The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

shopaholictiedtheknot

Morning all, I am feeling a bit fragile today and wondering yet again what the point of it all is!! Had a great day with my sis though and didn't actually get drunk, I kept to my promise and drank a glass of water to every wine and definitely feel better than I would normally after 7 hours of drinking :eek: Anyway, I am having a vegging out day with OH today, DD is going to laserquest with a friend so will have a nice peaceful afternoon.

Winebox count me in on the diet, I will start on 1st Sept when I am back at work - roll on a sober and slim Christmas:T

polaroid

Hey guys, just read the other posts. what a support you all are. last night was really really hard, but i really didnt want to come on here today and say that i gave in to the dreaded d.r.i.n.k. so i think that kept me going. this is the first thread i have ever really joined in and its because you are all sohonest and non-judgemental.:A i too have used every excuse under the sun to stop drinking, but when i read posts from people such as jo and bismarck, i think if they can do, then why the hell cant I. its really really helped me. last night was so hard, but going to the solicitors this morning with a clear head made me realise so much. i drink to numb and put things off, but it doesnt it just makes them worse. plus i've lost 3lb's!! whoo whoo -!!! keep going guys and keep posting xxxxxxx

jo1972

polaroid wrote: »

when i read posts from people such as jo and bismarck, i think if they can do, then why the hell cant I.

Polaroid, you've gotta really really want it and I mean really rather than think you do but still open to complacency....I'm not putting anyone down cos I have only really really wanted it twice in 15 years!! I've always wanted to be sober, but never put my all in to it cos I always had the excuses or the justification for 'just one drink'. I boogered it up the last time and am sure as s*** not gonna this time

Good luck, your time will come I promise, you just gotta be ready

xx

Bismarck

eselt wrote: »

Thank you so much Bis- you are a star you know, I don't know what we'd all do without you!!!! I must admit over the years I've grabbed at all the support and help I've been offered just desperate to try and crawl out of the hole I was in, but this thread has made all the difference and kept me on the straight and narrow- I think its because people on here don't judge or disapprove, they just offer support and encouragement and don't give up on people, which makes me more motivated to stay sober.

Hope everyone is OK- thanks eselt

I've been called many things in my time!! :embarasse

Bismarck

winebox wrote: »

why I drank it all rather than pouring it / giving it away....

the number of times I drank everything when I was on a roll with the intention to "start tomorrow" is beyond count.

I'd be fine until the next teatime....and the cycle would start again...only because you were "clearing" the house, you would drink more than ever...

Bismarck

polaroid wrote: »

Hey guys, just read the other posts. what a support you all are. last night was really really hard, but i really didnt want to come on here today and say that i gave in to the dreaded d.r.i.n.k. so i think that kept me going. this is the first thread i have ever really joined in and its because you are all sohonest and non-judgemental.:A i too have used every excuse under the sun to stop drinking, but when i read posts from people such as jo and bismarck, i think if they can do, then why the hell cant I. its really really helped me. last night was so hard, but going to the solicitors this morning with a clear head made me realise so much. i drink to numb and put things off, but it doesnt it just makes them worse. plus i've lost 3lb's!! whoo whoo -!!! keep going guys and keep posting xxxxxxx

As Jo has said...you've just got to want it enough - you've got to win yourself over as it's you that is the one that pours the drinks down your neck....anything else would be assault.

To revisit an old cliche from Fame- "Fame costs and right here is where you start paying!"

substitute sobriety for fame and you get the picture!

frugallass

been lurking on this thread for a little while and thought I would say hi !

After getting horrendously drunk last Wednesday (on white wine) and puking my guts up at work on Thursday, I have vowed never to drink the stuff to the excess that I did last week, in fact all I have drunk since then is 2 bottles and a can of lager ! I am 40 next year and have come to the conclusion that I don't want to rely on booze to have a good time or to feel relaxed.

My problem is that I am now snacking on an evening (something which I didn't really do before) - I'm going to try and sit with a pint of juice every night and I'm trying my best to eat fruit instead of snacks.

Thanks for listening

shopaholictiedtheknot

Hi and welcome frugallass, I am 40 next year too :eek: don't feel it in the slightest though! I too am determined that I will not still be drinking to excess by then! This thread is very inspiring and full of great people!:D

elantan

hubby and i were away to bath through the week we went to a pub in the camp site we were staying at ...at the table next to us was a woman totally out of her face going on about how her husband was a useless etc etc and how he drank all the time and had a drink problem how he abused her and their kids (whilst she totally ignored hers that night) but the thing that stuck in my head the most was when i heard one of the others saying "ooo i fancy another pint but i'm driving tomorrow so wont risk it to which she replied "oh this stuff isnt strong i have had a good few to drink tonight and i am as sober as a judge" and i remember thinking i used to say that boy was i that out of it when i did ...i wasnt trying to judge her i didnt know her i was just more looking in at myself and realising i too was like that i didnt realise i was like that but i was ....

winebox

Hi all,
Have got thro today alright; I'm an early bird (ie start on the wine very early if I'm gonna!) so it's too late to start now. Haven't got any, anyway. Actually the house is not alch free I forgot the cans of cider but as I can't stand the stuff - they're there for OH - that's OK.
Obviously am still rather, er, tired after yesterday but otherwise OK.
Bis I know exactly what you mean re the cycle starting again the next day, bin there done that pop-to-the-shop on the way home from work etc but today is early closing at the village shop & the next place is an extra 8 miles on top of the 7 from work so I couldn't be that stupid...(actually, I could, have done before, but not today).
Thanks for the pick-me-up & the advice Jo, I have been busy sorting out stuff for charity shops or to try & sell which has been piling up for weeks, & have ironed about 50 things (erm, 4 weeks worth?!). Must admit did not do the treats thing, partly cos of the above re shop shut but also to me treat = chox & one of the "big 3" reasons for cutting right back on the booze is to lose weight so I really don't want to substitute other calories (it's only just occurred to me I automatically think of food / drink, one track mind!)

I have a dilemma - DD has just been invited to a sleepover party tomorrow so am on my own from 4.30 till midday Sat. My immediate reaction was to ring OH & go to his but then I will have a drink & even if I'm careful (& after last Sunday I will REALLY be watching what I have this weekend) I really wanted 2 AFDs before the weekend, as will have 2 nights at his as per. So I think i should say nothing & stay here. I feel bad though, despite last week he would be hurt to think I chose to be on my own rather than with him & also of course I want to go cos we have so little time on our own.
At the moment I think I will be sensible & stay at home, & if DD lets slip she was away I'll tell a white lie & say I wasn't feeling well or something.
Feel guilty though.

How's everyone this evening?

Hi frugallass - I've eaten so much fruit today I am choc-full (ouch) of antioxidants.

My body must be very confused, from the ridiculous to the sublime.