Happy Mother's Day - yeah right!!!!!

Gingham_Ribbon

I don't mean to harp on here, and obviously every family is different, but this day surely isn't about forcing children to give their mothers a card/say something fairly meaningless like 'happy mothers day' or buy them something. Is it? If it is then I think it's pretty meaningless. I'd much rather my boys appreciate me all year round rather than do something because I expect it once a year.

NAR

TurnaroundSue wrote: »

Told him that I wasn't going to watch him play rugby and have now decided that I am going to ignore him for the rest of the day.

Hope you stick to your guns and enjoy your new "son" pampering you with tea!
Don't forget to point DS in the direction of the washing machine when he returns from rugby and make him wash his own kit - maybe then he might realise that he has hurt you.

TurnaroundSue

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I don't mean to harp on here, and obviously every family is different, but this day surely isn't about forcing children to give their mothers a card/say something fairly meaningless like 'happy mothers day' or buy them something. Is it? If it is then I think it's pretty meaningless. I'd much rather my boys appreciate me all year round rather than do something because I expect it once a year.

Maybe that's why it has hurt me so much - he doesn't show any appreciation at any time of the year!! I think you might have missed my point (or maybe I didn't explain myself well enough) but it's not about him spending his money, buying me a present, and saying meaningless things, it's about feeling appreciated for all that I do and if he doesn't do it on MD (and I thought that's what the purpose of Mother's Day/Mothering Sunday was all about) then he won't at any time of the year.

You are lucky that you realise your boys appreciate you ...... I wish I felt the same!!

Nice cup of tea by the way, G-G - umm lovely!

bestpud

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I don't mean to harp on here, and obviously every family is different, but this day surely isn't about forcing children to give their mothers a card/say something fairly meaningless like 'happy mothers day' or buy them something. Is it? If it is then I think it's pretty meaningless. I'd much rather my boys appreciate me all year round rather than do something because I expect it once a year.

Yes, there is that interpretation, I agree.

But for many of us, it does matter. We all hope they appreciate us all year round but that said, being a mum is hard work, even if we wouldn't swap it for the world . It's not about asking for some false and meaningless message, but a way for them to stop and think of someone else for a moment, and when they are teens it is particualrly relevent I think.

I don't want my children to go out and buy gifts, the_tired_one, and I don't think the OP wants that either.

It is just about them stopping their usual routine for one day and thinking about those who work in the background to make their lives runs smoothly every day of every year. It really isn't a lot to ask!

TurnaroundSue

bestpud wrote: »

Yes, there is that interpretation, I agree.

But for many of us, it does matter. We all hope they appreciate us all year round but that said, being a mum is hard work, even if we wouldn't swap it for the world . It's not about asking for some false and meaningless message, but a way for them to stop and think of someone else for a moment, and when they are teens it is particualrly relevent I think.

I don't want my children to go out and buy gifts, the_tired_one, and I don't think the OP wants that either. No I don't!

It is just about them stopping their usual routine for one day and thinking about those who work in the background to make their lives runs smoothly every day of every year. It really isn't a lot to ask!

Thanks bestpud - you put across exactly what I was trying to say :T

G-G_4

No problem

Want a foot massage now?

TurnaroundSue

G-G wrote: »

No problem

Want a foot massage now?

Now that WOULD be lovely ........ thanks, I'll just pop off and give them a quick wash :rotfl:

julesangles

i am not a fan of mothers day/ valetines day/grandparents day. or any other day when i feel i am being ripped off and over charged for a bit of card and a bunch of flowers.
i have two kids of my own, they have made cards and thats all i want they know full well not to waste money in the card shops.
i got my own mother a writing set(in sale very cheep) but the best present was free as i managed to get hold of a picture she didnt have of her beloved dad.
her words were thats going to stay with me for the rest of my life not just a few days.
IMO you are the adult go to the rugby match shout at the ref, kiss him in front of all his mates and dont forget to tell him no matter what a pain he may be you will always love him.

Addiscomber

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

Ah, poor lad. He's a forgetful 15 year old. It's not the end of the world that a 15 year old boy forgot mother's day. You're the mum. Go to the rugby, tell him you love him and forget the meaningless card.

You may feel differently if you were the mother of teenage, or older boys. It does hurt to be taken for granted, especially today of all days, and as the others have said it has absolutely nothing to do with money being spent on anything. A hug comes free, but would mean the world.

LouBlue

TurnaroundSue wrote: »

Maybe that's why it has hurt me so much - he doesn't show any appreciation at any time of the year!! I think you might have missed my point (or maybe I didn't explain myself well enough) but it's not about him spending his money, buying me a present, and saying meaningless things, it's about feeling appreciated for all that I do and if he doesn't do it on MD (and I thought that's what the purpose of Mother's Day/Mothering Sunday was all about) then he won't at any time of the year.

You are lucky that you realise your boys appreciate you ...... I wish I felt the same!!

You poor thing. I do think that Mothers Day is a lot like Valentines Day, over-commercialised, makes people feel guilty if they don't go overboard, I think you should appreciate your loved ones all year round. But as you say, he doesn't seem to appreciate you at anytime. And I don't think just because he is a teenage boy, bad manners should be accepted.

I lost my mum last year and would give anything to have her around, and I made sure she knew she was loved all the time, not just on birthdays or Mothers Day. I truly hope your son, as he gets older, realises how lucky he is to have a wonderful mum like yourself. xx