The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

shopaholictiedtheknot

Don't be silly WB, you are travelling your own road and I don't expect you to quit completely just because I am (trying) to!!

Funnily enough I find it is a help to hear about others failing as much as it is to hear about successes, it just comforts me to know that others are human and that we all have our ups and downs!

You take care and hope to chat to you soon (maybe over weekend for support?

((hugs))

frugallass

Hi guys

just popping in to say I hope you all have a lovely weekend

I've had a pretty good week, not totally alcohol free but still no wine, am going out tonight but will be drinking 2 halves of lager and orange juice after that.

Take care and be strong x

beachbeth

Very good advice, Eselt and Bis!:T So sensible! Im so glad I found this thread months ago because, although I haven't given up alcohol completely, I have really cut down and drink half as much as I used to. I was either on the red wine every night or a mix of vodka and malibu (or both!:o )and, if there was no red in the house, I would just go buy another bottle. I haven't counted but I must be saving a fortune too! (Although I have noticed that I seem to have more money in my account just recently!).

Now I go AF for at least 3 days a week and I don't open a bottle of red with my Sunday lunch any more. It just meant that I slept the afternoon away anyway which is a complete waste of a day if you ask me! In fact, Im staying away from wine altogether because it gives me diarrhoea!:o Im sticking to Malibu on my alcohol days and very little vodka - much better.

Well done Winebox, Shoppy and hello to Mollypolly and anyone else Ive not mentioned!:wave:

winebox

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

Don't be silly WB, you are travelling your own road and I don't expect you to quit completely just because I am (trying) to!!

You take care and hope to chat to you soon (maybe over weekend for support?

((hugs))

Thanks Shoppy; it wasn't so much that I feel I should quit cos u are, it was just that I thiought afterwards it shouldn't mean I don't try & help!! You seem set fair for the weekend (unlike the weather - no outside jobs I hope). Will try & be around weekend although am at OH's so not so easy - I'll be here Sunday lunchtime whilst he's at pub!

Jo where have you got to? :rotfl: at the Amazon link - great title!

Have dropped wine off at OH's so none here, then he said he might drop in for a glass later! "ah, slight problem....." so I had to bring a bottle back home with me just in case (his idea)!. Not quite as risky as it sounds - it's red which I love if the time is right but it somehow doesn't "call" to me like white does, & also a screw top so if he does drop in he can take it home after. It's still in the car boot right now. Gosh this evening will be hard will prob be back later.

4 sober evenings has made me realise what total carp is on TV every night ('cept for Tues Eastenders, Holby & Mutual Friends, bliss) so am going to go thro pile of free dvds from the papers which I keep but never watch to line one up for later.

Bismarck

eselt wrote: »

Bismarck wrote: »

very well said, eselt....yes I'm a bit boring in some people's eyes but that is no bad thing....my definition of boring was always going to the same place every night to have a drink because that's the done thing...stuff that.

Hey Bis, theres nothing more boring than a drunk...things I don't do anymore include:
sob into my pint over stupid things rather than deal with them (boring the pants of family and friends who have heard it all before)
argue with people and get aggressive
change moods at the drop of a hat
stagger about and fall over
repeat myself and forget things I've said
sit with a puffy blotchy face and glassy eyes
slur and talk rubbish
pick on people and upset them
embarrass my family and friends
feel upset and ashamed in the morning, usually when I check my purse, and noones speaking to me and I can't remember why
feel physically ill with a hangover
ignore the feelings of people who really love me in favour of superficial drinking buddies

How boring is all that?

Hope everyone is OK- have a good weekend all.

my favorite was having an inexplicable urge to find something I'd not seen for a while and go nuts when I couldn't find it....and of course it was somewhere really obvious and the thing itself was trivial....

back later...gotaa go...

winebox

Bismarck wrote: »

eselt wrote: »

my favorite was having an inexplicable urge to find something I'd not seen for a while and go nuts when I couldn't find it....and of course it was somewhere really obvious and the thing itself was trivial....

back later...gotaa go...

