Happy Mother's Day - yeah right!!!!!

LilMissEmmylou

if it makes u feel better - i offered OH £5 on wednesday to buy a wee card and photo frame for me from DD age 1! apparently its not his job as im not his mother!!! im gutted, basically he expects me to buy my own card and gift or his age 1 daughter, and as for me not being his mother, thats odd as he bloody treats me like one when he wants his washing done and when i have to nag him to get up if we r going out!

i might not want lots of money spent on me, but i think that its nice to have a day once a yr where people are prompted to just remind u of how much they appreciate and care for u.

Gingham_Ribbon

Addiscomber wrote: »

You may feel differently if you were the mother of teenage, or older boys. It does hurt to be taken for granted, especially today of all days, and as the others have said it has absolutely nothing to do with money being spent on anything. A hug comes free, but would mean the world.

I agree that feeling unappreciated hurts. And I understand that there is a catalyst that usually makes someone feel like they've had enough of it and need a rant. So I do understand that mothers day could be that catalyst.

I can honestly say that I will NEVER care whether or not my boys remember mothers day. Or my birthday for that matter. I don't care whether my husband remembers mothers day/valentines/birthdays/anniversaries etc. so I can't see me caring about the boys doing it. But I do feel appreciated and if that were to change I would be hurt and upset.

elona

My two DDs who are at home cooked a meal for us and my two other DDs both phoned to wish me Happy Mothers Day and have a natter.

I would not want a meal out or flowers etc today as it is so expensive and commercial but did appreciate the cup of tea and the hug!

It is not about money or gifts - it is the thought that counts which is why the OP was so upset her son had taken a card from her stuff rather then buy or make her one.

consultant31

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I can honestly say that I will NEVER care whether or not my boys remember mothers day. Or my birthday for that matter. I don't care whether my husband remembers mothers day/valentines/birthdays/anniversaries etc. so I can't see me caring about the boys doing it. But I do feel appreciated and if that were to change I would be hurt and upset.

I wonder if your children (or OH for that matter) would see it in the same light if you forgot their birthdays?

I have 3 children, all of whom have brought me a card and a small gift for which I am thankful and delighted. They don't have to spend much at all, it's just the fact that they've taken time out to make a point of letting me know how special our relationship is.

badmumof1

tough one as i know how you feel
my ds aged 12 has a card bought by my mum when she met him from school one day last week, anyhow this card is yet to make any kind of appearance and is sat upstairs in its wrapper in his wardrobe.
DH doesnt care much either but would moan like hell if it was fathers day

G-G_4

I will wash them..

It will be like Jesus and the disciples.. lol

hehe

belfastgirl23

Just wanted to add in that you shouldn't take this personally. It seems to be a thing about teenage boys that they think mum is at best white noise and ...well we all know the worst versions Just think when he is older and has kids of his own you'll be able to get your own back on him and I bet he'll be truly ashamed of himself. You probably only have another couple of these types of mothers day to go...

And in the meantime treat yourself instead. Have a nice bath or buy some chocolates, put your feet up and let the world slide away...

nearlyrich

I got a card from my two, DS is away for the weekend and DD has gone out to tea with her BF and his family as it's his gran's birthday. DD rang me to say they were in the florists and were going to get me some flowers but would I prefer to wait for a couple of weeks as I have some very nice flowers still going strong from a couple of weeks ago and I don't have a lot of surface to put another vase.

I bought my mum a card and a little gift, we usually all go out for a meal or everyone comes here for tea but it's a bit cold for mum to go out and she isn't keen on busy restaurants these days. We will all have a get together in a few weeks when the weather is better.

I feel for the OP with her thoughtless teenager but there are a lot worse things he could be doing than ignoring mother's day. Enjoy G-G's virtual ministrations and have a nice day.

bestpud

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I can honestly say that I will NEVER care whether or not my boys remember mothers day. Or my birthday for that matter. I don't care whether my husband remembers mothers day/valentines/birthdays/anniversaries etc. so I can't see me caring about the boys doing it. But I do feel appreciated and if that were to change I would be hurt and upset.

How old are your boys GR?

I only ask because I didnt worry about the lack of 'official recognition' when my teens were small (my OH just doesn't do these things!) but it feels more 'personal' now they are of their own minds if that makes sense?

Plus we tend to get much more in the way of cuddles and adoring looks when they are little. When they are teens, we tend to get a grunt, if we are lucky, many days and so these occassions become more significant somehow.

I guess it's because we feel the same about them and put as much effort and love into everything we do for them as we did when they were little, but they look like they couldn't give a damn half the time!

I may be wrong of course. There is a nine year gap between my second and third children so the differences seem all the clearer to me!

ice_fairy

some people will never get to be mothers
you should count your blessings.