The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

shopaholictiedtheknot

he is out cutting the grass, I went on aa website before coming on here to see if there is a meeting today and he caught me looking - didnt say a word though, I think he prob just thinks here we go again!

jo1972

Did you read the row I had with my OH a month or so ago when he said I was an alcoholic, then when I'd stopped for 17 days and decided that I was going to have a couple of drinks and he made me feel so small with what he said....I thought about what he'd said and the situtation and decided that if it was the other way round then I probably would've said the same thing to him. A lot of the time having our justification of our drinking questioned it makes us very irrational and aggressive!

Do you remember what the original argument was about and had he been drinking as well?

((((Shoppy)))) you'll both get through this arguement, I think it's probably a case of hurt feelings

shopaholictiedtheknot

Yes I did read what happened, sounds about the same eh? He hadn't been drinking so that is why I feel worse, I must have looked a right state, god why do I keep doing this? I really think that I have a huge problem, that is half the problem really though, he doesnt think I need help he just thinks it is as easy as just stopping but I know how I feel and I know that i crave it so badly when i dont have it!

excuse the lack of punctuation today I cant be arsed!!

Sorry for being so miserable I just dont know what to do:o

jo1972

Listen Shoppy,

We all know how you feel as we wouldn't be posting on here if it was easy to stop! My OH also thinks it's a case of just 'not buying it'! Obviously we know a bit differently and even though I say to him, look how about I say to you to stop smoking, I'm sure it wouldn't as easy as just not buying them, I've given up them as well in the past and know how hard it is!

Look back to all your progress, 19 days in phase 1 and 2, 32 days in phase 3, in all you've saved almost 300 quid! It can be done, it's not easy and you've got to want it and commit to it, I found that out last night....I'm not making any promises for the future, just taking it as it comes cos that's enough to deal with a the time.

List down all the things that you hate yourself for last night and all the positive things that happened. I was always told though counselling that there is nothing positive about alcohol, but this time I was told, you know what, you must've drunk for a reason (even if it's a negative one) and it must be doing the trick otherwise you wouldn't put yourself constantly through it!

This reminds me of this morning, OH went out last night and got completely trollied, he looked a right state this morning and is still in bed and doubt I'll see him till teatime, but anyway, I was thinking, he felt sick and had the runs, he looked like death, a little like food poisoning....why would we give ourselves the equivalent of food poisoning everyday

shopaholictiedtheknot

OH has just come back in, I have to go, I will try and get back on later, thanks for listening Jo, I am going to have to think how I am going to sort myself out once and for all!

shopaholictiedtheknot

Thanks Jo, it does help to know that someone understands, I feel so horrible, like the worst person in the world, I am off to do some housework andtry and redeem myself, thanks again ((hugs))

jo1972

You live near me don't you? If you ever wanna meet up let me know xx

jo1972

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

Thanks Jo, it does help to know that someone understands, I feel so horrible, like the worst person in the world, I am off to do some housework andtry and redeem myself, thanks again ((hugs))

You are not the worst person in the world, you have an illness that's not your fault and you will sort yourself out, just need to notch up a couple of days again to give yourself some pride and then the need to keep it up will come along

xx

beachbeth

We've all said and done things when we've had a drink that we wish we hadn't, Shoppy. Don't be too hard on yourself. I think we all wonder why we drink when we know it causes so much trouble. Try to make up with OH and tell him it was the drink talking and not you. (((hugs)))

polaroid

Hi guys, I have just read through the thread and want to thank everyone on here for been so brave and honest. its funny how alcohol can make you think you will feel better about yourself but then so ashamed afterwards.

throughout this last year of hell i have been drinking a lot on my own and it has gradually crept up. it was getting to the point of a bottle of wine three nights a week and more on a wkend. i thought that i had it under control, i didnt drink during the day, i drank nice expensive (£5/7) wine, i always put my glass in the dishwasher before i went to bed...
but deep down i knew that i was relying on it more and more, whenever anything bad happened i was reaching straight for the bottle. then last saturday something awful happened, i had planned to go out (which is rare) and i drank a bottle and a half of rose on my own as i got ready, i jusified it by been nervous, i hadnt eaten all day and by the time we got to the restaurant, i was drunk. it was a nice restaurant, and i was all dressed up and there was people there i knew. i cant remember a thing about the meal. after the meal. getting home. nothing at all. i woke up covered in bruises. completely hulmiliated. i went to the doctors on monday morning and told her i had a problem. she asked me how much i drank and said that it was within the guidelines, that i didnt have a problem, prescribed me anti-depressents and told me to try eating properly and having a hot bath...
thing is, i KNOW i have a problem. i went home and moved all alcohol into my garage. last night i went out for a meal and i had a glass of wine with my meal. i really enjoyed it and savoured it. it hasnt made me want more though. so now i am a bit confused......i am definately not going to drink at home anymore..but is this enough..i dont honestly know.... i do know that i will be a regular on here now i have found it. thanks again - massive hug to everyone - sorry for the long post xx