OMG have been there SO often - most common thing is The Odd Sock after emptying washing machine. I have taken fitted sheets & duvet covers back out of airing cupboard in case it's caught up in there etc etc - usually it's still under DD's bed, unwashed.

I am giving myself big pat on back! OH came round for his glass of red which I poured & put kettle on for a cuppa. ("I don't BELIEVE you don't fancy a drink at 5pm on a Friday!" but no more said). But then......knock on door, case of WHITE wine left on doorstep (belated b'day pressie) :eek: :eek: :eek: natch my what-passes-for-a-mind was racing (ooh, could chuck bottle in freezer & have drink with OH & am not breaking my rules!) but then thought, no, I want to have 5 days AF, cos I may well not do so again - I want the normality (sigh, am I deluded?) to be 3 or 4 AF days a week & also not to drink 2 13% bottles on each of the other 3/4 days. So, am feeling mighty pleased with myself. Also now feel in stronger position mentally to be sensible over the weekend as know I can resist - am still in slight shock at not giving in to what could be seen as fate!
Am now in safe mode for tonight having eaten, trouble is what the h*** do I do with all this white wine now hanging around, during next week? Am planning to bury it at back of shed tomorrow so it will be huge effort to retrieve a bottle (picture the scene - knock on door, "just popped round for a quick drink" "hang on I'll get a bottle" 10 minutes later "why are you covered in cobwebs? can't you have a wine rack like everyone else?")
hope all rest of you OK tonight x

eselt

Am now in safe mode for tonight having eaten, trouble is what the h*** do I do with all this white wine now hanging around, during next week? Am planning to bury it at back of shed tomorrow so it will be huge effort to retrieve a bottle (picture the scene - knock on door, "just popped round for a quick drink" "hang on I'll get a bottle" 10 minutes later "why are you covered in cobwebs? can't you have a wine rack like everyone else?")
hope all rest of you OK tonight x[/quote]


Hi Winebox- stirling effort of willpower here- well done:T :T :T

What to do with the 'come and drink me you know you want to' case of wine? I'd get my best christmas wrapping paper out and wrap them all up with double cellotape and put lovely gift tags on and write them out to my drinking friends (who'd appreciate a nice bottle of wine) and put them in wine gift bags and pat myself on the back that I'd got 12 presents for christmas sorted for next to no cost. Then (because you know they will be singing to you from wherever you store them) take them round in a box to a trusted persons house and leave them there ready to dish out in december. In short get rid of the case, before you become a case!

Just an idea!!!!!

jo1972

I'm still here :wave: just caught up after watching BB (what a fix!!!! :mad:) and now gotta go to bed as I've got to be up early in the morning, car playing up so need it in the garage by 9am :eek: still least I'll be un-hung-over'ed so getting up won't be 'much' of a problem

:wave: speak to you all tomorrow xx

Different_Corner

Guilty by my absense.
Not going to try and justify anything, safe to say no AF days at all.
Trying to get a grip on things, sometimes life just sucks.
Still today is a new day.

beachbeth

eselt wrote: »

What to do with the 'come and drink me you know you want to' case of wine? I'd get my best christmas wrapping paper out and wrap them all up with double cellotape and put lovely gift tags on and write them out to my drinking friends (who'd appreciate a nice bottle of wine) and put them in wine gift bags and pat myself on the back that I'd got 12 presents for christmas sorted for next to no cost. Then (because you know they will be singing to you from wherever you store them) take them round in a box to a trusted persons house and leave them there ready to dish out in december. In short get rid of the case, before you become a case!

Just an idea!!!!!

What a brilliant idea! Moneysaving too! Ive got a bottle of lambrusco in the fridge left over from my daughter's 21st. I may get it out and wrap it up for someone. Ive also got 2 bottles of asti spumante which I may just forget Ive got and save them for Christmas (we always have asti on Christmas morning whilst getting the dinner).

Thanks for the idea!:T