleased with herself when she was showing it to me that I didn't read the shops inscription. I was having to admire the ladies beautiful dress and the fact that DD had written hers and her brothers name.
My SiL nearly did herself damage later that day when she had to admire the "Congratulations on your wedding day card!"

For mine and SiL's 2nd Mothers day we all went out for a picnic as the weather was lovely. However we did all the work as well as MiL having to do hers too. I had said something in the week about it being Mothers day and said could he get me some pants or something daft and he made the comment "You're not my Mother though"
So there we are at our picnic and MiL whips out a box of choccies each with a card for me and SiL and said it was because she knew her sons would never think of doing it. They were mortified and each year since have got together to cook dinner for all of us!

TurnaroundSue

G-G wrote: »

Can I finish the foot rub now? My hands are sore mummy and I havn't had my dinner..

haha

Sorry G-G - it was such a lovely foot rub that I fell asleep and have only just woken up. You truly are a wonderful child :A and I thank you for being there for me on Mother's Day!!! Ummmm,lovely!

PS Hope your hands are not too sore today!!

poppyscorner

I can understand why you feel upset by it.

I have two boys though they are not at the teenage stage they are 5 and 1 I got the commercial cards courtesy of hubby I also got a someone special card from my stepdaughter (8) the best thing I got was from DS1 who had made a card with a daffodil(my favourite flower) on the front and wrote to mum love joe inside all by himself he then presented me with a homemade box which he had coloured in himself with a bow on top when I opened it it had pink tissue inside and 5 celebrations chocolates.

Now obviously he made these at school but when I picked him up on friday he had this carrier bag he wouldn't let me see inside he took it straight to his bedroom and hid it but produced it yesterday morning and showered me with kisses and cuddles bless him x

I am dreading the teenage years with the boys because moments like yesterday morning were lovely and I think in OP's shoes I would be gutted
OP hope you are feeling better today xx